Let me give you an example: you have a brief romance with someone, but then you’re not able to physically see them again for, say, a year and a half to two years because you live in different countries and there’s travel restrictions, border closures, etc. You still see what they’re up to through social media, so it’s not like they’ve totally disappeared from your radar. Then, after a year or two, they reappear, you cross paths again, and have the opportunity to see them in person. Assuming they haven’t changed for the worst since then, do you think you would still be attracted to them? If so, do you think even more than you would have been if you’d seen them after only, say, six months to a year apart? Or would you no longer have any interest in them, do you need to physically be with someone on a constant, regular basis in order to stay attracted to them? I know it’s complicated and different for every person and every situation, but I know that it’s something a lot of people around the world are going through right now. What are your thoughts?
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Now, what if, for example, when you saw them again they looked even BETTER than they did before, like they had lost weight or something?
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I should clarify, what I mean is instead of waiting for someone for one or two or however many years and then getting into a relationship with them, I’m referring to someone you just hooked up with before. If you were still single when you saw them again, would you want to hook up with them again?
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Agree or disagree?
It's the opposite for me. Distance makes my heart lose the love charge. Think of it exactly like a battery and once depleted at 0% for a prolonged I have no active desire to see that somebody again (this is basically how being ghosted works).
Depending whether I am taken or not, I could reunite again after a long time, provided I was not screwed over, ghosted (long term relationship wise) or lied to.
Given your scenario, I would not get caught up on one person. If I kept in contact and we were able to chat, and things went well, only then would my feelings grow. Otherwise, I would consider our little encounter to be a nice memory and move on.
Spending too much time together and texting calling takes away the excitement... becomes routine... you are two whole people before a relationship. Be two whole people while in it too.
Per several research studies, this tends to be true... for the first 90 days or so.
After that, the human brain seems to have a "grief management system" that will start pumping out hormones that make you care less and less, so that the pain of the loss or separation is reduced and eventually eliminated. Otherwise, big losses would permanently disable people forever, and that wouldn't be sustainable. Thus, humans adapted to deal with loss in this way.
This is why long-distance relationships (LDRs) rarely last much longer than the 90 day mark.
Well for me no i wouldn't say i want to be with them again but it really depends on how well i click with that someone and how good they look and stuff but it also depends on the mood you know so maybe
I'd say so. The loneliness or feeling of something's missing would kick in sooner or later. Unless you've met someone else or are solving sex release in other ways on one's own. Depends how much one remains attracted.
