Are disciplined people undesirable?

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siseñor · Accepted Answer

there needs to be some level of flexibility. for example i hate eating unhealthy food and am very particular about what i eat, but i know that if my friend has made a cake and wants me to try a piece, i will do so.
disciplined people aren't undesirable, but oftentimes too much discipline can be very bad for you, and therefore make you less desirable.
when i was younger i wouldn't like when people would talk about their accomplishments (achieved through discipline), it would bring out my insecurity and ego. so there's also that side to it. people may be intimidated by discipline.

NZGirl07 · Accepted Answer

It depends what you mean by disciplined. I imagine a disciplined person to be very rigid, for example they go to the gym 4 times a week and stick to that.

In a dating context being disciplined could be undersirable at times, since a lot of people prefer to go with the flow and have a flexible partner.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Only to the masses. It’s harder to manipulate and toy with someone who is disciplined. “The game” doesn’t play on that field. You may have inadvertently, or not, let the ladies onto an underserved demographic though. Real women who want a real man can find them in places where discipline is a fundamental priority. Unfortunately for men, the places where women go for such experiences are fairly unfriendly to men, at least societally.

andreasderjuengere · Accepted Answer

If ''discipline'' means to mindlessly follow the rules of one's leader (as indicated in that question picture) ... then I loathe them for being sheep.

But a self specified discipline in a variety of life aspects would be very welcome to me.

Lliam · Answer

Only if they are up tight, rigid, obsessive-compulsive, anal retentive, boring, inhibited, unexciting, humorless, no fun.

A certain level of discipline is a good thing. But so is a certain level of spontaneity and silliness.

Jacobbbb · Answer

Well speaking from personal experience ever since I have become more disciplined and structured I've dated less. I think girls at least ones that are in the 18-24 range like spontaneous freeflowing guys.

LazerBean · Answer

No, they are desirable and tend to do very well in their life and relationships.

DishLady · Answer

Not necessarily, but they need to leave room for the person they want in their lives.

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

They're undesirable to irresponsible people for a romantic partner. Other than that, the irrisponsible person will want to use the disciplined person to hold something for them that they know they'll lose or other such responsible tasks.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on culture. I grew up mostly around immigrants from about 30 different countries, and from what I've seen repeatedly... Easterners see being disciplined as desirable... particularly Chinese and SE Asians. Arabs do as well. Westerners make fun of it and usually avoid someone who is. An exception there are Mexicans, but other than them, most Westerners don't being disciplined as a quality trait.

exitseven · Answer

No, it is undisciplined people that are undesirable.

mobiusforniner · Answer

The most respected person isn't the person who can control others; it's the person who can control themself.

Siri137 · Answer

Would you prefer someone who lacks discipline, and succumbs to temptation all the time?

elaphe · Answer

Discipline is a good thing. People who are undisciplined tend to do poorly in school, lose jobs easily, be in trouble with the law, and be unhealthy. How is that desirable?

jshm2 · Answer

No. But personality is a bigger factor than discipline in a relationship.

CriticalCatDad · Answer

If disciplined people are desirable I will just have to be extremely undisciplined

Anonymous · Answer

People find us boring, i am very disciplined and people don’t like it.

AngryCarl · Answer

Noooooo!! Disciplined people are HIGHLY desirable. Which is why they don't hang out with slobs like me.

sheenagwapa · Answer

they are usually boring

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I think it's the opposite

hellothere90 · Answer

A disciplined man is my ideal partner.

Xia1994 · Answer

Generally they are desirable.

blondfrog · Answer

If they are too disciplined they can be.

sheikalana · Answer

Not at all.

laly520 · Answer

very desirable to me

NYlatefun · Answer

Lol quite the opposite

mayurr · Answer

People don't like them.

FuqUFggt · Answer

Nope.

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