What kills most relationships?

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Overthinking

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Strictly USA speaking, because I've spent time in 46 states. I spend a LOT of time observing people... their actions, their expressions. For females? It's easy. Most aren't really invested in the guy of "the moment." They're BIG on attention, because that's American culture, "Look at me, I'm somebody on social media!" So they've always got their eye looking to the side to see who's checking them out, to upgrade. I actually hear many talk in public about this OPENLY... as brazen as that is. For guys? This one's easy. The looks. If they'd just forget looking at the ass and face... they'd SEE... the warning signs are THERE. And they're obvious. But they can't get over the ass and face, so they don't see it-until it's too late. I always use an adage, and it's never proven to be wrong yet... if someone is trying HARD to get me to notice their looks, or how many flashy items they own-WHAT IS THE MAJOR WEAKNESS THEYRE HIDING? Because it's there... and it's a biggie, or they wouldn't be trying to hard to get me to focus on something that's not of substance.

In_Trance · Accepted Answer

Social media

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Someone else stole their attention away and he started paying more and more attention to the other lady until he just stopped caring about the woman he was living with and professed to love.
Didn't matter that she is married. She was jealous and wanted what she had HIM! So she went after him and he said he was leaving.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Lack of effort

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic lovebuster - overthinking! Sure, it's like the mind going on a wild date, except it's not fun and there's no goodnight kiss. Overthinking creates unnecessary drama, invents problems that weren't there, and turns small issues into relationship Armageddon. It’s like being haunted by a ghost of relationships' past, present, and future all at once. The trick? Focus on clear, open communication and trust. Remember, overthinking is the mind’s attempt to be the Sherlock Holmes of love, but even Sherlock needed Watson to keep things balanced. So find your Watson, and keep those overthinking tendencies in check! 😉

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

People trying to make it a relationship ASAP, to address their own insecurities, rather than just slowing it to happen. . . that is what kills many relationships.

Avicenna · Answer

Incompatibility, poor communication, a lack of dedication to the relationship.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Don’t make time for each other and let career or the family take over.

shoeboxcerealcard · Answer

There is only  2  things that kill  ALL  relationships.  1. Not being on the same page 
 2. Not being in harmony with the relationship they both agreed to It is rarely #2  because people don't create relationship visions. It's not included in any culture except business.  I know 100% this is the answer. I can explain more but only if someone ask me to. I doubt anyone will see this comment though. Over 100 comments here.

imtiaz45 · Answer

Communication breakdown is a leading cause of relationship demise. Misunderstandings, unresolved conflicts, and lack of effective communication can breed resentment and distance. Trust issues, whether stemming from betrayal or insecurity, erode the foundation of intimacy. Incompatibility in values, goals, or lifestyles can create ongoing friction. Neglecting the relationship's emotional and physical needs can lead to feelings of neglect and dissatisfaction. Additionally, external stressors like financial strain or work pressures can strain the relationship. Failure to address these issues promptly and constructively often leads to a breakdown in connection, ultimately contributing to the demise of many relationships.

dragoblack · Answer

Lack of trust and communication. Lack of self-control when it comes to sexual tension from someone else. Lack of effort to get over past trauma, but instead projecting it on their partner. Unrealistic and ridiculous expectations they want to force on their partner. Being butthurt about guys enjoying videogames, instead of joining him. Considering enjoyment of simple things "childish". An unrealistic view of how relationships are supposed to be. Expecting social norms to be mandatory. Getting grossed out that men have feelings, stress, & emotions. Lack of being there for their partner. Not actually talking about issues and instread just yelling and/or throwing/destroying things.

HawkPerception · Answer

Lack of communication.

Is there a lack of effort? Talk about it.
Is there a lack of trust? Talk about it.
Is there a lack of sex? Talk about it.
Is there a lack of communication? Talk about it.

Communication literally solves all issues in a relationship if it's done by 2 people that are mature and try to understand one another.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Bad communication is the no.1 killer.

What I also think is bad is that some relationships are supposed to end, give you experience and even though break ups are hard and painful, sometimey they're simply needed for you to grow and find someone truly meant for you.

ZackBan · Answer

Overlooking red flags and deal breakers early on because you're caught up in the moment and wanna make it work.

Hoping the other person will grow to see things your way with time.

And when they don't the whole thing crumbles and you're left asking yourself "how could have been so stupid"

Lottydotty · Answer

Overthinking can be good, it's how we've been conditioned to overthink that can be damaging. Overthinking means you care, having enough confidence to not have to overthink means you understand. I think deeply thinking about very minute detail is what could save relationships at times. I cringe at how basics are failed or ignored in couples. But overthinking can be a misuse of energy as well, if it's taking over or causing one to be irritable or start to lack feeling from stress then one must talk to their partner and be honest before things burst or cause major misunderstanding and mistakes.

DishLady · Answer

Usually greed, selfishness, dishonesty, narcissism, ignorance... basically overall lack of mindfulness and empathy from one or both parties. Other relationships break up for much bigger, more serious reasons we won't get into here.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Feminism. Women demanding equal privileges for unequal responsibility. Men wanting pussy over a true relationship. Manipulating women to do what they want and thinking they are property. Women using men as a bank, or account for money. And not having much else to bring to the table besides a warm body. There are a lot more but these are what I see frequently.

Iron_Man · Answer

Never meeting in person in A LDR sooner or later, you can only take an online relationship so far if you don’t ever meet especially if it’s been years later unless you both agree, just to be penpal buddies, but then there’s no boyfriend and girlfriend relationship

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Not taking it slow and expecting attraction to happen like a bang. It's one thing I've noticed and people just expect it to happen just like that. Like, no, don't expect it. Just take it slow and enjoy each other's company as you get to know each other more and more. Expectation will only ruin it.

