Should I just stop trying with women?

[blissinanarchy1]

There’s something that’s just starting to annoy me. Girls giving their numbers or social media and not texting back.

I don’t have too many close friends because I now live in a pretty isolated area, far from where I grew up. So my dating options ate pretty limited, I don’t have girls in a social circle. My option is to get girl’s numbers by picking them up cold. This just means initiating a conversation with a girl who is a 100% stranger to you, with no prior opinion of you.

So me, I’m a confident guy. I’m 6’3, above average looking, and It’s easy for me to get people laughing. I can read the room pretty well, and I’m overall pretty socially adept. I know I sound like I’m full of myself, and I don’t mean to be, but I’m just giving you an idea what I’m working with. People gravitate towards me, and other men compliment me on my personality and looks, including straight men.

Now with women, I go for better looking women. My success rate is probably 2/10. This isn’t girls flat out saying “not interested.” This is including girls who say they got a boyfriend. Looks are the reason I talk to a woman in the first place, and from there, I determine if she’s just cool people or not. If I vibe with her personality, and she is coming off interested, I get her number or social media.

I take it as interested when a girl is very involved in the conversation, smiling, showing warm body language, playing with hair, etc.

Being short with responses and facing another way is uninterested.

But these girls will gladly give their social media and numbers… then not ever respond. And I don't know why bother. I straight up ask these girls. “Are you comfortable giving me your number? I know guys sometimes get mad when rejected, I promise there’ll be no hard feelings.” And if she says she’s cool with it I’ll get her number. And even then, most girls STILL don’t reply. Like wtf?

[ShiftingMonke]

Arrogance is very unbecoming, just saying.

As someone who's 6'5", you can never be too sure if women are truly comfortable or not. I've gotten many mixed signals before too, so I can't fault you for that, and I commend you for having the confidence to walk up to an attractive woman to strike up a convo. not everyone has that level of spine.

Instead of 'not trying', maybe you should re-evaluate your parameters. I promise, the dating sphere changes drastically after 30. The super attractive girl at 23 may not get the same level of attention at 33, and even if you find a beautiful woman at 23, she may not be at the same level of beauty at 33. Ideally, you'll have fallen truly in love and looks won't matter as much, that's just logical. So why not apply that same math?

If you're seeking an actual parter, maybe aim lower, as looks become less of a priority long term. If you just want a mark on your bed post, then you appear stuck with your current system.

Either way, good luck dude.

[blissinanarchy1]

I appreciate your feedback. And I understand that it may come off as arrogance online. I’m a genuinely a respectful guy, and wasn’t too sure how to tell what I’m working with, without coming off cocky.

[ShiftingMonke]

Don't sweat it it brother, such is the curse of text based conversation; tone and nuance are both out the window. I meant no offense, and even confidence IRL can be easily misconstrued as arrogance if the person you're speaking to has limited contact with both.

[Anonymous]

Drop the social media and the texting and try the real world for a change, and you might get somewhere. 🤦‍♀️

[blissinanarchy1]

You’re right! Next time I meet a girl, instead of getting her number maybe I’ll ask her address to send her letters! Maybe I can keep showing up unexpectedly to talk to her! I’m sure she’d appreciate that! bro gtfo