I'd say for sure how people cheat, lie, and have commitment issues. I was recently cheated on and lied to.. it makes me lose hope in finding a loyal, truthful person who actually is being genuine. It's so awful.
Pretty much everything you just said , Someone can love you , treat you like Gold and then like a flip of a switch you mean nothing to them anymore and they start treating you like constant shit , pointing out your flaws , nothing you do is good enough for them , they start comparing you to others , making you feel like you aren’t good enough for them , withholding intimacy and affection like you have to earn it from them , to eventually find out they are interested or fucking someone else behind your back , All those sweet loving words they told you in the beginning , mean shit , it was just smoke being blown up your ass , Having your heart shit on by someone you trusted and loved is one of the worst feelings we can go through , it changes your whole outlook on relationships period. It makes you think what is really the point of a relationship if someone is eventually going to shit on you? You realize you were just a convenience to them , they used you until something they thought was better came along. So are human instinct begins to protect ourselves from being damaged again , we hold walls up around our heart to protect ourselves from being shit on , are whole outlook on love is a new journey , we question ourselves on whether we want to go through all that again or is it best to just stay single and say fuck it all? But We still hope that love really exists but trying to find it is a whole new mission, because we now have so many doubts and trust issues to the point how can you truly be happy with someone, if you always have that question mark over your head on whether they will stay by your side or not? How do we know they will resist temptation for us? I am at a point in my life now that I honestly don’t care if a girl cheats on me , because is she can go down that road that other guy can have her , yes it hurts that someone can betray what we had together but what mainly hurts most is if they have the nerve to come back to you and look you in the eyes and tell you they Love you when really they know they are a lying piece of shit. To me that is the biggest scum on this Earth , So I don’t jump into relationships anymore , because I know people change , I have experienced so much shot that just blows my mind on how selfish people truly are. They only really care about themselves, So if a girl can’t make me her number 1 priority , she can’t value me like I value her , she can’t remove selfishness for me
Like she expects me to remove it for her , if she can’t accept my flaws like she expects me to except hers she is just wasting her time with me , if she can’t be honest with me I won’t be able to be honest with her , I am not going to commit to a girl that only thinks of herself , For love to grow both partners have to remove selfishness for each other , understand they can’t always be right and you are wrong , I want a girl that compliments me not a girl that brings misery into my life , its supposed to be me and her Vs the world , It won’t always be perfect but we fix it before seeking someone else for validation , when someone can jump from one person to the next they will never experience true love because they are selfish piece of shit , If she can’t wear my shoes before making decisions then I won’t be able to wear hers , I can only treat a girl with love and respect when she os capable of doing the same for me. I want a girl that stays under the sheets with me not one that runs to the streets
Inflation. The west is horrible for masculine men. You get far less and you're asked to give a lot more. I actually thought the whole world was going mad until I left the west and started travelling more.
🤔I think the major tragedy is the sisterhood has fallen apart completely in the west. Big mum who was the head of the matriarch, would educate young ladies on what men want and need, that generation is gone and a lot of women have decided to rewrite the rules in the head as to what masculine men want. It's very strange to observe this.
For example every man understands that status is important to women, along with Competency and financial stability. We do not argue this, many men do not like it, but we do not argue this. We accept the world for what it is.
On the flip side sexual purity is deeply important to masculine men and this is where modern women have decided to rewrite hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution.
I Actually believe the west is cursed. We are witnessing the destruction of the west in real time. We are born in the time of the degeneration so to us it just seems normal. This isn't anything that can be stopped and everything you're seeing in regards to the behaviour and mindset of people, comes out of that "curse".
I found so much peace abroad. It's night and day when you travel and realise that healthy, marriageable mindsets are abundant out there.
I'll be married in two years.🙂
Several things,
1. People don't want to work out issues, it is easier to just end and/or ghost if problems arise, which they always do.
2. Cheating, modern technology has made it extremely easy to cheat and hard to get caught. A phone can be used for all kinds of texting, or online dating/hookups and most people don't think you should share your phone with your SO, that to do so means you don't trust them.
Even though I say, those that refuse to share, ARE CHEATING because they are obviously hiding something they don't want their SO to see, so why hide it if your trust your partner?
This is why I say those above 40 plus are the best, they tend to be more loyal and treat me better and do not cheat.
I’ve never cheated EVER. I don’t share my phone, my wife trusts me, I’ve never gone through hers because I trust her.
If I caught her going through my phone we would be having a long talk about it.
There is literally no reason for her to read my private conversations, if she has a concern she can voice it to me and we will talk about it.
