A! me and this friend fought and never talked again and I was really angry for months and hated her I was glad she was out of sight out of mind and done with her but as more time went on years I missed the good times, I remembered only the positive times and not the negative and I wished somehow we could be friends again
same with my crush after he broke my heart kinda I wa pissed angry hated him wanted revenge wanted him to get heartbroken be taught a lesson etc and after a while I realized I still like him and I missed the fun talks we had and I missed seeing his face and the way he walked and dressed etc...
sigh. it depends on how attached you were to them and the quality of the given relationship. there are some people I wasn't that close to and yea for them, who cares out of sight out of mind, but for those few people you really loved and trusted and shared your deepest desires and dreams with, its harder to forget and let go, harder to move on and you just may never forget them. and certainly their absence reminds you of the good times, the positives, the things they taught you.
Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires. - Francois de La Rochefoucauld... Sappy, but it describes how I feel. If it's true love, the absence makes you even more devoted. If it's not, it can make you emotionally distant.
id have to say both depending on the situation. if it is with a significant other; absence makes the heart grow fonder, as opposed to maybe an acquaintance or co-worker would probably be out of sight out of mind.
If it's truly meant to be, absence makes the heart grow fonder. How often do you forget about friends and then all of a sudden miss them? You cannot always remain busy, so if your thoughts tend to stray toward a person, you'll begin to feel that pain of loss.
However, if your thoughts do not stray towards those you thought you would miss, the people will fall out of your attention.
I take the higher route, as it's hard for me to give up friends and loved ones. I'm usually the one calling them to ask how things are, though I know the ones that truly appreciate me respond quickly.
I think it's like an addiction, where the more you stay away from it, the more you start to "need" it, but after a while, your body is used to living wihout it, and you slowly move on.
So, as others said before, "A" in the short term, "B" in the long term.
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I have to be perfectly honest, the situation varies with me based on what it is exactly that made me be "absent" in the first place. If I'm away because I'm doing something that requires my full and complete attention all the time, then it's easy to make her go "out of sight, out of mind" due to how focused I can be on the task at hand. However, if I'm away on something that doesn't require my complete focus, then I would have to say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
When you have a few days apart, it makes or allows time for you to really find the things you miss about them the most. You don't notice these things off the bat when you see someone consistently. So I agree with the first.
i voted A. you don't know what you got til its gone.
A - Distance is to love as wind is to fire, extinguishes the weak but fuels the great.
Hmm Not a fan of long distance relationships...but I agree with u...absence does make the heart grow fonder...if my feeling for you is fading...then out of site out of mind...we tend to not appreciate that which we have too much of...familiarity breds contempt?
You start missing what you remember most, which are usually the happy memories. If it's sad memories, well you start wondering what you could have done differently so it's more of a obsession than fondness.
I agree, you remember the good things and the bad things don't seem as bad/ you forgot how bad they made you feel.
Ahhh, those cliches. They're both invalid for me. I vote C.
'A' for sure, I haven't seen my crush in about 3-4 weeks and I cannot get her out of my head, it's creeping me out.
Absence opens your eyes, makes the heart grow bitter
Just my personal experience has shown that for me, I miss my man when we are apart. Having gone the whole summer without him, I didn't once consider another guy, but instead missed him all the more.
Love makes the heart grow not sex. The "result" of having sex is individual. Some people treasure those moments with there loved one. Other people not as much.
What inevitably make or breaks a relationship is there feelings. Not if they had sex.
Out of sight out of mind. The absence just makes it sweeter when someone leaves for someone else. It makes moving on easier when someone already has someone else, and most girls already have someone else when they leave a guy.
Totally agree with absence makes the heart grow fonder <3
A short absence will make the heart grow fonder but in the case of an ex the longer their out of site they will be out of mind.
I thought My Friend tohrment's post was good...
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I think that only works for a while but eventually complete absence will wither any past sentiments.
"Cold silence has a tendency to atrophy any sense of compassion." - Schism by Tool.
for me absence DOES make my heart grow fonder, its crazy. I can't handle TWO DAYS let alone 2 weeks. Call me clingy, which I'm not, but I love seeing my fiance :)
out of sight out of mind for me...a lot of guys like myself are very visual...and if they can't see it...they simply won't covet it (at least not as much as whoever else is staring them in the face at the moment).
Depends on how much you care about the person and how long you've been apart.
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