I fell in love with her instantly but I never had the courage to make a move so we went to friends. I could never risk losing her from my life because I think she is the most amazing woman, and she inspires me to be better. I left hints so she knows I have feelings for her without telling her directly. We've talked about us and she has suggested a few times that we could not be together. But then she would confuse me by doing something incredibly caring or romantic. I am in a loop of being in the friendzone and trying to accept it, followed by an act which gave me hope of more, to her suggesting we would never work, and back to the friendzone.
We've supported each other so much. She has helped me develop personally, and also deal with the death of someone close to me. And in turn, she has had a tough year personally and professionally so I have supported her and now she's doing better
For the past year, we have had a long call at least once a week. We have been available for each other always. Last week, I called her and for the first time, she never answered or called/text back. We sent each other a couple of texts this week, but I initiated them all. I called her today to no answer, but she text later to just say she was with her friends. I asked her to call me when she was done, but she hasn't.
I feel like she has progressively become more distant from me for a while now. We used to talk all day, every day. Now I'm lucky if she sends me a text 1st.
I've done my best to accept we will never be more. I have tried to do what a friend does; support, care, and be there for her unconditionally.
With her becoming more distant, is it time for me to stop trying, and let her go? Should I not contact her again until she reaches out to me first?
It's tough, she is the first woman I have ever felt love for, despite us never being together. I'm sure she has had feelings for me too but she has been unwilling to compromise on her perfect image of a partner.
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Im in a similar boat. Its sadly time we both stop trying
I'm soo sorry you're in the same position. It's soo tough and unfair. I've spent every hour willing her to text or call me since I posted this but in my heart I know it's in vain. I'm determined not to reach out to her again. It's up to her now, and sadly I think I'm no longer of any use to her so it's not going to happen which really bothers me because I feel I need closure to be able to move on.
I hope you will get over your person, and one day find someone who will give you the reciprocated love and attention that we all deserve.
Yea i only reached out to end things and then once more yesterday since i didn't get a response back. Im done trying now. He thinks this is a game i guess
At least you took control and were the one to end things 💪
If he thinks your relationship is a game, it's not a relationship worth having, as tough as that is. People aren't play things.
I should listen to my own advice as I feel like I've been used for the past year to satisfy her need for validation and emotional support, even though that has meant manipulating and deceiving me. I think this, yet I still care for her deeply and if she were to call or text now I would immediately drop everything for her.
I think we will be better without them.
I think so too