Should I text them or would I be coming off as desperate?

[Anonymous]

So I started messaging someone on a dating app and we eventually switched our conversation over to Discord. Yesterday they told me they had to go and I said something along the lines of “hopefully we can continue the conversation when you get back?” And they said “of course”. I didn’t get a response back from them so I decided to text them this morning. We had another conversation, but again it’s been a few hours since I last heard from them.
I’m starting to panic and overthink because I don’t know if I should send them another text? But then again I don’t want to be coming off as desperate? They haven’t been online on the dating app since yesterday, so I’m assuming that’s a good thing. Also, we’ve talked about playing video games together one day and we’ve called on the phone a couple of times. So what should I do? Text them and talk about playing video games with them or wait and see if they message me first? And what do I do if they never get back to me?

[ZackBan]

Not sure what "them" is supposed to be here. If you're texting a girl or a guy.

I'll answer as though it's a girl because that's the only area I have experience in.

First of all: discord? Really?
Bad idea. When you meet on an app you get the person's phone number and text via messages or maybe whatsapp for those who use it.
Stay away from Instagram, tik tok, snapchat, discord, Facebook, etc...
The reason is because a phone number exchange is a higher level of commitment on both of your ends. And anyone unwilling to give you their phone number is most probably unwilling to go on a date with you.

Second of all: don't listen to any advice that sounds like "Never text a woman first let her make the first moves. Know your value king etc..."
This is horrible advice because real life is not a pissing contest in some pointless gender war. Real life is about communication and connection.

As for texting vs coming off as desperate, my advice is: do not stop your entire day and focus on reply timing. Go on with your day. Reply whenever you find yourself checking your phone.
Also do not double text the same day.
If you sent the last message just wait. And if tomorrow she still hasn't replied you can then send a message calling her out on it playfully like "Don't think to hard now" or "It's not a trick question I promise" or anything along those lines.

And most importantly. Have fun.

[BonzoInBitburg]

You don't have to worry about coming off as desperate because you're on a dating app so it's been established you are desperate. It's cute that you've found someone who wants to play Candy Crush with you but do yourself a favor and learn to talk with girls. Too many guys are afraid to talk to girls so you'll have almost zero competition. The best girls aren't on apps

[bobalife]

Text her :)
If she is like most women, we love when someone takes initiative and leads it. But just don’t over text her if she goes a few hours w/o replying; she might just be busy? Lol.

[Account]

You already initiated a couple of times. If I were you I wouldn't. If she is interested she will. If she is not, oh well... move on.

[lightbulb27]

We suggest switching to voice amd aee if she bites.

[sheikalana]

Chill! There's no need to panic. You're just in the talking stage. Give them space to reach out to you.

[poshspice123]

Just let him get back to you. Don’t worry if it’s bound to happen it’ll happen.

[CriticalCatDad]

Never message a woman first. Make her be the one to message first otherwise she is not worth your time.

[Nikki1989]

Man up and message her. Nobody likes a wimp.

[In_Trance]

Your mistake was switching from one messaging app to another. No idea why you wouldn't start calling at that point.

Move on

[FuqUFggt]

You should never text them. They aren't waiting on it, going to read it. Stop wasting your time on people that aren't spending their time with you.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is texting a dozen different guys.