What about relationships scares you the most?

[Anonymous]

For me, it’s not being good enough. That my partner is only with me out of obligation. I can do everything I can to be the best partner, but yet, it’s not good enough for him to stay. And then, one day, I hear the words, “I’m not happy with you anymore.”

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+1 y

To be honest, I get panic attacks. I don’t know if anyone else does.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Investing all your time, energy, and love in a person- only for them to leave you, get bored of you, or worse, cheat on you, because even after doing ALL that and telling/showing them how you feel, it's not enough.

Especially the ones that claim they'll, "Never leave you," or "I'm different from the others..." They usually hurt you the most :|

Nah, I'm good. Going to enjoy being single and drama free without fear of being cheated on, lied to, and dealing with relationship drama.

[Asker]

They say they won’t hurt you, but their actions speak differently.

[piang]

oh my
God thats what
he said and now im having
depression because of him. i wish i didn't met him

[Asker]

@piang Well, you need to make a decision. Either stay or end the relationship.

[piang]

i
wanted to stay
but im gonna die if i keep on continuing it. i invest all of it but in return nothing. he's narcissist too.

[NathanDavis]

I'm not scared anymore...

the one time was with my first girlfriend and those were high-school days... and then, I did have many fears and concerns... not only I had zero experience at all at age 16 but I also had a few too many doubts in my mind and about myself

more than feeling like I wasn't good enough... I was afraid that the not so good things about me were going to be much for someone else to want to deal with it... but luckily, I was wrong about that and fortunate as well... I was actually in the process of making a turn on these things that were troubling me...

so it was actually a very good timing, in which I dared and ventured to be in relationship and connect with someone else... and after that experience, and as I got older and went into new relationships... I have not doubted myself nor I have doubted the one that is willing to be with me

[Nik1hil]

I am so good at being alone and myself, that getting into a relationship will reduce the quality of my life..

I have never been in a relationship..

People who jump from relationship to relationship are not good at being with themselves.. if you leave them with a notebook and pen and enough food and music and solitude. In the middle of the forest.. in a cottage.. with no human interaction.. they will go mad..

unlike them, 99 out of 100 possible partners will only ruin the quality and peace of my life.. And I am already too damaged to suffer through 100 people to find that one, individual.

[qupid911]

I fear I’ll be too clingy, controlling and annoying. Most my family is controlling and I’ve caught myself many times. I don’t want to be controlling or nag or communicate my issue only for them to go over his head. I fear that we won’t be compatible in areas like cleaning the house. I fear that I’ll be way too annoying cause I love to talk and won’t shut up. I fear I’m too boring and just like to stay home most of the time. My roommate says I gaslight him even though I’m not trying too. I don’t want my partner to think I gaslight him. I don’t want to gaslight anyone. I fear I’ll be taken advantage of again and be too naive to recognize the signs early on. I fear I won’t take enough time to build a proper friendship before jumping into a relationship. I fear I’ll fuck everything up

[DizzyDesii]

Yea in the early stages, I feel the way you do. I always say never get too comfortable. So its hard to be truly happy when you never know if you can keep them happy in the long run. But more than feeling like I may not be what they truly want, I more so fear that I’ll self sabotage because they can't meet everything I want. I try not see it as settling and more so being thankful for coming close to what you want in life. But shit the person I’m currently with is probably the most opposite of what I wanted, but I see potential in him and love him, so I’m ride this shit til the wheels fall off

[petitedollbabee]

The fear that they’re only with me until they find someone better. That I’m just a “space filler”. I’ll put all that work and effort into the relationship and in the end they would leave me for someone else, because it was never about how much I put into the relationship, they were always going to leave regardless.
That fear doesn’t bother me usually, it’s very rare that I actually feel it. But it’s the only fear that I have when it comes to relationships.

[BadApple69]

Actually nothing scares me. I'll tell you why... I am the best person I can be. I give 100% of myself and there is nothing more. If my girlfriend rejects me then I know I gave it my all. There is nothing more we can do then to give it our all.
So be the best you can be... And I'm sure you'll be fine.

[Joshydavid25]

My biggest fear is when I gotta get used to actually being in one.. I've been single for so long that my pair bonding is a bit skewed.. I start overcompensate and drive the other person away.. I also always feel like I'm not enough..

[Asker]

I’ve been single my whole life. I don’t even know how well that’s going to work out if I decide to be with someone.

[Joshydavid25]

Most of my fear though, is more always leading up to a relationship.. But it'll work out fine if you let it.. If a guy is pursuing and really likes you and you get through the discomfort of uncertainty, you may find a prize at the end of the challenge.

