My family is struggling economically, my dad keeps trying to convince himself that he's a provider and the man of the house yet he takes money from my mom, me and my siblings. We get into debts because of him, we're all very organized with our money but then my dad comes, takes our money promising to give us back and then never gives it back or sometimes the same day he gives its the same day he takes it back which then puts us in trouble.
I've tried several times to stand up to him and say no, but he always makes me feel like I'm heartless and like I don't trust the fact that he'll give me back the money (even though he has proven many times that he's not trustworthy) and there are times that I stand up to him and then it's followed by a threat so either he threatens to beat me up or he removes some privileges (like me working). I don't know what to do anymore. I don't like lying and acting like I don't have money...
My older brother says that I need to be more compassionate and understand that he has made sacrifices for me, and that if he didn't need the money then he wouldn't have asked, and thats its wrong of him to ask me but I should try not to be upset for the sake of my peace.
But I can't be upset, this is the money that I sweated for. My dad wants to know the amount of money I have, and what I need to do with it. If I don't give him my money he needs to know every detail as to why I can't give it to him.
I don't know what else to do.
Tips on how to stop an abusive parent from taking your money?
Have a backbone. Tell him no, and ignore everything he says otherwise. Tell him you MIGHT lend money, but ONLY after he repays you everything he already owes you, your mom and your siblings in full.
You need to get physically away from your fater an brother, and not let either of them access you OR your money. You are anadult and neither your father or brother have any right totel you what to do or to steal from you.
Well, says no and stick to it. It's your money, and no one else but you can tell you what to do with it. And if saying no isn't enough, just tell him to fuck off for good.
You have to take care of your self first. If I couldn't afford to give someone money I wouldn't. I would ask Jesus today to give me the wisdom to know to deal with your family. I do that all the time and is helps me.
0
0 Reply
What Girls & Guys Said
1
Opinion
1
Opinion
Anonymous
(30-35)
11 mo
You're 18 get a roommate and rent an apt. Your dad is adult he needs to be a big boy and take responsibility for his own problems if that means getting a 2nd job then so be it. I get times are hard money wise but the way your dad is treating everyone is not ok.
