Why do women show me more attention in person, rather than online?

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I am 24 year old male who is decently attractive, however in person I have noticed that women will go out there way to be nice to me, speak to me even if I don’t know them and a lot girls in the past have approached but I declined because i think they was just using me for attention. Although, online women will not respond to my text, if they ask what I look like and I send a pic they will often delete me which is making rethinking, am I as attractive as I think I am.

sadstrawberry · Accepted Answer

Loyality is rare. I'm rare because I'm hardcore loyal. But around me I saw many guys triple dating like my 2 ex, my own male cousins and more. It's bad especially in era where dating apps are prevalent. People forgot what it's like to have feelings and love someone and is busy looking directly for intimacy. We are the ones that create intimacy. It's hard to trust anyone now because people say something else, think something else and do something else. It's scary. So if you're guy I think girls cheat less and guys cheat a lot. I think you should be a giver and the girl in return if she loves you back will give you too. Making money when you're young and after 25 find love. Because, I feel people are not very mature and experiment and shit when they're young so find someone who is mindful, knows themselves and loves themselves enough and who has set certain standards for herself, so that she can love you consistently and most importantly love someone only if you love yourself and is content with yourself. Because happiness and love is interrelated. You can't find love or happiness in someone else if you can't find it in yourself first. Okay?

So make money when young and love someone when you're content with yourself and love yourself a lot first be it 25 or 28 or 29 whatever.. to be able to love someone else okay?

One more thing, don't love someone so much that you become second priority for yourself. Keep yourself first, family second, and rest friends etc. I mean love yourself more and then your parents /family and then you would love anyone else. But yourself on top always. If you make someone else your 1st priority, you'll end up hurting yourself.

Cute_Miss_Laura · Accepted Answer

For a LOT of women it’s way easier to be friendly to a guy, especially if he’s cute, in the real world, because we don’t life in the sci-fi world of Mission Impossible, where the cute 24y/o guy will tear off the 24yo mask and a 50 year old guy will be under there! Nobody can lie about who they are in person. Also when I meet a nice guy in person, there is almost ZERO chance he’s gonna show me his dick! Online that “cute 24yo” might be an old guy, and he might very well show me a dick pic within 5 minutes of saying hello! That’s the toxicity of the online space. Whenever a guy drops into my DM, I’m so on guard, B/C I’m just waiting for the link that reads “hey this is me, tell me what you think,. Do you think that I'm cute, what about my outfit?” and when I open it, it’s a wrinkly old guy dick! Maybe that’s why? Especially if you get a lot of attention in the RW, why would you even care about the online space? Just enjoy real life, it's way more fun, sweetie… Promise!

Hope this helps, Laura 💋

sawno · Accepted Answer

Very similar answer to something i just answered but online expectations get skewed because she may have had unrealistic matches far prettier than you who really just want a sex partner and are leading her on into thinking she has a long term chance with them. So if she compares you to them you aren't attractive by comparison and she may as well not do it.

Meanwhile in real life they see your actual value, less skewed perspective since your not compared to men from all over but to the other men local. And she will not just get your looks but your general vibe which is far more telling to her if you are interesting or not.

So you definitely have your vibe down since your giving off the right vibes, and I assume you are genuinely very attractive, just unrealistic expectations on apps.

he-takes-a-part · Accepted Answer

Trust me you'll get all but opinions for this especially by girls here online is fake etc and had the question been reversed the same girls would have answered that online is safe at least not physical chance. Those girls are just for themselves there time to be more momentous and happening, if you entertain them and fall prey to their way they would easily take over tease and give nothing to you. Same happened with me mostly. But I knew that if she's giving me a lot of attention then I had to askeher until where does she see this going. If I don't get satisfied answer I would not entertain her there itself. Why be someone joker.

_Maya_ · Answer

It is a lot easier to be comfortable in person in many ways. Online I am much more guarded because I don't know what that person's intentions are. Are they going to send me some picture I don't want to see? Are they going to change the subject to sex? I'm much more careful online because once someone gets in my messages there is only one way to get them out which is to block them. I don't like having to do that. It is also a heck of a lot harder to get to know a person online. You should always be weary of if what you are hearing is true or what that person thinks you want to hear to impress you. In person it is much easier to get a sense of someone because you can see physical reactions and cues.

ZackBan · Answer

Bad pictures most probably.

Men suck at posing for pictures and many times good looking guys end up looking like cave trolls in a dating profile or other social media.

I would say make the most out of yhe irl attention, that is worth a lot more.

But if you wanna get better online results you have to look up and learn about how to take good pictures. There's tons of advice out there. Both good and bad. But you can pick whatever seems logical to you and make an informed decision.

bobalife · Answer

Maybe in-person, you appeared to be more approachable whereas your pictures may seem the opposite or it’s bad pictures? (If this is solely about ghosting you after exchanging pics). Maybe it’s time to take new pics? Haha. I remember when I used to do dating apps, I’ve met a ton of guys who looked good on their profile but in-person they’re even way handome…. Pictures don’t always do people justice and show their real personalities. For example, my friends said I can look “serious” on my pics, but in-person I’m very chill & bubbly.

