Dude, this is a tricky situation for sure. On one hand, you still really care about her and want things to work out. But on the other hand, she did break things off and said she needed space. The mixed signals would be messing with my head too.
A few things to think about:
- Have an honest talk with her about your concerns and where you both see things going. Get clarity on if she wants to try again or if she's just being friendly.
- Make sure you take care of yourself too. Don't get your hopes up again until you're sure she's ready for something real.
- Take it slow if you do reconnect. Re-building trust after a breakup takes time. No need to jump right back into a relationship.
- Focus on your exams too. Having your head in the right space academically is important.
Ultimately you need to decide what feels right for you long-term. If being friends is all she wants for now, is that enough? Or is it better to move on fully? You got this either way man. Just make the choice that leaves you feeling most at peace. It'll all work out how it's meant to.
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No do not return
What you are missing now is the selective memories of happy times, you do not miss the real version of her. The real version of her is why you left.
If you return you will leave again in a worst state then you are today. But if you stay the course and mourn the death you will be free
To me it sounds like it is both of your best interests to focus on the studies and exams and then when that stressful time has passed maybe take a look at whether you think it is worth getting back together or not. I don't see any benefit in doing it when you focus is going to be elsewhere. I think the added stress of studying and exams is just going to create more problems than it does solutions. That is what she wanted anyhow. So take this time to get over the hump and then when that is all done you can think (and focus) on a relationship... whether that is with her or someone else. If it was just a minor argument that caused the breakup then there is a chance you could reconcile. Just finish up with the school stuff first.
You are not serious about making this work. If you were, you would NOT be persisting on all the useless texting.
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I would have said to her..
You asked for space.. not me.. I'm doing the responsible thing by giving you what you asked for. Now let me concentrate on passing these exams.. When they're finished, and if you want to then talk about 'us' we can talk!
You need to focus on yourself so you so obsessing about her. If you get back with her, it's needs to be on your terms. She dumped you so leave her alone. If she misses you, she'll come back but you shouldn't chase her as the person who was dumped. There are better women out there than someone who dumped you
Sounds like a young girl who doesn't know what she wants. Depends how you want to play it. I might be inclined to not expect too much, not impose myself too much, be cordial, and play it by ear. It may be she'll come round, it may be she'll decide she wasn't someone else. Just don't let her keep you in her back pocket for when she'll bored or lonely. There's no power in that
My exes and I broke up on good terms. We remain friend with benefits.
Move on and find somebody new. And make sure you study for finals
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