What is killing relationship nowadays?

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zero444440000 · Accepted Answer

sigh, this is a tough question, because its hard to narrow it down to just one answer, so am just gone list of some the reasons i think are killing relationships today.

1: an unwillingness to say sorry/admit you were wrong/taking responsibility for what you did wrong "or just the ability to comprehend that you could ever have done or been in the wrong you know"

2: you know how att weddings they normally make you say, do you promise to be with them through both the good and bad times? well spoilers but most people today want to experience the good times only, which means they end up leaving there partners ones the bad times start coming.

3: look i know love can be amazing and can make you feel like its the best day ever for you, but spoilers not every day is gone be the best day of your life while your with them, not everyday is make you the most rock hard or driping wet so you can't stand it, and thats fine, thats just life, but most people don't understand so they end there relationships so they again can look and be with someone makes the feel happiest day ever after again.

4: dream partners, look am not shaming anyone for having the perfect dream boyfriend/girlfriend they wanna be with in there mind, in fact i say its a good thing to know what you want, but that doesn't mean you should throw away 1 billion dollors "semi close to what is your dream partner" just because you didn't get 10 billon dollors "your dream partner" form lotter, because 1: you have such a good partner right now, so why be greedy and throw that away just because it wasn't your dream partner? and 2: if you actually put the effort into loving this semi partner you got, you might be suprised to find out you end up loving them evan more then what you would have felt if you would been with your dream partner if you just end up giving them a chance.

5: last but not least you and your partner need to ask yourself this, do you care more about your feelings then your partner's? are you in a relationship only to make your self happy and making them happy doesn't make you happy? if you care more about yourself or only care about yourself in this relationship then you most likely selfish and you will end up breaking up with them.

in the end love for to many people is just selfishness disguised as love, they think love is that you become happy when your with someone when in reality love is you begin happy when and because your partner is happy.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Accepted Answer

Same as always. Human nature sucks i. e. selfishness, greed, lying, being disrespectful, being abusive and all the ills humans naturally have.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I heard the most common reason for divorce is money issues and I believe that greed explains over 90% of the violence and hate that makes relationships break down. Even Hollywood actors are more likely to divorce over money then over romantic happiness. This is not a statistic, it's my observation from reading stories about divorced Hollywood actors and then evaluating the net worth of their current and previous lovers. They nearly all divorce over money and not because they found somebody more attractive or nicer.

I've seen greedy people in my family and extended family and the more spare cash they had, the more unpleasant their personalities were. The nicest people in my family were also the poorest. There was a direct relationship between poverty and kindness. Nobody in my family is actually poor, but some were more poor then others.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Nothing.

In the past there were like 1500 humans on whole Earth and they used to meet each other and feel like, oh he’s my number one, he’s my other half, blah blah blah…

Because they would go out the next day and the Siberian Tiger or a Grizzly Bear would eat them, regardless of where they are. They didn’t have 2nd chances, so they’d be like “Oh, my one and only love.”

Here you go out and world is full with billions of people, tigers and lions are not the biggest fear anymore, we live long lives and we have time to choose all over and over again.

So some people grab the opportunity to go out searching better and better forgetting there will always be better. There’s no best! The only thing is about whether or not you commit and choose to love that “not so best” person.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Commitment issues  Social media trend influence  Less quality time together (you could be on the same bed, but the phones have taken over lovemaking or cuddling or just plain talking to each other)

Avicenna · Answer

Others have already mentioned many of them. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't see anyone mention the illusion that there are tons of other options (not really due to dealbreakers and a lack of compatibility).

pervertedjester · Answer

Too many people, too many sinkholes.

Finchie40 · Answer

Selfishness , most people in general our selfish people and only want what’s best for them instead of putting themselves in their partner’s. shoes , most people assume they are always right and their partner is always in the wrong , Just because something doesn’t go their way they make excuses for their actions , trying to play a victim when really they are a piece of shit , Most people can’t admit when they are wrong it’s always someone else’s fault or your partner’s fault. Sadly on today’s world the only way a relationship has a chance of surviving is if both partners’ make each other their top priority and remove selfishness for each other , and focus on respecting each other , Don’t expect someone to do for you if you can’t do for them , you will just be wasting
Your time , someone can tell you they love you every day but sadly that doesn’t mean shit, Actions speak louder than words in most cases , we can’t force someone to love us all we can do is treat someone the same way we want to be treated in return , Relationships our a choice you can choice to commit to someone or you can choose to walk away

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

Oh boy, this is a tough one, because honestly there's a long list of reasons really. Things such as:

-Having too high standards.
-Chasing perfection.
-Choosing the wrong partner.
-Wanting all of the love but none of the responsibility.
-Desperate to keep the honeymoon feeling going.
-Failure to perform their duties.
-Ignoring red flags when they're obvious.
-Fear of getting hurt.
-Wanting to leave the second that things get hard.