HawkPerception · Answer

All the women answering here are either lying on purpose or in denial.

The fact is women get much more attention online than men ever will. Their egos are extremely inflated. They are the types to post their daily lives on Instagram. They will only go for the top guys online, but in person those same girls can't get guys half of that level. Guys will always do much better in person. Dating apps are always a way to lower a guy's self esteem. Don't let it get to you.

molonski2 · Answer

I think seeing you = actual , you are real you are there.

Online , you never quite know no matter how good the picture may be , you are a good looking dude they know that for sure when they see you there , real , its happening and they are all over you.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Because women get a lot of attention online in comparison to real life where most guys will just walk past not even giving them a glance.. It also could be because it's more common to see and get attention from a nice looking guy online as opposed to it being fairly rare in real life..

TycheKairos · Answer

No woman wants to experience something virtual when she can experience something with you in real life.

Other than that, there are a lot of things you express. As a result, I think you need to gain experience and catch up.

RingOfFire · Answer

Could be because they are approached by so many men online and also because you tend to discount your online suiters since there is always a chance they are fakes, their pictures are of someone else, etc. Women get a lot more suiters online than men because men are the ones who are supposed to be the ones to initiate.

SotiCoto · Answer

I already answered this question, so I wasn't sure why it continued to be shoved in my face over and over again... only to check again and find my response isn't even here. How utterly fucking annoying.

Well, I can't be bothered to type it out in full again.
People just lie with pictures a lot online so nobody trusts them any more. You can't lie as easily about how you look in meat-space. Simple as that.

Peridot25 · Answer

Ok, let me get this straight: You had women approach you in real life but you turned them down. You had women delete you from online after seeing your pictures and you’re wondering if you’re attractive.
You had the opportunity to go out with women when they approached you in real life. Help me make this sense!

Sharkstealth · Answer

Stop going online in fact stop even getting on this. It will only hurt you down the line. Social media is a disease. Just acknowledge and respond to the women showing you interest. Don't let them fall in to the dark abyss of life's turn. Your heart strings will never be able to bring them back and they will be forever lost.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Bc online has more risk. Fake profiles catfishing etc. plus women get plenty of attention from online users what makes u think ur special?

Ditch the online dating apps and find a real woman, not an AI or a man

Aubrey97 · Answer

I'm a bit lost on your complaint. You go to a club as you say, but reject any woman who comes up to you? Then you go try to find them online instead? Just skip the club?

AviatorTom · Answer

Simple. In-person contact is almost always different, and better, than online contact. There's no hiding things in person, whereas online, people hide things, their age, use a younger picture, etc.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Probably bad pictures though I know a lot of guys who don't look that great in a picture but after talking to them in person or video call they became so much more lol

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Healthy women respond to people they trust and they have a harder time trusting somebody who has many unknown variables about him they can't evaluate or measure.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Maybe it’s bc online you shows more of your personality than your face and online women don’t want to deal with yet another man who just seems to want nothing more than mindless sex or whatever

perpetualsadnessss · Answer

Your online chat might be bad? Some people are boring on text and great in person. Some people are funny on text and then awkward in life. I've met many cases like that when dating.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Apart from your decent but (according to you) not great looks, women may find you interesting, especially if you're a good conversationalist.(Women seem to deem moderately attractive men less arrogant than Golden Boys.)

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because the only way to get to know someone is in person. Online is a dead end unless you are very lucky.

DishLady · Answer

You probably have a pretty face or something. 😂 You're complaining? That’s a darn good “problem” to have!

boggboss · Answer

Women online get bombarded with guys messaging them so more likely then not u wo t get response

4ngelic · Answer

people are less attractive in pics, its called stop motion effect (i think)

mstbooblover · Answer

I have the feeling it's a good sign if women pay real attention to you in real life instead of online ! Do not complain mate, and enjoy ;0)

Wise4myage · Answer

I believe its because they feel its safer and more comfortable because they know who they are talking too.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Well if in person is working better then do more then that.

strateguy632 · Answer

because you are attractive. but online they fear you are just another creep like most.

Avicenna · Answer

Because there aren't as many distractions...

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think because they can interact easier and body language tells a lot more than justy verbal or texting

Anonymous · Answer

Because online you have 196 heavily filtered photos to compete with, irl there's only lovely you standing in front of them. What a wonderful world..

DrPepper12 · Answer

What app? gag? Diff apps have diff user bases / purposes maybe?

gorydetails · Answer

So your goal is to have a relationship with a woman in person, right?

KostasKouvalis · Answer

In person they know exactly what they're dealing with

Iron_Man · Answer

Because you probably don’t show your picture just like here

whistlingwh0res · Answer

all men are gentle scumbags and all women are innocent hookers

In_Trance · Answer

Online you can be anything you want which most often is not what they want

DreamLife7 · Answer

It's called normal polite interaction. Maybe you lack normal social skills

leahzrc · Answer

You can't trust anyone online.

butterly248 · Answer

A lot of women get attention online lol

Anonymous · Answer

Your social skills probably differ.

krin_m · Answer

Isn't it better that way?

Jkgordon · Answer

It depends

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