Mr_twoface · Answer

Not communicating!

b_lova · Answer

Selfishness.

Typically I feel like selfishness is at the core of why people separate because one or both parties are unwilling to either give of themselves into the relationship or unwilling to compromise with each other.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

ego, lack of effort, lack of communication, lack of trust, insecurities, missing boundaries, confusing infatuation with love, expectations, toxic behaviors, lack of responsibility

blueonblack22 · Answer

That’s part of it. I also think the modern digitized culture we live has made everything exponentially more difficult for both genders. Especially in the west.

Anonymous · Answer

When a man gets soft, once a girl knows that she got you, she losses interest.

It wouldn’t be her fault but the guy’s fault because he got out of the assigned character (by birth).

This kills the man before the relationship.

The only break up where a man ends up in deep regret and the woman usually moves on really fast from.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men only tell you what they think you want to hear, but they can only do it for so long. It is all downhill after that.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Not communicating properly about what you need from your partner.
Knowing when it’s time to let go
financial information about your partner and what they don’t know
Not knowing enough about your partner, but that goes into communication
Infidelity
Trust

I haven’t been in a relationship in a long time or I don’t think I’ve really been in one since high school but these are the things that I keep seeing Hearing about

Anonymous · Answer

Well, being on the front battle lines. I can say that what kills most relationships is not talking.

But really, nobody ever stops and asks the question. I wonder why he doesn't speak. If they had, I could have informed them that. I've always struggled with talking. Words don't come easy for me, and I'm a better listener than a speaker.

bobalife · Answer

Lack of communication and mutual understanding, effort, kindness, loyalty, and growth…  And one biggie: incompatibility

Meropatrick · Answer

I think exploitation. People tend to take advantage of others in relationships. The more the person allows it the more they do it. They exploit the shyt out of kindness. Many of my relationships ended because of opportunistic individuals

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism, social media, and women's single friends.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Lack of effort No communication Social media ( but that really just ruins everything ) Lots of insecurities  Stuff like that.

OtterMan68 · Answer

The fact they were rushed into in the first place. The people involved did not take enough time to really get to know their partner.

Also, getting into a relationship thinking you'll change your partner.

mstbooblover · Answer

Lack of communication, lack of caring attention, and distrust will nearly always kill any relation.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

- Incompatibilities (goals, values, etc) - lack of trust - lack of respect

avery58 · Answer

Immaturity, overthinking, lack of communication

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Let me tell you mom's kill relationship especially mother in law mommas boy.

1073sucks · Answer

Comparing to others overthinking failed communication where both have a different train of thought and don’t reach a common ground  money problems  sexual frustration

laly520 · Answer

dishonesty n lack of trust lack of common sense such as being disrespectful or harsh towards the other person

EmmaMary · Answer

@msprosperity  Purely lack of appalling communication.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I would have said cheating, but sure overthinking does too..

NathanDavis · Answer

going into something that wasn't an actual relationship but they called it one...

Juxtapose · Answer

I absolutely agree with you that overthinking kills relationships. People will think themselves straight into a breakup rather than just sit down and have a calm conversation with their lover.

OddBeMe · Answer

Small things. Not putting dishes in the dish washer. Toothpaste stains in the sink.  Gotta find a mate with similar habits. Or be able to change. We did both.

ThatRandomBoy · Answer

Probably lack of communication or domestic violence

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Insecurity. It probably ends 80% of relationships

Miristheiss · Answer

Cheating, selfishness, mis-aligned values and goals ( incompatible)

butterfly_nake87 · Answer

Lack of effort and lack of transparency.

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me because I wasn't good at sex. She cheated on me and I didn't do enough for her to make her stay. I couldn't give her time due to my job and other personal problems.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Nit being compromising enough for each other N lack of intimacy

hellothere90 · Answer

No compromise. A relationship is built on mutual understanding and compromise.

saroj786 · Answer

I think some misunderstanding while for some lack of physical intimacy and many others are just killing to have more girls interaction.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Here are just a few of many:  1. Jealousy  2. Infidelity  3. Financial Issues  4. Disrespect  5. Abuse

DrPepper12 · Answer

Kids expose the stress fault lines that were already there; then lack of healthy communication does it's work. Poof. Relationship over.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Talking too much ish. You will be amazed how healthy a relationship can be if one or both people just shut the hell up and leave the other person alone.

Deserter2 · Answer

Women listening to their stupid friends and the media

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Insecurity, shyness with me

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Lack of communication, cheating getting lied to accusations of stuff you didn’t do etc

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Lacking that your partner is not doing well what's the point you don't want to fuck every time you can, but that's not what I mean when I you partner doesn't make you feel safe!

loveslongnails · Answer

Everybody thinks they can do better so they leave the escape door open.

Anonymous · Answer

Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and studies show lack of commitment is the #1 reason for divorce. That is a very poor reflection on modern women.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think it is poor communication and the lack of honesty

ChocolatePikachu95 · Answer

Dishonesty Distrust Cheating Life Goals Intermcy issues Sex Problems Unplanned Pregnanices

darkcloud1945 · Answer

Stupidity. Forgetting the other person has feelings and you just might be wrong but won't say so.

Anonymous · Answer

Wife or girlfriend monkey branching and cheating

Likes2drive · Answer

Probably lying, no trust in their partner and money problems

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Bad communication. Too many people except mind readers as partners.

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