What’s your greatest fear in a relationship?

Question

What’s the worst thing your partner could do to break you heart?

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

That I'll get comfortable potentially change for the worse for myself as a man if I'm not careful. Like guys who are in shape until they get into a relationship and get fat.

It's more common for two people to let themselves go in a relationship, basically pricing eachother out of the market, than for two people to help eachother truly improve.

Half the reason relationships commonly lose passion in my opinion is they both stop trying. They get a little pudgy. The do desexualizing things like being in the bathroom while one is on the toilet. Both fart when the other is around.

Little things that stack up over time to being less attracted to someone you love. It's too common for people to slack and do worse, because in their mind the other person can't leave/won't leave/"they love me" or some variation of taking advantage in a way.

lucas262 · Accepted Answer

My biggest fear? I guess my fear is I know what I am, try as I would I have some baggage I'll never be what I could have been. My fear is like other times in my life I believed I was just a normal guy but I was just trying so hard to act and live normal I'd fooled myself. Om afraid that old trauma would come back up and end things and id realize id been kidding myself the entire time thinking I could have something that seems meant for people who seemed whole.

Broken and trying to cover it up and waking up to reality one day.

I was gonna say being cheated on but I'd get over it this I wouldn't I'd probably lock part of me away and never dare try that whole bonding love thing again I know myself.

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

My dad cheated on my mother when I was 5, and even after my mom confronted him and him promising not to do it again, he cheated again twice. I don’t trust guys easily. I emotionally distance myself from them. I don’t want to end up with a guy like my dad. And a guy lying, telling me that he loves me when he clearly doesn’t. Cheating on me. Not genuinely caring about me. Things like that.

by the way I’m 16, and I’m not able to change the age on here

crazyish · Accepted Answer

To not have my best interest in mind. To not genuinely care about me. To not be able to understand and accept me at my worst. To not trust or believe in me. To not be able to see the real me and assume I'm like everyone else. And lastly but certainly not the least, lying or trying to manipulate/control me because of all of the above.

Kyesa · Answer

Lying is a big one, specifically about things that I would prefer honesty about such as losing interest, cheating, committing crimes- especially drug addictions for me personally because he has a history with the heavier stuff and I have grown up with parents with drug problems and wouldn't want to see him end up like them later in life. Especially if we ever had kids, I only want them to be able to have both parents present in their lives and have a better childhood than I did.
Even if it initially hurts either party to be honest, it saves me a lot of stress, heartbreak and trouble from if the problem has persisted without being addressed before getting worse.

JSmuve · Answer

My biggest fear is that she'd get comfortable because she'd have her sought after commitment and stop putting in effort. Then after enough time, she'd begin seeing someone behind my back that she thinks is "better" in some way and cheat on me until she can secure something with him and leave me in the lurch.

Nikola321 · Answer

Well, since I get bored off stuff easily, I'm scared what if I get bored or smth like that. I really like that girl and I don't wanna hurt her because of smth stupid like that.

OutWestBandit · Answer

Leading you on.

Broken trust is easy - you break up and leave. Cheating is the same thing, you show them the door and they hopefully go away.

However there are some sadistic people out there. Someone that does some next-level mind games are the worst.
Get pregnant by someone else and lie to you.
Fuck other guys and say it never happened.
etc.

meanwhile you are so convinced they are yours - and getting unstuck from them becomes a problem.

MissGeorgia · Answer

Probably lie to me. Even over the littlest things... or especially over the littlest things. It casts doubt over the whole relationship forever more.
You never know if you can believe a word your partner is saying after that.

AlphaRosie69 · Answer

Lying, not being loved, him losing interest in me. Honestly, that's something I feel like he's doing now. Although he'll deny this but lacks the effort to show that I'm wrong. Or refuses to show the effort. The first thing I say when I meet someone is "don't lie to me" because the minute you lie to me, you lose all credibility. I will doubt you and suspect things. It will ruin the relationship. It's usually the first rule they break. Sigh.

Novacane · Answer

Getting cheated on, not just that but me catching them cheating on me, I don't know what I would do. I am sure at the moment I would maybe just walk away and never talk to them again but the amount of pain this is going to cause is beyond me, that is now a way to kill a man's ego. That is something I would never forget or forgive because that's like degrading your significant other.

VanillaSalt · Answer

I greatest fear is marriage so I won’t get married. Women aren’t worth more than the good fuck I’ll give em anyways. There’sa free rate specimens that could be something special… but in the end the rate is divorce… the costs of divorce… the risks of divorce… coupled with the meaning of marriage today… I won’t even consider it.

JustinTimberlegs · Answer

That one day she will really get to know me and decide she doesn't like it. Like the real me isn't good enough. Or that she never really thought much of me, just didn't have a better option.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

My greatest fear is that I will end up in an abusive relationship. I'm a pretty small guy and I have a real problem standing up for myself or disagreeing with someone. It would be extremely easy for a guy to groom me as a victim

grega239 · Answer

Being cheated on, used , abused , lied to , manipulated and then blamed for it and dropped like shit... oh wait all of that already happened

Question_091 · Answer

A woman that rushes too quickly through the relationship (e. g. only being together in two days, and already planning marriage and kids - clingy)

Also, if she is paranoid about me leaving her. Which I may do, because she's paranoid about me leaving her.

But no matter the fears, I have to express my concerns with her and work them out. And if anything goes wrong, I'll have police on speed dial. This all hypothetical by the way.