[HaleyCatgirl]

I'm not too worried about it too much maybe like accidentally making him something that will make him sick that terrifies me actually thinking about that last thing I want to do is make anybody sick especially my boyfriend

[McLlovin]

Putting in so many years just to break up. Wasting time with someone thats never going to work.

[IlllllIll]

It's selfish but I am afraid of him dying first and leaving me alone.

If it does happen, I don't think there will never be another after him. He is the man of my life.

[Paulalove98]

For me it’s betrayal in any type of way. Somebody cheating on me, being two faced then stabbing my back, turning into a horrible person for the worst and it becoming a huge nightmare.

[Brittanykeen88]

It's not realizing my self worth enough to realize I deserve better until years into it.

[Unit1]

getting cheated on or being with me for whatever the amount of money or resources they can extract from me.

[Unit1]

Or ending up like any of these guys did

https://youtu.be/Dk7UE5XBzqE

[Asker]

Holy shit 😂
These videos are really entertaining. I love watching cheaters throw temper tantrums after getting caught. It’s fucking hilarious 😂

[Unit1]

For sure. Some of them (who got cheated on and found out) were creative about going about it. Some of them were pros like the police officer.
Now you see the fear of getting cheated on like that is experienced by all genders.

[Asker]

Wait, I have a serious question: Is having sex dreams really considered cheating?
The part where the girl says she had sex dreams about other people, they said she technically cheated. I mean, you really can’t control your dreams.

[Unit1]

Yeah, I was thinking the same as you when I've seen it. I don't get the dreaming about cheating part either.

[Asker]

I think some of these videos are staged. That’s what I believe.

[Unit1]

Even if they are staged somewhere this has certainly happened.

[Asker]

Oh, yeah. Definitely.

[LiamJHayden]

Nothing really. I know that if it does not work out that it is not meant to be and that they are more fish in the seas, so to speak.

[HouseMoat]

Fear of success, not failure. I tend to lose a lot, so, when I finally think something's going to succeed, I get scared, and run

[HouseMoat]

Panic attacks are usually when you just are having a hard time breathing, usually asthmatic people get it but, I do get everyone can get it. Are you sure you're not just asthmatic?

[Asker]

Yes, I’m sure. In fact, I had a panic attack the other day because my mind was overwhelmed.

[HouseMoat]

About what?

[Asker]

Stupid shit like what I mentioned in my post. About not being good enough.

[HouseMoat]

Why do you think you're not good enough?

[Asker]

There’s lots of things. For one, I’m inexperienced. So I don’t have any qualities of what men want in a woman.

[HouseMoat]

Well, you can't just assume you're not good enough, if you have no experience. To get experience you'll need to try something. At least see if you're enough

[Asker]

I’ll start looking at things differently once I meet that certain guy. Until then, I’m staying single.

[HouseMoat]

Experience comes with heartbreak. You gotta get SOME experience, even if it's the "wrong" guy

[caitycat21]

My worst fear is wasting years on a loser who treats me like trash

[dudeinohio]

That's my fear too... but... in life, most people go through several relationships. So, chances are you won't get it right first try. You just got to keep trying

[JackStany]

I'm afraid of being misunderstood by the person in front of me. Because, by nature, I am not a gentle person, and unintentionally, I can say hurtful words to the person in front of me.

[Asker]

Like telling me I’ll never find someone to have a future with because I seem obsessive?

[JackStany]

Ahahahahh 😂 Maybe

[Asker]

Well, since I’m obsessive, no relationship for me then 🤷‍♀️

[Akothee005]

Not being able to make him happy and contented with the relationship

[Hungryghostwriter]

Same here. I have one of those attachment styles. Anxious or avoidance or both I don't know. Never had a ltr because of this. Longest I've had lasted 3 months.

[swettannie]

We're never good enough. That's why we should always do our best

[Anonymous]

You know how I wish I had a chance to help you realize it's all your overthinking Sash! 💘

[Asker]

You need to stop. You’re creeping me out 🙄 I don’t even know who you are and you’re saying this weird shit.

[Simslover92]

That I'm going to mess it up.

[Altheavas]

Fear that I will forget about myself.

[piang]

thats what
i fear now

[Twalli]

If he picks you, you're good enough

[Asker]

But, for how long is he going to feel that way about me?

[Asker]

Nothing lasts forever. He could think I’m good enough in the beginning but what about years down the road? He’ll change his mind.

[Twalli]

People get married, so not all relationships end. Also you're 31, everyone who wants to date you is looking for a wife.

[Asker]

Marriage doesn’t last either.

[Twalli]

More often than not, it does. Less than 50% of marriages end in divorce

[whistlingwh0res]

dogs have big jews

[Daffotul]

cheating

[Slim57]

Getting cheated on