There’s a lesbian I’ve had two classes with in the past. Initially I had a boyfriend ( I’m bi ) I was walking into class one day up to my seat and caught her staring at me with her mouth slightly open and it looked like she wanted to say something but I looked away. the next semester we had another class. I caught her glance at me a few times throughout the semester and on the first day we did an ice breaker where we went around the class to say our names and she waited until after I introduced myself to the class to leave the class early. She left right after I went. Another class she shaved her hair and when she took off her hat to show everyone she glanced at me first. That’s when I noticed her. One class she sat next to me because her seat got taken and she seemed nervous and was fiddling with the bottom of her shoe and her keys but she also looked bored so I don't know lol. She didn’t talk to me. On one of the last days of classes our professor asked me to explain my essay. When I did the lesbian girl did a loud “mmm” because she was agreeing with me and I’ve never seen her do that with anyone before. Also once I got nervous when the professor called on me and started stuttering and the lesbian girl started giggling with her friend but it didn’t seem like it was in a rude way. We had to schedule appointments with the Professor and I made mine for a certain time and she scheduled her appointment for the time slot directly after mine.
It’s been about a year since then and I just graduated lol but I’ve met people in her circle and someone asked if knew her at a party. I just added her on Snapchat a week ago and she hasn’t added me back yet lol. I don’t regret it but its kinda embarrassing. I’m thinking maybe she’s not active on there or just doesn’t recognize my name? It’s just my first name and bitmoji. There’s also one other acc I think could be her but I don't know. Should I send a message to the one I added? Or add the other one? Or cut my losses. Pls help lol
It’s been about a year since then and I just graduated lol but I’ve met people in her circle and someone asked if knew her at a party. I just added her on Snapchat a week ago and she hasn’t added me back yet lol. I don’t regret it but its kinda embarrassing. I’m thinking maybe she’s not active on there or just doesn’t recognize my name? It’s just my first name and bitmoji. There’s also one other acc I think could be her but I don't know. Should I send a message to the one I added? Or add the other one? Or cut my losses. Pls help lol
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Okay girl, let me think this through...
From what you've told me, it definitely sounds like she was into you! All those little glances and blushing seem like huge hints. And scheduling her appointment right after yours is so obvious haha.
I wouldn't give up yet. Since it's been a year, maybe sending a simple message on Snapchat to say hey wouldn't be so weird. Like "hey, it's [your name] from so and so class, hope you're doing well!" See if she adds you back then you can go from there.
Worst case, she doesn't respond and you'll know for sure. But what if she's been hoping you'd reach out too? You gotta take a chance, sis! And if it doesn't work out, no big deal - at least you'll know you tried.
I say go for it! You've got nothing to lose. And who knows, maybe you guys can hit it off now without the school dynamic. Keep me posted, I'm rooting for you two crazy kids ;)
Thanks! But you don’t think it would be weird to send a message on Snapchat before she’s even added me back? Lol
I don’t know if she would be able to see it
Ah good point, yeah messaging her on Snap before she's even added you back would be pretty weird. She might not even see it like you said.
Hmm in that case, I'd wait it out a bit longer. Give it another week or two, then if she still hasn't added you I'd say just leave it be. No need to make it awkward, you know?
Maybe there's a chance you'll run into her around town at some point now that school's over. If so, play it cool but maybe say hey and feel it out. See how she acts towards you.
Or keep your eyes peeled on socials in case she pops back up in your suggested friends or something. But yeah, try not to obsess over it. She could just be busy with other stuff anyway. Just see what happens and don't force it!
If you really want to get in touch with her text her. As you said chances are she's not really active or maybe hasn't realized it's you.