Guy I’ve talked to for about a month liked my best friend on a dating app?

[desperatelyhungry]

We met through fb dating. It’s been about a month, we’ve only met up
Once and we have a date planned for Sunday. My friend joined fb dating, wanting to try her luck, this guy I’ve been talking to liked her on it. He said from the get go he wanted to start as friends and see how it goes, so he is still single. But now I can’t help
But to feel like he’s only keeping me around until he finds a girl he’s more interested in and then I’m gonna be ghosted. Fb dating also shows when you have mutual friends so I almost feel like he did it on purpose. Should I call
Him out or play dumb

[bobalife]

He’s looking for options. Yalls are barely starting out and aren’t exclusive. I know it’s frustrating and uncomfortable because it’s your friend. The better question is, does your bestie also wanna match him and try with him? If she declines, then don’t worry and just focus on what you have with him.
Usually in the past if this happens, I just laugh it off with friends if we somehow got same matches and we let each other have the person whoever has a better connection. But if it’s someone my friend already match and I didn’t yet, girl code, I don’t bother and move on to someone else.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that's super sketchy of him to like your BEST FRIEND too on the dating app. I would feel so weirded out!

I wouldn't play dumb - you deserve someone upfront with their intentions. I say either call him out casually, like "hey I saw you liked Jenna too, everything good?" and see how he reacts. Or you could straight up ask if he's actually interested in still seeing just you or if he's keeping his options open.

If he gets all defensive and dodgy with his answers, major red flag. You don't wanna waste time with some player. But if he admits it was dumb and wants to focus on you, maybe give him another chance - while keeping an eye out for more games!

I wouldn't blame you at all if his actions already broke your trust though. You need someone reliable who won't mess with your friend group like that. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and dip out if you get bad vibes from him still!

[BoopBoopBeep]

To which I'd say "yeah she's cute" and move on. They've met once. They aren't a couple. I'm free to like whomever I want.

It's one date, of course I'm keeping my options open.

[Oliverlogan263]

@BoopBoopBeep wait are you the guy she’s talking about in her question?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Oliverlogan263 no I don't do dating aps

[AviatorTom]

Welcome to dating. What you describe is what it's all about. You date several people until you find the one you want to stay with. Some will fall by the wayside. Men do this, and so do women.

If you really like this guy and see a possible future, then do what you can to convince him that he should concentrate on you and not anyone else.

Best of luck!

[sheikalana]

You guys are just talking so as you say he's single and free to do whatever he wants. You're not in a position to call him and question him or even talk about it. Honestly do the same and keep your options open for now. If you feel like he's keeping you as a second option then stop considering him an option.

[Mr_twoface]

You’re not technically in a relationship and hence can’t demand him not to be on dating apps or match with people. As you said, you’ve met up once and have another date planned. As far as it goes, he’s just like you still single and still trying to find their lobster.

[SotiCoto]

All human relationships are alliances of convenience. No matter what the ideals you might have had as a child, you are never going to be anyone else's #1 priority. Only your own.
So you shouldn't hold it against them if they're acting in their own best interests rather than yours. Obviously if you want to keep benefiting from their presence, your only option is to be better for them than their alternatives. Also to get your effort's worth out of them.

[JHAYES317]

That’s literally what dating is…dating different people until you find someone who you like enough to be in a relationship with…also is it not possible that they didn’t look at the profile and just were swiping randomly?

[NathanDavis]

I think you should care more about your best friend and less about this random guy...

[desperatelyhungry]

HE liked HER page. SHE told me
Immediately upon seeing me as his mutual friend and putting two and two together. Please explain how this is her fault?

[NathanDavis]

I didn't say it is her fault... lol

what I mean is, talk with her about these things first... if you two are on the same dating app, and the app will link the two of you, and make every guy interested to see you both at the same time, maybe you should talk about this with her... if it happened once, it could have twice and many more times

and why call out this guy? if he's doing it on purpose, he's not going to change... just find another one who is really interested and focused on you

[WhitneySnow]

He’s being honest with you that he’s keeping his options open. But if she likes him back, that could get awkward.

[BoopBoopBeep]

There's nothing to "call him out" on. You aren't a couple.

[dolemite58]

You guys aren’t in a relationship though it’s not illegal for him to still be going on dates and talking to other girls. If u were boyfriend and girlfriend and he did that it’s a different story.

[DrPepper12]

You only met up once and he was clear friends first. You have to decide if your mad at him or jealous of her before you do anything.

[pethouse]

It means he’s looking for more options and find the “best” what ever that may be for him. I’d move on and find someone better

[KrakenAttackin]

Chad has options, you had better get used to sharing a man.

[FuqUFggt]

Threesome time.