To not have my best interest in mind. To not genuinely care about me. To not be able to understand and accept me at my worst. To not trust or believe in me. To not be able to see the real me and assume I'm like everyone else. And lastly but certainly not the least, lying or trying to manipulate/control me because of all of the above.
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That I'll get comfortable potentially change for the worse for myself as a man if I'm not careful. Like guys who are in shape until they get into a relationship and get fat.
It's more common for two people to let themselves go in a relationship, basically pricing eachother out of the market, than for two people to help eachother truly improve.
Half the reason relationships commonly lose passion in my opinion is they both stop trying. They get a little pudgy. The do desexualizing things like being in the bathroom while one is on the toilet. Both fart when the other is around.
Little things that stack up over time to being less attracted to someone you love. It's too common for people to slack and do worse, because in their mind the other person can't leave/won't leave/"they love me" or some variation of taking advantage in a way.
My biggest fear? I guess my fear is I know what I am, try as I would I have some baggage I'll never be what I could have been. My fear is like other times in my life I believed I was just a normal guy but I was just trying so hard to act and live normal I'd fooled myself. Om afraid that old trauma would come back up and end things and id realize id been kidding myself the entire time thinking I could have something that seems meant for people who seemed whole.
Broken and trying to cover it up and waking up to reality one day.
I was gonna say being cheated on but I'd get over it this I wouldn't I'd probably lock part of me away and never dare try that whole bonding love thing again I know myself.
My dad cheated on my mother when I was 5, and even after my mom confronted him and him promising not to do it again, he cheated again twice. I don’t trust guys easily. I emotionally distance myself from them. I don’t want to end up with a guy like my dad. And a guy lying, telling me that he loves me when he clearly doesn’t. Cheating on me. Not genuinely caring about me. Things like that.
by the way I’m 16, and I’m not able to change the age on here
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Lying is a big one, specifically about things that I would prefer honesty about such as losing interest, cheating, committing crimes- especially drug addictions for me personally because he has a history with the heavier stuff and I have grown up with parents with drug problems and wouldn't want to see him end up like them later in life. Especially if we ever had kids, I only want them to be able to have both parents present in their lives and have a better childhood than I did.
Even if it initially hurts either party to be honest, it saves me a lot of stress, heartbreak and trouble from if the problem has persisted without being addressed before getting worse.My biggest fear is that she'd get comfortable because she'd have her sought after commitment and stop putting in effort. Then after enough time, she'd begin seeing someone behind my back that she thinks is "better" in some way and cheat on me until she can secure something with him and leave me in the lurch.
Well, since I get bored off stuff easily, I'm scared what if I get bored or smth like that. I really like that girl and I don't wanna hurt her because of smth stupid like that.
Leading you on.
Broken trust is easy - you break up and leave. Cheating is the same thing, you show them the door and they hopefully go away.
However there are some sadistic people out there. Someone that does some next-level mind games are the worst.
Get pregnant by someone else and lie to you.
Fuck other guys and say it never happened.
etc.
meanwhile you are so convinced they are yours - and getting unstuck from them becomes a problem.Probably lie to me. Even over the littlest things... or especially over the littlest things. It casts doubt over the whole relationship forever more.
You never know if you can believe a word your partner is saying after that.Lying, not being loved, him losing interest in me. Honestly, that's something I feel like he's doing now. Although he'll deny this but lacks the effort to show that I'm wrong. Or refuses to show the effort. The first thing I say when I meet someone is "don't lie to me" because the minute you lie to me, you lose all credibility. I will doubt you and suspect things. It will ruin the relationship. It's usually the first rule they break. Sigh.
Getting cheated on, not just that but me catching them cheating on me, I don't know what I would do. I am sure at the moment I would maybe just walk away and never talk to them again but the amount of pain this is going to cause is beyond me, that is now a way to kill a man's ego. That is something I would never forget or forgive because that's like degrading your significant other.
I greatest fear is marriage so I won’t get married. Women aren’t worth more than the good fuck I’ll give em anyways. There’sa free rate specimens that could be something special… but in the end the rate is divorce… the costs of divorce… the risks of divorce… coupled with the meaning of marriage today… I won’t even consider it.
That one day she will really get to know me and decide she doesn't like it. Like the real me isn't good enough. Or that she never really thought much of me, just didn't have a better option.
My greatest fear is that I will end up in an abusive relationship. I'm a pretty small guy and I have a real problem standing up for myself or disagreeing with someone. It would be extremely easy for a guy to groom me as a victim
Being cheated on, used , abused , lied to , manipulated and then blamed for it and dropped like shit... oh wait all of that already happened
A woman that rushes too quickly through the relationship (e. g. only being together in two days, and already planning marriage and kids - clingy)
Also, if she is paranoid about me leaving her. Which I may do, because she's paranoid about me leaving her.
But no matter the fears, I have to express my concerns with her and work them out. And if anything goes wrong, I'll have police on speed dial. This all hypothetical by the way.To start a life with me (settling down and getting me pregnant) and to leave right after i got a child or get pregnant. I really want to raise my children with the dad.
My greatest fear is that she will turn into a monster.
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Finding out that I'm dating a racist. I guess that's the risk I take because I'm into white guys and I'm black.
Lying, cheating, betrayal of any kind, using my own vulnerability to undermine me or humiliate me, falling for a narcissist without realising.
You know, the usual.Greatest fear?
When she says "We have to talk."
Nothing strikes fear in me like that line! Turns my knees to jelly! It's never good!To be cheated on. Just thinking about it hurts me to the core.
Cheating probably? Or them being some kind of psycho serial killer/rapist and forever being known as the person who didn’t know [] was crazy 😂
Mine is falling hard for someone and being my “nice guy” self to her. Going through all the effort, time, money and heart thinking she’s different. All while this is going on she gives me some initial positive feedback. Then one day she turns into a piece of sh*t and leaves (or worse cheats and tries to justify it) because she finds me boring.
That happened more than once in the past (I haven’t been knowingly cheated on though I was suspicious). I will never let it happen again.
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