How Do I Get Noticed By Women?

[xheymanx]

As a lifelong single individual and a 45-year-old virgin, I've encountered repeated rejection and struggled to connect with potential partners throughout my life.

I'm genuinely interested in your perspective on what makes a person attractive or interesting. Given my unique situation, as someone who has been single for my entire life, what qualities stand out to you?

Confidence is an area I'm actively working on, and I'd love your insights. At my age, how can someone like me build confidence? How does confidence manifest itself to you?

As a soft-spoken, kind, humorous, and sincere individual, who smiles and laughs quiet a bit. What kind of approach makes you feel genuinely interested and respected? Are there specific conversation cues that capture your attention?

Considering my experiences, I'd appreciate your thoughts on body language. What kind of body language is appealing to you? Are there gestures or postures that make someone stand out positively?

Despite my efforts to expand my social circles by attending church and the gym, rejection has been a recurring theme. Which by the way, I'm 6.5, brown hair and in shape.

Online dating has been part of my journey as well. For this, It's endless scrolling, sending likes but getting absolutely nothing in return. What are your perspectives on creating an appealing online dating profile? What kind of information stands out to you? I make sure to post pictures of myself smiling and doing stuff I enjoy as well as put thought into the about me section.

I'm extending an invitation for an ongoing conversation. Your guidance and coaching could be instrumental in helping me navigate through this journey, overcome rejection, and build the confidence needed to form lasting connections. I'm open to your wisdom and look forward to the opportunity to learn and grow with your support.

Be different than everyone else and help this guy.

Be like everyone else and ignore him like this guy's life doesn't matter.

[aceleon]

try changing style

also we can't know what should you change without knowing how are you doing this things and such.

for confidence, real confidence is the one who doesn't rely on anything else, you should be confident because you are you and i know i'm sounding like one of those ''be yourself'' poliana shits but what i'm trying to talk about here if you are happy in your own skin and thinking highly of yourself without needing any reason to, your confidence will be unbreakable cuz if it doesn't have a solid reason it cannot be broken either, so you are a 45 year old virgin, who cares? you are you, i get constant rejection must certainly weighging you down but you need to learn to move on from them in your age, create yourself an actual style and attitude, dude you are saying you are 6'5, even if i was 5 inch shorter than you i would be 2 times more confident and probably narcisttic then i already am, if i was really your height you might think i was mistaken myself with a God or something i would be that vain (probably why i'm not gifted with the tall genes of my paternal side since i'm 5'10 at most) with that height you should be working out like a machine and creating a style for you that represents the type of man you ''Want '' to be instead of what you feel is not good enough.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some friendly suggestions:

Building confidence takes time and experience. Small successes matter - celebrate the little things. Focus on listening without judgment and making others feel understood. Compliments should be specific and genuine, not just physical.

Lead with your personality and values. Share interests and stories that show who you are, not just looks. Getting involved helps - ask about others more than talking about yourself. Smile from the inside out by viewing interactions as opportunities, not job interviews.

Body language reflects your mindset. Open posture invites others in. Eye contact shows attention without pressure. Touch only with clear consent. Control impatience - going slow builds trust over time.

Rejection says more about whether you're a right fit, not worth. Don't internalize it. Focus on making others comfortable in small ways daily. With practice, connecting gets easier. You've got this! Stay positive and keep putting yourself out there.

Wishing you the best on your journey. Feel free to share how it's going - I'm always here to listen without judgment and offer encouragement. You seem like a kind person - that quality will serve you well as confidence grows.

[Avicenna]

You have to take the initiative to talk to them. Should be easier now than when you were younger.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... Given Your description of Yourself... I'd say confidence is the most important thing. First of all, confidence needs a stable foundation. If You're financially stable, it's a good start. Second, to be confident is to be unyielding and independent. The easiest way to get attention is to disregard it as unimportant. And if someone wants You to adapt to their views or attitude, You need a no-nonsense approach. If something is not fine with You, You should simply refuse. No bargaining, no whining, just a no. Other than that, it seems You are on the way to success.

[NikolaiIvanovB41]

Maybe, you could try a marriage agency or go on a marriage tour if you have the cash. I am not an expert on this because I never used these types of services. I have heard of marriage by Natalie, one of my co-workers used it a long time ago, but I am not in touch with him anymore. You have to be careful about the agency you use because a lot of them are scams. With marriage by Natalie I think you can only get Ukrainian women from her. Just be careful and do your research on the agency. Again not an expert on this topic it's a suggestion.

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[AngryCarl]

Women are very shallow so unless you look like a Greek god it's going to be tough. It becomes a numbers game where the more times you get turned down the better the chance that someone will eventually give you a chance.

Honestly I think dating sites are a waste of time, women on those sites are very picky. You're just as likely to meet someone in RL.

[Nikki1989]

45?

What have you been doing your entire life? Not enough, obviously.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

I didn't lose my intercourse virginity until I was 26 years old, and I've only been with a few women myself, so I know what it's like to feel "left behind".

[Flower7]

It sounds like you’re trying too hard.

[IHateBeingaMan]

what is your heritage ethnicity?

[xheymanx]

Lithuanian