Remove her from my life or keep on going?

[Anonymous]

Will try to get this short.. I met this girl year ago online, we both live in different countries, we talked a lot, I initiated the most stuff, we both asked about each other, I started crushing her, one fine evening I told her how I felt and she said (I don't know what to say) with smiley face, well she still kept reaching out first, initiating and asking stuff, also telling me few times how she dreamed about me, so I thought she liked me as well, yet I was really confused but I kept going, I became too confused so I told her how I still feel the same and she said (I dont know what to say), I told her she can tell me later how she feels. That was a mistake I guess since there was no answer and I didn't want to ask again, well she became more dry texter now, I guess that was a sign? But like the dumb I am I didn't catch it, so I kept texting, probably too much now that I look back, well she still said how she dreamed about me couple times, so I thought there was a chance still. Well I was hurting mentally a lot, but I wanted to keep holding on the hope of us being together. Well now I'm sure of it how it is, she got a date couple weeks back I said I'm glad she found someone, since she is really lonely and depressed irl, I have lost some of the feelings now but they still keep coming back every now and then. I just dreamed of her and damn I'm down again, I'm so lost in this because I want to be her friend but also remove her from my life for the sake of my mental health but I dont want to hurt her. She has lost lots of people from her life so me leaving her would make her state worse because I can tell she still finds me as a good friend. Week ago she reached out asking how I am, we changed words, I told her I'm moving out next spring and she said she thought the same and would be cool to show our new apartments to each other... Right now I keep thinkig should I tell her goodbyes or stop contact and keep her on friend list, what should I do?

[Coyote12]

I would still keep her on your friends list but limit interactions with her. Don't initiate contact anymore and when she does keep it short and sweet. This is more for your mental than try to make a point with her. If she became a dry texter all of a sudden then match her energy. So now what? You put some of that energy into yourself (like do things that make you happy) and put some energy looking for other women who want to be with you. All in all focus on something else. You'll get through this and you will find someone who will be obessed with you.

[Anonymous]

This is the first time you are in contact with a person you feel affectionate to for a long time, right?

It seems you know nothing about how women are attracted and "catched" (caught), or "won". This doesn't mean you are dumb, it means you are innocent.
Well, they aren't.

So there are two ways in front of you:
1) You stop being innocent with women and start learning how to "win" them (for example by following YouTube channel The Rational Male)

2) You stick to your innocence, and more or less give up on the goal of "winning women".

You can do like me, a mix of 1) and 2), as well.

[Anonymous]

You should move on…. as a woman we will let it be known if we like you in the same way, and not just text “I dont know what to say”. That’s something I would say to a guy who I don’t like but also don’t want to hurt his feelings. It’s sad, but you should move on.

[Sharonclaire]

She likely was friendly flirting but had no feelings. I accidentally did that a couple times and they read me wrong and I had to tell them I just saw them as a friend. But some girls are too scared of breaking one’s heart so they just shy away

[Guy13]

Dude you sound king of freaky and probably creeped her out. Move on.

[Lkid23]

Protect your M. E. A. T boys.


M- Money
E- Energy
A- Attention
T- Time.


If a girl doesn’t want it, don’t give it. She has obviously moved on. You should too unless you have a genuine intention of being a friend and expect nothing from her. (More or less, it will drain you, I guess)

[RavVid]

I think you are wasting your time here but I would just let this shrivel to a close because why do/say anything confronting.

[Anonymous]

This girl is a dime a dozen. Most people are. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Let her go. She is moving on, you should do the same.

[Anonymous]

Move on

[SplatoonFan2]

Yep just move on.