The truth is that its a lot of problems being caused by both men and women.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Lack of communication about your goals

Lack of compatibility; if you wants kids and they don't then you're wasting time

Thinking a strong relationship is base on fantasizing about them all day long

Only wanting the good things and benefits but not the flaws and responsibilities

Posting on FB and other social medias too much about your dating/relationship life

Hooking-up culture and cohabitation; you're still hooking up with them either way; it's a lose situation more to the woman though since he isn't giving her commitment. Living with a boyfriend for years, having great sex with him and him having the option to walk out the door after any argument isn't a commitment.

shades777 · Answer

thats a loaded question but essentially its not be honest with yourself before you picked your woman, you knew you did not like smokers but you dated her anyways because she was hott
you didn't want to be a stepdad but again she was hot...

this applies to women as well but from a man's perspective its the lack of honesty which is why i rather just get financially free and move to Africa and marry a woman in her 20's that fit my preference because tgats what I actually want.

go for what you actually want and be clear... honest

Paulalove98 · Answer

Lack of communication, social media, dishonesty, and immaturity. People are quick to give up instead of communicating their problems or concerns and social media is full of drama and negativity that can ruin a relationship as well and if someone is acting immature instead of lighting up it’s gonna tear the relationship down.

Anonymous · Answer

. Too many women with insecurities and jealousy issues that it drives them to try and control their boyfriend / husband and who can talk to and be friends with. Look at how many on gag who have an issue with their partner watching porn because it makes them insecure.

. Miscommunication and lack of communication

. Women who expect a man to do all of the work in the relationship. Like she expects him to always cater to her needs while she ignores his.

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Anonymous · Answer

Most people in general do not love or care for anyone beyond themselves today. It's one of the reasons most women turn me off. Why would I want to be with a woman that does not love me, just considers me tribute. Love is reciprocal. Love is kind. Real love is selfless. The kind in which you never concern yourself with what you're getting out of it. Because giving brings you joy. And what you recipe e back ergo is automatically ten-fold.

Flower7 · Answer

The internet.

That makes it easier to find people to cheat with. Also, too many options are available too easily. That makes people not value their partner as much because they can easily just go on a dating site and find someone else.

Hinaaaaa · Answer

Jumping from one person to another person like a kangaroo & not giving enough time to a relationship they are in to.

RavVid · Answer

They aren't functionally based anymore but were functionally based in the past. Relationships are just for fun now and fun fades.

lightbulb27 · Answer

poor training everything and anything. too many options, not enough commitment to work through the issues! poor selection...

slatyb · Answer

In the US and many other countries it's economics -- many people can't afford housing, never mind starting s family.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Social media has caused a new age of blind divisiveness and influenced many things.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Lack of communication is a bug one among other things

JonesT10Apr · Answer

are we need second opinion... I hope not, everyone know clearly... social media and Smartphone... it's most first priority... secondly influence of bad people or relatives as well wishers

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

The corrupted ideology and new age societies, plus the internet and lack of faith, also the feminism agenda...

Guido · Answer

The inability to communicate effectively and being self absorbed. Relationships are sharing and compromise. Put down the phone and learn to talk to each other.

Anonymous · Answer

60% ow women divorce, the majority of them are cheating and society rewards them financially with alimony and child support

Nikki1989 · Answer

Lack of communication. People would rather stare at their phone than talk.

Anonymous · Answer

Sex apps and the Internet. It's way too easy to get laid. It used to take a bit of effort. Those days are gone.

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism, social media, and women's astronomical body counts.

Provingdatruth · Answer

Smart phones, because it makes infidelity easier to commit, such as dating apps, and social media.

dolemite58 · Answer

i swear dating apps and social media have driven women absolutely insane

inhua · Answer

the sexual revolution clashing with feminism

Gent207-2 · Answer

Hook-up culture

Jazzy54 · Answer

People not wanting one in the first place.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

A lack of tolerance, patience.

LazerBean · Answer

Lack of self control.

exitseven · Answer

Social media and hookups.

sheikalana · Answer

Social media.

gothbxtch · Answer

same things that always have.

boobliker · Answer

lack of talking to each other and others

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

People!

whistlingwh0res · Answer

gay in the closet..

sheenagwapa · Answer

infidelity

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Entitlement, pettiness, incompatibility.

Anonymous · Answer

Little bit of everything

Akam93 · Answer

Infidelity

Kelly6 · Answer

Finance equal job earning

Anonymous · Answer

Feminism.

jimmy2 · Answer

Lust, lies cheating

Anonymous · Answer

Men Are.

Anonymous · Answer

Lack of commitment.

Anonymous · Answer

Social media

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