DaisyAimi · Answer

To start a life with me (settling down and getting me pregnant) and to leave right after i got a child or get pregnant. I really want to raise my children with the dad.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

My greatest fear is that she will turn into a monster.

menina · Answer

Finding out that I'm dating a racist. I guess that's the risk I take because I'm into white guys and I'm black.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Lying, cheating, betrayal of any kind, using my own vulnerability to undermine me or humiliate me, falling for a narcissist without realising. You know, the usual.

RingOfFire · Answer

Greatest fear? When she says "We have to talk." Nothing strikes fear in me like that line! Turns my knees to jelly! It's never good!

misslalindy · Answer

To be cheated on. Just thinking about it hurts me to the core.

DaisyM23 · Answer

Cheating probably? Or them being some kind of psycho serial killer/rapist and forever being known as the person who didn’t know [] was crazy 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Mine is falling hard for someone and being my “nice guy” self to her. Going through all the effort, time, money and heart thinking she’s different. All while this is going on she gives me some initial positive feedback. Then one day she turns into a piece of sh*t and leaves (or worse cheats and tries to justify it) because she finds me boring.

That happened more than once in the past (I haven’t been knowingly cheated on though I was suspicious). I will never let it happen again.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

Either being cheated on or abused. I’m not down for either and couldn’t even think about doing those things to someone else. If someone did either to me, it’d ruin me

exitseven · Answer

I had somebody break up with me in the most cruel way imaginable. I never saw it coming and she never apologized or explained.  Knowing she cared so little was worse than the breakup itself.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I haven't been in one yet, but I guess it would be the fear of loosing her and never finding someone that good again, and that fear ruining the relationship.
Also, getting deceived or turned down. I afraid of fallinv in love since it only ended badly.
Another one would be, loosing privacy

Slartybartfast · Answer

Being used and dumped again.  Tired if spending years of my life working two jobs to pay off women's debts.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Jodi Arias killed her lover while Amber Heard falsely accused hers of abusing her while she herself abused him. Either of these would be my worst fear in a relationship.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Hercules loses his strength and not even the little blue pill can resurrect him he's down for the count, that's scary serious but I don't think much about it, too often, ok more with each passing year,

rienna888 · Answer

Stop loving me one day or leave me for a girl better

Anonymous · Answer

That they have been lying to me about something essential all along or for an extended period of time.

Anonymous · Answer

That she'll wake up one day and decide that she wants to go off and do her own thing, potentially running both our futures. If it happens, I imagine it'll be a surprise for us both so not really something we can plan for.

Blackcupcake · Answer

Breaking my trust by either not being loyal or talking about things I’ve told him about myself to others.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Having my heart broken, whether through being cheated on or her finding someone better.

Pummel · Answer

What it has always been, an unfaithful partner.. This is one of the reasons I have not had a relationship in over 15 years.. I don't date either (but that reason is to be answered another time)

GollyRojer · Answer

Lying to me. Not necessarily about having an affair; it may simply be something she hid from me, but I fear not knowing my partner, not knowing what she's really thinking. To discover I've been lied to, that she is capable of deceiving me and pretending to be someone she is not would most likely drive me to end the relationship.

Marhaban-1 · Answer

The other person in many ways I always end up chasing after mental people it woudlnt suprize me If my ex girlfriend was the next charles mansion

MCheetah · Answer

Finding out that she's unfaithful/queer, or that "she" is really a he. But yeah, cheaters, "bi"/queer women, and transwomen are the last things I'd want to date.

Twalli · Answer

Lie about cheating. I might forgive cheating if you tell me soon after it happened. I won't if you don't. So 3 days after cheating, you might keep me. A month probably not.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell me that my penis is too small and dump me because of that ☹️

karaspara · Answer

Being cheated on just makes you feel totally worthless

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Join a MLM pyramid scheme cult. I don't date man that are involve with MLM's.

AdithyaR · Answer

My greatest fear is that I could do everything right and still end getting dumped and broken.

Browneye57 · Answer

Fuck someone else and lie about it. Then leave. Isn't that number one? The ultimate betrayal? Are you kids really that fucking confused?

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Her or me dying before we have a chance to see how our relationship pans out into forever or to nevermind

innerman · Answer

Realizing “I LOVE YOU”...  only those you care about can hurt you

Willoughby23 · Answer

I've never been in a relationship. If was in one I would fear being cheated on

ALewis30 · Answer

Not taking me serious, cheating on me and not respecting me.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Lying, not being loved, her losing interest in me, cheating

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I dont have any fear.. if she leaves me I will thank her for giving me a chance to find someone better😂

es20490446e · Answer

What I do is getting to know the person as soon as possible, so if there is a breakup it is soon too.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Getting cheated on or him falling out of love with me

DizzyDesii · Answer

Wasting my time. I hate it

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Being cheated on it abusive relationship

hannny · Answer

Not prioritizing the relationship

John_2412 · Answer

Still never been in a relationship at 24, but already had my heart broken a few times...

McKellar · Answer

Inevitably leave you for various, bullshit reasons.

TurkishGirl_ · Answer

pretending to love but not loving and cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

That I won't be enough

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating. Or ghosting.

Jenngirl00 · Answer

We stop going down the Same path

TessCasie · Answer

No understanding  no faith  no compromise

american1 · Answer

why erect a statue of a criminal george floyd and remove our history statues

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