Should couples stay together if they argue all the time?

Question

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

A small amount of arguing is normal, and some of it is actually helpful to get through some issues and getting to know each other. How else can this happen if we don't find what pushes our buttons and what means the most to us?

But arguing all the time? No. Some couples start out early and program each other into arguing as a regular form of communication, and have a hard time getting out of it. It causes undue stress, and is absolutely useless. Sometimes, it's just a signal that the two people are simply not suited for each other if they can never agree or get along. Some people argue for sport, and have never realized how to hone their relationship skills, and feel as though it's an enjoyable (albeit, sick) way to get attention from their partner knowing they can get a rise out of them. This is abuse. Plain and simple.

Then there's this to consider: what exactly is being said in these arguments? If one person is using the heat of the moment to say something incredibly hurtful to their partner all to just say later on that they 'didn't mean it', that's abuse too. No one should have to sit and listen to garbage that is meant to make someone feel bad, steering from the issue itself to get personal like that.

In my opinion, if they can get a handle on the way they react to their every day issues and can curb the arguing, perhaps they can make it work. If they cannot do this, then it's a sad reality that they just aren't suited for each other.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I did for a long time but then one day when I moved to a new place in my state, I just broke it off when not even realizing I had. A year later, Well, we are at a good place now where the venting and bad resentment has toned itself and a loving heart is still there. Open lines of communication no matter if you stay or go.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Depends on what the arguing is about and how extreme the arguing is? Usually it’s bad if you both are threatening each other and giving each other ultimatums or if one of you leaves without saying where you are going than that’s not good and you should probably reconsider that relationship , but if you are arguing over petty things , like you didn’t do what I asked you to do type of shit , then that surprisingly is a good thing , it means you both have passion for each other especially if you both stay in the same place and nobody leaves then you both make up in a reasonable amount of time and say sorry to each other and have make up sex etc. So arguing is only good if you both are choosing to work it out together , it’s not good if you are constantly being attacked for no reason what so ever , it usually means the person starting the arguments is up to no good and trying to play a victim when really
They are the piece of shit usually it means they are jealous of you or they don’t value you like they use to , they are more than likely investing their time onto someone else r they like someone else so instead of admitting the truth they are just going to play a victim to give them an excuse for their selfish actions

normalice · Accepted Answer

There are merits to either. If they are about equally self absorbed staying together will force them to let in each other's perspectives over time. But if one is substantially more self absorbed than the other, that's toxic and they should split.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

That’s for them to decide, not me🤷‍♀️

Rei13 · Answer

It honestly depends on the arguments and how both people handle them. Some people just like to argue. If they are constructive and not tearing down the other person, probably still stop arguing so much, but that is fine. However if the arguments are nasty/unconstructive where you are purposefully trying to hurt each other seek counseling or separate as that isn’t healthy for either person

Sweetsurprize · Answer

ALL  the time? If that is true, probably not. I think it would also depend on what it is they were arguing about I believe, but if they were arguing, it is a symptom of incompatibility in my opinion. Either that, or they don't have good conflict resolution skills. That's important I hear.  Sometimes, arguements CAN bring a couple closer but like I said, it would probably depend on what it is they were arguing about and how THE PROBLEM was resolved or solved..

LazerBean · Answer

If they are not married, then of course not. Obviously there's a problem, and it's better to find someone that you don't have problems with than it is a fix the problem. Once you're married though, you better suck it up, lay down in the bed you made, and figure things out with the person you vowed to be with for the rest of your life.

ODC2112 · Answer

A friend told me, my parents have nothing in common, they argue all the time and they have 4 children. Arguing is a form of communication, communication is the basis of every relationship. Their marriage is solid they have been married for more than 40 years.
A relative of mine, on the other hand, never wanted to quarrel with his wife, he is a man who rejects conflict and wants to deal with anyone, at one point his wife got tired and left him.

Nikki1989 · Answer

If it is all the time, then maybe it would be best if they broke up.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to be careful. Depends how they are arguing.

Some couple bicker a lot which also means their thoughts and feelings are openly shared. Their relationship may tolerate this well.

Others are close to killing one another and live in a hell of their own making. It's hard to see why they remain together.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Argue in what way? If it is minor stuff and the have have good conflict resolution skills, then perhaps. Otherwise, I'd say no.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Depends on what they're arguing about... Arguing about things that directly affect the relationship?  Yes so long as they find a solution  Matching outfits, Instagram? No

artgorgeous · Answer

Depends how they argue. If in the end they have crazy sex, they should stay together. But if in the end she slaps a door and he drives to a bar, probably not.

petitedollbabee · Answer

It’s normal to argue occasionally. But if it’s a daily occurrence, and over small and petty things? No, don’t stay together.

solitarysoul · Answer

I don't know, but based on my own observations, they actually seem to enjoy arguing, which is why they end up separating.

electromagnetic · Answer

I think a little disagreement here and there is healthy. However, if it’s constant, daily and rather heated, time for couples therapy or leave.

sheikalana · Answer

Depends what the argument is about and how they argue. If they are aggressive and tend to say hurtful things to each other then is best if they part ways.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Nope. Especially if it's the same arguments over and over. Do both of you a favor and split up. Life is too short.

Simslover92 · Answer

No I don't think so. That will only lead to more problems down the road especially if a kid becomes added to the equation.

DiegoO · Answer

If the arguments don't have no resolution and if the arguments literally go from "you never do this well" to "you need to change", it means therapy, and in the worst or best case, the termination of the relation.

Iron_Man · Answer

If they’re in love, sometimes couples are immature. They have to learn to talk it out and to work through their problems without throwing in the towel. Some people can get it together and change things if they work on it.

Anonymous · Answer

If it's resolved after and it's not constantly happening it's not a problem it just shows you are fighting to be with your SO, when you can't even fight for someone by arguing to fix it it's already over for the couple

Yannae · Answer

If the arguments turns them into a couple that is more unhappy than happy, I don't think they should stay together. They should at least find a compromise quick.

clampfan101 · Answer

It’s part of life when people live together. That doesn’t mean everyone should live alone. Plus there’s ways to make it happen less often and less strong.

Unit1 · Answer

It is draining if its on the regular *and* if they can't simply agree to disagree and move on. It is not something i'd want to be in.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Yes if they were married and they must find a solution to for their arguments and try to be more understanding

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Yes  from what I’ve heard that’s the difference between couples who go the distance and ones who break up

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, they should not. They should break up immediately.

Likes2drive · Answer

Probably not, it’s no fun at all living like that, been there done that

Minahh · Answer

They should obviously break up, people are so dumb in relationships

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Fuck no. Been there done that.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Probably not. Arguing a lot is not a good sign.

Sasha0426 · Answer

If it’s 24/7 non stop, yes.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

No, it sucks.

msc545 · Answer

Possibly. It depends on many other things.

Anonymous · Answer

This is the dumbest question to be asked.

no_feet_pics · Answer

Of course not

Anonymous · Answer

To be frank , No

MaxUsefull · Answer

Of course not

Should couples stay together if they argue all the time?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do couples who frequently fight can still be married? or they should just give up?

Should couples stay together if they argue all the time?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do couples who frequently fight can still be married? or they should just give up?

We're glad to see you liked this post.