@admles I disagree, there is NOTHING that should be kept secret from your SO.
Clearly you have something you are hiding from her that you do not want her to see, thus your are cheating on her as you are afraid of what she will do if she finds out.
I expect full disclosure and in fact if I say, hand me your phone, I have my own finger print in it to unlock it. As I have nothing to hide, nor should he. Anyone who has something to hide, is cheating for a FACT.
Cheating is more than just sex, it can be emotional cheating in conversations with someone else. It can be doing things you know your SO would not approve of and keeping it secret from them.
Thanks for admitting your a cheater, duly noted.
What's scary is that despite all of women's efforts for feminism and equal pay, men are now ganging up and teaching each other strategies on how to emotionally control women regardless of whether they still have to depend on men financially or not.
Women have never been more privileged in society.
@Swollerbear Absolutely and men have never been thrown more under the bus.
You are not thinking straight. You have been led to think that only women who work can control or be equal to a man. Let me tell you something you don't know. You haven't lived in my country but if you don't mind women here mostly don't like to work. They enjoy life at home and they can control there husbands a lot more. They take the husband's money in exchange for letting him have food or sleep in bed. So, I don't mean to say bad things but if that's what you thought you could do or even just genuinely love him you don't need to be an A team Accountant or a Doctor. You just need to show him your love and affection.
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I would definitely have to say cheating, playing games, ghosting, emotional and physical abuse.
To me it’s that it seems like people don’t even get what relationships should be about. And also what people call “relationships” these days.
You know with so much cheating stories and issues I see online. I think people especially who want to live clean lives should try heading eastward to Asia.
I have never heard a story so bizarre and alien in my country as is so common on the internet. I mean people cheat and they simply divorce. And 90% of the times there is no such thing. I talked to this girl here and I think I found her sensible when she said she is up for the idea of arranged marriage. I think love is important but we are all strangers in the end.
People think they can stop a person with there love but that's not true. You can be with a stranger and develop love later. You don't have to be in same bed to find out.
I don't mean to say one is better than the other but may be you can try the idea of arranged marriages once again. It's not like anyone is doubting your abilities, just that your parents gave birth to you so you ought to listen to them a little more since they know life.
Alternatively, I think people should understand, " when God made pairs it certainly doesn't mean he Made pairs for people in just your home country".
I am just writing because may be you can find love on the other side of the continent or the globe as well
My ex boyfriend cheated on me barley and that hurt like hell.. I wasn’t in a relationship with him long but the feeling is just disgusting and awful to feel. Thankfully, I’m more confident than I used to be to conquer through and pull myself out of that situation but it’s still horrible and bitter and impacts someone a lot. At this point, I just want a loyal guy who’s honest and actually cares about me and fights for me and the relationship, not someone who’s a liar, cheater, and deceiving toward me😞
I'd agree. It might not even be cheating, it might be simply be being upgraded upon. i. e. your partner becomes confident they can get a better deal elsewhere so they want to be free to seek out that better deal.
I think that first time you are cheated on is pretty devastating. Before than you had confidence in love etc etc. After that you cannot trust as fully. There is that line that every adult has killed a child i. e. the child they were. The first person that cheats on you destroys a lot.
In many ways it is worse than murder. There would be a lot of pain in being killed but at least there is nothing afterwards. If your beloved partner cheats they destroy your trust and you are not the same afterwards.
I recognize your pain and suffering from this. I hope that you will find some one you can truly trust without reservation again.
All my heartfelt wishes for you.
Your message is so kind and thoughtful. I really appreciate it. Thank you. I felt taken for granted even though I didn't know him very long and had him telling me anything I'd like to hear but secretly he was stringing me along with another girl and probably many others in that case. I look at it like at least I wasn't in a relationship with him long and I found out sooner than later but regardless it STILL hurts. This is actually the 3rd time I got cheated on from being in a relationship with someone and sadly I'm used to it, and I know I can pull through and stay confident and strong but it really really leaves a hole in my heart and makes me feel so awful about myself even though I'm able to conquer. Your explanation is very real. I just want a guy who is loyal like me and actually values the meaning of loyalty.
Sadly morals are very poor. Betrayal is a very nasty thing. I think Aerissa_Jade has a good point. An older guy is more serious in life and will consequentially treat you more seriously and value you more.
A lot of people make the mistake of knowing some one is not honest but thinking they will not be dishonest with them because you are friends. Wrong. Some one who is dishonest will cheat everybody - they haven't got around to you yet. I can relate so many examples of this but will give just.
