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Please hold back your judgmental comments :(
Anyway, I've been talking to this guy for a long time now, but because he lives a fair few hours way, we haven't gotten to meet cause of border closures due to covid. I really like him, and he's genuinely everything I want in a guy. From the moment we started talking, we instantly clicked. And he likes me too. But we're just waiting to meet. However we haven't talked about being exclusive or anything, just cause I don't want to make things way too serious before we even meet. There was a time when things were a bit off between us, and I ended up making out with another guy and I told him and he got mad. I felt horrible.

While this guy is amazing and makes me genuinely feel like I matter, he also isn't the type to be affectionate over text... which isn't always an issue, but sometimes it can be. I don't wanna ask him for anything considering we haven't even met, but it makes me look for attention from other guys which I know would hurt him if he found out, and it'd hurt me if he did the same thing. So am I in the wrong for flirting with other guys behind his back? Or is there no issue since we haven't talked about being exclusive?

Let me give you an example: you have a brief romance with someone, but then you’re not able to physically see them again for, say, a year and a half to two years because you live in different countries and there’s travel restrictions, border closures, etc. You still see what they’re up to through social media, so it’s not like they’ve totally disappeared from your radar. Then, after a year or two, they reappear, you cross paths again, and have the opportunity to see them in person. Assuming they haven’t changed for the worst since then, do you think you would still be attracted to them? If so, do you think even more than you would have been if you’d seen them after only, say, six months to a year apart? Or would you no longer have any interest in them, do you need to physically be with someone on a constant, regular basis in order to stay attracted to them? I know it’s complicated and different for every person and every situation, but I know that it’s something a lot of people around the world are going through right now. What are your thoughts?