What's your biggest fear when it comes to relationships?

[itsmegrave]

My biggest fear is to have a relationship and lose it later. Being left alone and unloved.

[Finchie40]

I don’t really have a fear anymore , I been hurt to many times , Having my heart shit on and being cheated on , I been in relationships with girl’s that change like a flip of a switch , they love you and treat you amazing then bam you are an instant piece of shit and they treat ya like shit , like they are Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde , secretly having affairs with other guys , and lying to my face only really caring about themselves , Most girl’s I have been with were very selfish girl’s , My walls were built because of the girl’s that came into my life , for a girl to win my heart she has a lot of climbing to do , to prove to me she isn’t selfish , I guess my fear will be when a girl finally climbs over my walls and is face to face with me because I will be handing her my heart again praying she doesn’t destroy it

[itsmegrave]

So what happened to make you break up with them?

[Finchie40]

Cheated , caught my ex wife meeting a cop worker at a hotel

[Finchie40]

Co worker

[itsmegrave]

Sad!!!

[Finchie40]

Definitely a life changing experience , That made it harder for me to trust girls , she wasn’t the only one that cheated on me , I am not saying every girl cheats but a lot that do

[garykingg]

I don't think its a fear but in general I don't trust anyone.

So I stay away from relationships, I mean women can cheat on you out of the blue for no reason what so ever, why even try to be in a relationship in this day and age?

It makes no sense and there isn't any incentive to be loyal these days when dating apps are a click away, the opportunity to cheat is wide open and you won't even get caught.

Staying single is for the peace of mind in my opinion

[itsmegrave]

I understand , I feel the same !

[Cynicaldreamer]

Investing my time, energy, and love into someone only for them to leave me, get bored, or worse, cheat on me.

Relationships are a big investment, which nowadays people don't take seriously. You're seen as "disposable" to a degree. Rather than people trying to put effort into maintaining or saving a relationship when things go bad, they take the "easy" way out and find someone else instead. And then blame you for it not working out.

[itsmegrave]

Yes, It is awful

[Literalbillionaire17]

Being cheated on. If it’s not too serious of a relationship then whatever it’s easy to break ties but if it’s serious it’s harder for me. I m a very loyal person in nature.

[itsmegrave]

I feel the same way. But what if you get betrayed by someone who you thought was loyal? It could destroy your trust in others.

[Pinay_ako]

That it’s too good to be true coz I’m finally happy and then it turns out to be a nightmare

[Gent207-2]

Betrayal

My secrets, fears and weaknesses can cause greater damage than merely kissing a stranger. I've already been cheated on in times past and that's a different form of betrayal. However the former I perceive to be worse than the latter.

[TroyDT]

Marriage then ten years and one day later she blows it up on a whim, taking half of everything I busted my derriere to earn plus lifetime alimony.

[itsmegrave]

Oh no...

[TroyDT]

Why I will not get married unless they change the laws. Women who earn more than their prospective partners should also think about it.

[itsmegrave]

Yeah, I agree with that.

[Tina19]

My biggest fear is if my partner becomes controlling and dominating

[itsmegrave]

I believe you must overcome them.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Ignoring red flags and my instincts out of "compassion".

Happened twice, but at least I'm getting better at seeing red flags, calling them out, and ending things promptly.

[Darine123]

My biggest fear if he’s cheating , hurting me, thinking about their old love or being unloved

[itsmegrave]

I can understand this.

[Katebfun]

You'll definitely get your heart broken. You'll get up, cry and move on.. life is so much more than felleting love.

Biggest fear, marrying or dating a Narc again.

[dustybiker]

Letting them down. Life has tricky ways of manipulating situations to make us fall without fault.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Feeling like I am not enough, either because they cheat, have a secret family on the side, or lied to... or abused

[Xoxocutekitty]

Watching the other person slowly fall out of love with you or lose interest.

I don't care if it's 3 weeks or 3 years, it still hurts.

[FilmGuy93]

My fear really just boils down to not wanting to invest my time and effort into someone who doesn't appreciate the effort.

[Anonymous]

That I fall in love with a fake persona, because time reveals he's a player and manipulating.

[SushiSxnpai]

Being played, cheated on, abandoned and someone not actually loving me as they say they do.

[jshm2]

Ever having fear in the first place.

[itsmegrave]

Yeah.

[Nikki1989]

I have no fears.

[itsmegrave]

Just don't let anyone take advantage of you.

[genericname85]

never finding a decent one.

[Anonymous]

Same. Being cheated on or dumped.

[EaterPeter]

No chemistry, person getting too out of shape

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[CA4444]

Yeah same