A guy I know would go to lunch with his business partner. His business partner would take a drink from refrigerator and not pay for it and the guy I know just ignored that. However after a business reorganization initiated by the business partner, he found his business partner had all the assets whilst he owned all the debt.
Any act of dishonesty is a red flag. Especially when the person could get away with it.
Maybe take the time to get to know the guy is honest and has integrity.
I know for a fact people have commitment issues. It’s easy to get into a relationship as well, but makes it much more easier to break up. Like ghosting each other, being dumped over social media or text/call. It’s all weird to me. I’m on a couple dating apps and I know my crush is on there. I asked him out and he said he was talking to someone. Okay well I tried and then I downloaded another one like a couple weeks later and sure enough he was on there. Now I can’t find him at all. I’m trying to manifest him, and slowly seeing progress but I can’t seem to find him any more on the app. I don't know but we have a bit of similar interests and I think we would be a great couple. We’ll just have to wait and see though.
i wouldn't say relationships are scary nor are perfect in any sense but it's all about finding that happy medium. My turn ons are communication, sense of humor similar interests and hobbies and in a physical sense someone shorter than me (6'1"). Turn offs are liars, controlling, cheaters and NARCISSISTS
Wish more people felt/thought this way!
Relationships hasn’t change. Love is love ad marriage is marriage.
humans have damaged the idea/commitment for one another.
it takes two to understand how to love and respect one another.
learn from this find someone who shares the same value as you before you pour yourself in 💯…
The way people lose interest so very quickly. They get an instant thrill - limerance - and they're all over you, then as time goes on they become bored and unthrilled just as quickly as it started. Then they slack off talking or ghost you completely.
Something is going on in the human heart where nothing is ever enough for people anymore. And they can't stay happy. Can't stay committed. That's very frightening.
First of all, I'm very sorry that you went through that, I know how it feels.
Just know that it's not your fault and don't lose that sense of loyalty, it will be appreciated by the right person someday, and don't let anyone make you believe that all men are like that because it's far from the truth. I wish I could tell you that there was some easy way to avoid cheaters or other manipulative people but unfortunately there's not, they are out there but don't let it discourage you from getting involved with someone because for as painful as it was to be with the wrong person, finding the right one is worth it and can be a beautiful lifelong experience. You're still young, don't give up and best of luck.
Find someone that has never participated in casual sex (they are not a good partner for a relationship if they have done that) and also make sure it is someone that you can BOTH agree to delete your social media once in a relationship so there are much less potential problems.
Or move to a more conservative area and only look for a partner in person.
I've only been involved in a LDR, for 3 years. I can't say much about how dating and relationships are, in these times. What I can say is that I perceive a greater disfunction, not only in romantic relationship; but also in all stages of society.
The environmental degradation, the climate change, the ecological imbalance and the destruction of species, will lead us to insanity. It happened to Rome—you think lead contamination didn't play a role?— it happened to the ancient Maya's—their water source was getting poisoned by a variety of sea weed. Also, their natural resources were devastated by the demographic expansion.
Many other examples have been present throughout history.
What's scary for me about relationships is something that's been true forever. You can do everything right and and still lose.
It isn't necessarily always your partner's fault, cause sometimes people can lose feelings and it isn't in their control. Other times they may actually do something that hurts you.
But regardless, the risk is so high. You can pretty much be the perfect spouse and still end up getting hurt and alone.
Nobody knows how to date or want to date anymore. It seems like everything can be found online. Girls and Guys alike seem to be shopping for that someone rather than just meeting someone in person and letting chemistry and compatibility do the talking.
Men are fat or really skinny, feminine, submissive, have no lives, unintelligent, watch anime and porn and only play video games, materialistic, sluts, atheists etc.
Women are materialistic, too high standards, picky, overreacting, feminists, fat, dominant, aggressive, atheists, whores and masculine.
At this point I've just given up on finding a partner. Men these days are not the type of men you'd like to pass on your genes. Same with women.
Sad reality I get it. I totally agree and understand completely what you're saying and where you're coming from. I take it your bisexual since you've mentioned the cons of both genders? Unfortunately people in general suck these days.
No I'm not bisexual, I just named what's wrong with both genders in this world which is why no one has a good relationship nowadays.
Yes, I hate the modern people.
Neither am I but your point of views are super accurate regardless. Men and women both love to sleep around, men are dogs and women are picky with very high standards. I don't think mine are high because I don't care if he's 6ft or has a toned body, I mean I would still be attracted to an average guy and have dated average guys. I don't ask the world of someone.
