I met my ex on a dating app as well. After we committed in relationship, I never asked if he had deleted his acct etc. Couple months later, he told me the app is notifying him new matches such that he knew his acct was still active and he deactivated it. Seems nice, aha?
One month or so later, when we were on the street using his phone to look for restaurant, I had a peak at his phone, shit, the app is still there. I was mad an coward, I didn't confront him why he still kept it. I knew he wasn't sure about our relationship, it was new. But it still hurt.
I don't know if he kept the app on this phone throughout our relationship, but I am almost sure he did. I hate myself I didn't confront him, because I can either get a fight and leave right away, or he would make a clear cut.
I am sure the app thing contributed to our break up. So, have a serious talk in a gentle tone.
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Well.. idunno. I get how the trust could be broken but... I mean, this isn't necessarily 'bad' on his part.
My boyfriend and I have always joked about Tinder too. In our first few months/year together, I got the app to see what all the hype was about too. I chatted to a few guys, got a few invites to meet up as well. I never followed up on any of those, though. I was chatting out of curiosity and.. yeah. My boyfriend wasn't overjoyed with it but I deleted the app soon enough and never looked back.
Eh on one hand I abhor people snooping, it’s invasive and wrong but that aside for a second - no. Not ok. If he’s bored there is an entire marketplace to help alleviate it, not chatting up other women. If the conversation was recent - in the last two months or so then I’d seriously consider ending the relationship. If he needs trawling to help keep him entertained he can do it single
How devoted can he be with an active tinder, getting girls' numbers? It sounds like he got caught early, but who knows what would happen if you hadn't noticed his tinder account?
I say dump him.
Think about what would have happened if you hadn't caught him. I agree with Noollab. You should dump him. That way you save yourself some hurt.
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A few months ago I tried using tinder. I was looking for something serious, and so I stated that clearly in my bio. No hook ups. Ended up dating a guy that I’ve met on there for 2 months before discovering he had been cheating on me since day one. Despite being official & exclusive, and agreeing to delete our tinder accounts he never deleted his and kept meeting girls from there the entire time. Probably even slept with some of them while sweet talking to me about commitment. I will never be able to trust anyone on the same level anymore, let alone trust someone on a dating app. Thus from this day onwards any dating apps are a no for me. I would say you should dump him. You know exactly what he would do if you hadn’t discovered this early on.
There is somethin going on because if he has spare time and he is bored he could spend even more time in you
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