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I have developed very strong feelings for my best friend. We cuddle sometimes and spend hours alone together (we literally spoke for 12hrs straight for one weekend). We also live next door.

I told her about my feelings a few months ago. She said she wants to graduate before getting into another relationship. I am willing to wait, however she wants me to get over her because she doesn't want me waiting nor knows if she'll reciprocate feelings when she's ready. There are several other issues too. First, she's living with her ex and he tries to poison her mind against me. She really wants her next relationship to be her last; so she wants to put a lot of effort into learning about her next partner before committing. Discussions with her ex has caused her to focus on how my pitfalls may make me a poor husband (this mostly consists of ways we are incompatible). One example is I find it difficult to be blunt so I tend to spin the truth into what I see as more digestible chunks. She on the other hand loves brutal honesty because it's essential for blind trust, something she had with her ex.

Now she has come up with a set of reasons why she thinks she won't want to date in the future. She's told me these reasons and wants me to move on.

Also, I don't want to move on because I think she's the one and her ex is just a barrier right now. I've also just came out of a 7 year relationship 9 months ago and I'm only 22. So I have no emotional independence so I'm thinking I need to remain single for at least a year anyway. So my thinking is if I retain feelings for her, someone who does not reciprocate but provides subtle emotional support, I can slowly develop emotional independence instead of falling into another relationship and getting stuck as someone who's emotionally dependant.

So what should I do? Should I try and get over her? My attempts have just made me very sad so I'm not trying too hard right now.

Here is what my mum said " Ok so here are the rules. You are a 16 year old boy. Not a grown up. You live in my house. Not your house. So you will live by my rules. Not yours.
Your rent is £40 per week. You shall be home by 10.30 every single night unless prior arranged that You can stay out. Staying out is also something you must ask to do.
You will be here from 5.30 to 7.30 pm Monday to Friday to look after your sister. Fully professional childminders get paid £4 an hour if they are over 30. So your payment will be £2 an hour as you are not qualified and are half the age. You will do this over the 5 days and this will pay £20 towards your rent. You shall also have your sister all day Saturday which is 9 hours at £2 per hour. This is £18 per week. This just covers your bike insurance. You will go to work for Dave for £40 take home a day Monday and Tuesday. This is your money to cover running / fixing costs of your bike, and your travel too and from collage. Work does not have inset days. Work does not have half term. You shall be present and ready and waiting every single Monday and Tuesday at 6.30am on the dot. You will also do all your own washing and washing up, and keep your side of the bedroom clean. You are renting it from me, it does not belong to you, therefore you must look after it.
If you do not wish to live by these rules then please come to the house during the day today, and remove all of your belongings, lock the door, and post your key through the letter box. This will not mean we have fallen out, I will still love you as you are my son, it will just mean you have decided to spread your wings and move on.
If you decide that you can in fact live by the rules of the house, then you shall be here at 5.30pm sharp for your shift to start." If you decide to go, there will be no coming back, I shall change the room around and get rid of Jamie's bed and he can have yours, so you see it will be impossible for you to return, so I would think long and hard"