In England, male heterosexuality is now illegal, apparently.
England to criminalize approaching women on the street. Good or bad idea?
the whole cheating thing yeah, and i don't know, i feel like people are less trustful now - and i think it's really easy to leave someone when one small thing goes wrong
Yeah yeah here you go again. Keep whining about the cheating asshole that YOU CHOSE! The sexual marketplace is rigged in YOUR favour yet you bitches always choose the assholes, hence why more and more men decide to be like that. It's the only thing that get us laid.
That no one wants to put the work in, communicate, and actually make their relationship better when they reach a rough patch.
Can I ask you a question
Would you dump a great man just because he has a average size penis?
I’m 6.5 inches long and 4.7 inches girth. Is that small to you?
Hoping I’m making out w a real chick, not a man lol
I just want a loyal guy at this point I'm not even picky about height or d size. Like at all.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. How did that happen? I mean we’re you two going through problems or something? Or he just cheated?
Men are being brainwashed by certain sections of the media, so relationships are doomed before they have even started.
I totally agree.. it's like these days people don't even know the meaning of loyalty
The fact that the leading cause of death in pregnant women, is being killed by an ex or by their current spouse.
I can't say about crime rates of other countries but the scary part of relationship these days at my place is ending up dead by an abusive partner few days ago a guy killed his partner because she denied him sex😥😥
Now that’s psycho and crazy!
I’m sorry that happened to you. But are things with your current boyfriend still ok?
Sadly no... a lot happened unfortunately. He isn't who I thought he was. We broke up..
Honestly its hard enough just finding someone I’m even attracted to these days. People are toxic.
It’s kinda gotten to a point where I’ve just given up on trying outright. It isn’t worth the effort after a certain point
Women are incentivized with cash and prizes to break their agreements in a marriage by the State.
So men (who have options) realize that is a terrible deal and refuse to enter into a one-sided relationship with a woman and the State.
Starting one. Especially with someone that you have just met.
As a man, marriage is very scary today because women are different now than they used to be. Half of marriages end in divorce, women initiate them 80% of the time, and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody. The courts are very biased against men, and women take full advantage of that. That bias incentivizes women to divorce. It's hardly worth the risk for men anymore.
That people don't know what a loving long term relationship really is. When you rush into a relationship, and not make a real bond it's doomed to fail.
The fact that cheating is now allowed in the form of cuckold or cuckqueen!
I think another problem in today relationship are nobody isn't faithful these days neither men or women.
Feelings that you have. You're wary about letting yourself trust anyone deeply enough to form a strong enough connection with them. It's not your fault that you feel this way, but your feelings are the reason.
I think people are just super aware of the fact that a bad relationship can totally wreck your life.
u never been afraid
but I do take responsibility
People tend to forget when you're in a relationship with someone who has unresolved baggage, mental health issues and a drinking problem too.
That's what makes me think twice about wanting a relationship 🤔
There are a lot of youtubers talking about this issue very well
Thank all the self entiteled advantage taking feminists who ruined it for all other women
People change their minds like they ate ordering McDonald’s.. and then they wonder why their life ended up as a chicken burger
They are ordering *
It’s ok don’t feel sad I have gone through it again I’m 31 and I found an old dumbass 38 I thought he is already ready and he still acted like an 18 not a 38 year old men! He totally changed 100% no more contact with suddenly. I know he lost a lot I actually feel bad he lost me than I lost him because I know who I am. Same goes for you.. we have to let this people go so we truly match with the one who deserves us. I know it’s hard 😟 but I’m sure an exit means a new better entrance
A woman can falsely accuse you of sexual harrassment without proofs (a man too, but it's much less common).
People just want to use you and get very piss off when you kept rejected, then since they kept love bombing and using them for own self worth.
I agree with you. Another thing is if there are problems people don't short things out and work on it but easily give up.
For some men, the scariest thing about relationships are that now the girl also knows her rights.
She knows she is privileged. That is what she knows.
Nothing that hasn't been in the past. If you end up with a scumbag you get scumbag experiences regardless of era.
Cheat , lies and commitment issues
Agreed. I’ve had all those things happen to me too.
People lost the meaning of loyalty and commitment all together. It’s nothing like you see on the movies and shows with romance couples anymore in this generation.
The fact that anything at all could ruin it and end it
I agree. This is half the reason I stay single. I don't need that roller coaster ride.
Not being able to find one!!
That they will probably break your heart someday
Scary? Nothing.
Too many options
That's for sure. People don't know how to be loyal.
False accusations top the list.
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