Do constant disagreements cause breakups?

[Daniela1982]

I know they don't help anything. But if you are continually disagreeing, it might be that you are not right for each other. What do you think?

[DrPepper12]

Great question. I was talking about this with my counselor this morning that my SO and I have essentially diametrically opposite views of teenage independence. My logical mind says that I should defer to her because she's all about safety and protection and supervision but my emotional mind says that she's doing them no favors by not letting them make mistakes on their own. I don't know about you guys but any meaningful lesson I ever learned was the result of a mistake.

[Daniela1982]

I'm assuming you mean letting them make their own mistakes if they don't heed your advice. I remember when I was a kid my mom told me not to touch the top of the stove as it was hot. I kept trying and was not listening. So she let me get burned. From that I learned a valuable lesson. That was to listen to your mother as she was giving good advice. Stubbornness doesn't help yourself.

[DrPepper12]

Same here. The HARD WAY was how I learned and I have the scars to prove it. There's only so many things you can learn from a book...

[Daniela1982]

😉👍🏼

[Zbrody1997]

Well yeah, some disagreements are normal but to agree with everything or disagree with everything is a sign of an unhealthy relationship

[DrPepper12]

My friend broke up with his girl because her answer for everything was "whatever you wanna do sweetie" and she never had a original thought of her own. Totally right!!

[northerngal]

There is no problem with having disagreements. Having fights is healthy. The key is to have disagreements and fight fair. Do not get personal. Really listen to what the other has to say. But if you frequently disagree and it gets personal and results in hurt feelings and no resolution you have a problem.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It really depends on what it is. A lot can be tackled before getting together. You can find out what you agree and disagree on before getting together. No need to jump in a relationship because "the energy is right at the time"

[exitseven]

Yes, after a while it just becomes a bad relationship.

[Likes2drive]

It can if they are always about the same thing and never get resolved

[Jennz6]

You bet they do

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, who needs constant bickering.