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Strictly USA speaking, because I've spent time in 46 states. I spend a LOT of time observing people... their actions, their expressions. For females? It's easy. Most aren't really invested in the guy of "the moment." They're BIG on attention, because that's American culture, "Look at me, I'm somebody on social media!" So they've always got their eye looking to the side to see who's checking them out, to upgrade. I actually hear many talk in public about this OPENLY... as brazen as that is. For guys? This one's easy. The looks. If they'd just forget looking at the ass and face... they'd SEE... the warning signs are THERE. And they're obvious. But they can't get over the ass and face, so they don't see it-until it's too late. I always use an adage, and it's never proven to be wrong yet... if someone is trying HARD to get me to notice their looks, or how many flashy items they own-WHAT IS THE MAJOR WEAKNESS THEYRE HIDING? Because it's there... and it's a biggie, or they wouldn't be trying to hard to get me to focus on something that's not of substance.
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Someone else stole their attention away and he started paying more and more attention to the other lady until he just stopped caring about the woman he was living with and professed to love.
Didn't matter that she is married. She was jealous and wanted what she had HIM! So she went after him and he said he was leaving.
Lack of effort
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Ah, the classic lovebuster - overthinking! Sure, it's like the mind going on a wild date, except it's not fun and there's no goodnight kiss. Overthinking creates unnecessary drama, invents problems that weren't there, and turns small issues into relationship Armageddon. It’s like being haunted by a ghost of relationships' past, present, and future all at once. The trick? Focus on clear, open communication and trust. Remember, overthinking is the mind’s attempt to be the Sherlock Holmes of love, but even Sherlock needed Watson to keep things balanced. So find your Watson, and keep those overthinking tendencies in check! 😉
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People trying to make it a relationship ASAP, to address their own insecurities, rather than just slowing it to happen. . . that is what kills many relationships.
Incompatibility, poor communication, a lack of dedication to the relationship.
Don’t make time for each other and let career or the family take over.
There is only 2 things that kill ALL relationships.
1. Not being on the same page
2. Not being in harmony with the relationship they both agreed toIt is rarely #2 because people don't create relationship visions. It's not included in any culture except business.
I know 100% this is the answer. I can explain more but only if someone ask me to. I doubt anyone will see this comment though. Over 100 comments here.Communication breakdown is a leading cause of relationship demise. Misunderstandings, unresolved conflicts, and lack of effective communication can breed resentment and distance. Trust issues, whether stemming from betrayal or insecurity, erode the foundation of intimacy. Incompatibility in values, goals, or lifestyles can create ongoing friction. Neglecting the relationship's emotional and physical needs can lead to feelings of neglect and dissatisfaction. Additionally, external stressors like financial strain or work pressures can strain the relationship. Failure to address these issues promptly and constructively often leads to a breakdown in connection, ultimately contributing to the demise of many relationships.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/z7-H3C4s3tQLack of trust and communication. Lack of self-control when it comes to sexual tension from someone else. Lack of effort to get over past trauma, but instead projecting it on their partner. Unrealistic and ridiculous expectations they want to force on their partner. Being butthurt about guys enjoying videogames, instead of joining him. Considering enjoyment of simple things "childish". An unrealistic view of how relationships are supposed to be. Expecting social norms to be mandatory. Getting grossed out that men have feelings, stress, & emotions. Lack of being there for their partner. Not actually talking about issues and instread just yelling and/or throwing/destroying things.
Bad communication is the no.1 killer.
What I also think is bad is that some relationships are supposed to end, give you experience and even though break ups are hard and painful, sometimey they're simply needed for you to grow and find someone truly meant for you.
Overlooking red flags and deal breakers early on because you're caught up in the moment and wanna make it work.
Hoping the other person will grow to see things your way with time.
And when they don't the whole thing crumbles and you're left asking yourself "how could have been so stupid"Overthinking can be good, it's how we've been conditioned to overthink that can be damaging. Overthinking means you care, having enough confidence to not have to overthink means you understand. I think deeply thinking about very minute detail is what could save relationships at times. I cringe at how basics are failed or ignored in couples. But overthinking can be a misuse of energy as well, if it's taking over or causing one to be irritable or start to lack feeling from stress then one must talk to their partner and be honest before things burst or cause major misunderstanding and mistakes.
Lack of communication.
Is there a lack of effort? Talk about it.
Is there a lack of trust? Talk about it.
Is there a lack of sex? Talk about it.
Is there a lack of communication? Talk about it.
Communication literally solves all issues in a relationship if it's done by 2 people that are mature and try to understand one another.Usually greed, selfishness, dishonesty, narcissism, ignorance... basically overall lack of mindfulness and empathy from one or both parties. Other relationships break up for much bigger, more serious reasons we won't get into here.
Feminism. Women demanding equal privileges for unequal responsibility. Men wanting pussy over a true relationship. Manipulating women to do what they want and thinking they are property. Women using men as a bank, or account for money. And not having much else to bring to the table besides a warm body. There are a lot more but these are what I see frequently.
Never meeting in person in A LDR sooner or later, you can only take an online relationship so far if you don’t ever meet especially if it’s been years later unless you both agree, just to be penpal buddies, but then there’s no boyfriend and girlfriend relationship
Not taking it slow and expecting attraction to happen like a bang. It's one thing I've noticed and people just expect it to happen just like that. Like, no, don't expect it. Just take it slow and enjoy each other's company as you get to know each other more and more. Expectation will only ruin it.
Not communicating! Why communication is key in any relationship!
Selfishness.
Typically I feel like selfishness is at the core of why people separate because one or both parties are unwilling to either give of themselves into the relationship or unwilling to compromise with each other.
ego, lack of effort, lack of communication, lack of trust, insecurities, missing boundaries, confusing infatuation with love, expectations, toxic behaviors, lack of responsibility
That’s part of it. I also think the modern digitized culture we live has made everything exponentially more difficult for both genders. Especially in the west.
When a man gets soft, once a girl knows that she got you, she losses interest.
It wouldn’t be her fault but the guy’s fault because he got out of the assigned character (by birth).
This kills the man before the relationship.
The only break up where a man ends up in deep regret and the woman usually moves on really fast from.
- Not communicating properly about what you need from your partner.
- Knowing when it’s time to let go
- financial information about your partner and what they don’t know
- Not knowing enough about your partner, but that goes into communication
- Infidelity
- Trust
I haven’t been in a relationship in a long time or I don’t think I’ve really been in one since high school but these are the things that I keep seeing Hearing about
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