Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?

Question

Why/Why not?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

We tend to romanticize the past, so it often seems like it was better than it really was.

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? It goes by a case by case scenario as most things do in life. When someone goes absent in someone's life, some people focus more on the positives and miss them more and some focus on the negatives and hate them more as time goes by. That goes for everything, whether it was a relationship that ended, the death of a family member, friend, or lover, etc. It doesn't matter if someone cheated on you or wronged you in some ways or lived their whole life trying to help you whenever they had a chance. You can grow fonder or more distant despite either of those factors.

Not much in life is painted in black and white. It's not so simple.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

It's more likely to go the other direction. Absence can cause a person to pull back and reevaluate things, which could potentially cause them to realize they have something good and don't want to lose it. But more likely, the memory will fade and they will just move on in their new life.

Chevy1_kb · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure i beileve that fully in a way i do but not as much as i use to sometimes absence away from there lover sleep with another guy or women or love fade but in ways i beileve absence makes the heart grow fonder but in some ways I don't beileve it its 50/50 in my eyes

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Not to me. Out of sight, out of mind. this is if I want to get over you bad!

now if it’s a man I’m in love with, I’m dying for that moment to see him in person again, touch him, kiss him and never let him go!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question of whether absence makes the heart grow fonder or if it's just a fast track to forgetting. Dive into the world of love, and let's decode this, shall we? When you're away from your sweetheart, every little memory of them seems sweeter, every song on the radio feels like it's speaking directly to you about them, and suddenly, their hoodie becomes your most prized possession. Is it magic? Nope, just our brains putting on those rose-colored glasses, making us yearn and appreciate more. However, there's a flip side! Too much absence without communication can lead to drifts, misunderstandings, or worse, ghosting. It's all about finding that sweet spot where absence makes the heart throb louder, not forget. So, yes, absence can make the heart grow fonder, but remember, it's a delicate dance, not a magic spell! Keep the sparks flying with cute texts, voice notes, or even old-school love letters. Who said romance is dead? 😉

Miristheiss · Answer

It depends. Little absences every once in a while make the heart grow fonder. You miss them. Long absences all the time, they make you move on and make new relationships and hobbies and things to do because they are never around. You get to where you are apathetic to the one that is gone.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

For me no … my ex and me didn’t see each other for three weeks cause he went to the Philippines to see his family his step mum is filipino then he kept going hot and cold we had an argument when he was away and when he came back he made excuses to not see me everytime I asked him to come see me he’d say “maybe” then we broke up

Nessie6 · Answer

I feel like it could yes but majority of the time it just gives the person time to see what it's like to be alone, free, without them.  Maybe they end up enjoying it.

DishLady · Answer

No, because it’s absence…. Just like you can’t water a plant with an empty glass, you can’t build love on the basis of not being in one another’s lives. Whoever said that was probably angling to have a side fling.

sheikalana · Answer

It depends. If you're in a relationship with someone and for some reason they need to leave for a few weeks or a few days you'll miss them deeply. But you're just talking about random people chances are they'll eventually forget about you.

Simslover92 · Answer

Yes it does in my case. Being long distance seems to make us grow stronger and stronger everytime we're apart from each other. When we get together the love seems even stronger everytime.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

It works in a similar way to childhood nostalgia - when someone becomes a memory, we instinctively see them with rose coloured glasses

exitseven · Answer

No, Shakespeare is full of bul on this one. I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years. Mostly I remember being miserable the whole time and the distance finally put an end to it

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

There is also the opposite one to that... Out of sight, out of mind.. I think it depends on the relationship!

dustybiker2 · Answer

If there is something there to begin with. If not it will shine a light on what is lacking.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It can. Or it can make you lose interest. Depends how much you miss the person.

bobalife · Answer

Low key, but typically I’d just lose interest… there’s nothing to build on and lack of a connection.

Anonymous · Answer

For me it’s a no but it depends. If he’s physically absent but emotionally/mentally still present then yes, otherwise I’ll just end up growing distant

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No clue about for women. But for us guys, when you create distance, we slowly forget about you. (We don't want to; that's just what happens.)

Sirius1 · Answer

I suppose so. It just seems like a form of manipulation. It shouldn’t be done purposefully. It can also have a lot to do with attachment.

CriticalCatDad123 · Answer

No. If anything, absence makes the heart want to wander

Juxtapose · Answer

No, it makes you move on from them because you fill your life with people who actually give you attention.

RingOfFire · Answer

Not necessarily, but it makes the fond grow harder. 😊

genericname85 · Answer

no typically what will happen if you don't make a conscious effort is that you'll grow apart.

AngryCarl · Answer

No, but it doesn't make it any less fond either. You can't fall out of love with someone if you never see them.

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes only if the person you were with before was special and close to you.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Fonder or makes you lose interest altogether.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If he or she likes you and haven't seen you for a period of time then yes it's true, otherwise no.

mickeysmonkey · Answer

depends, if you care, then yes it does. if you didn't, then you let go

sage2021 · Answer

It's more Ike out of sight, out of mind.

Account · Answer

It doesn't work for me, it makes me forget.

BlissfullyCurSed · Answer

out of sight, out of mind.

Bricealan · Answer

Has not been my experience.

Pterodon · Answer

Yes it does. . . for someone else

laly520 · Answer

depends some would lose interest

DrPepper12 · Answer

It makes you frustrated and horny. Big no

jack1924 · Answer

What’s in the heart, it is also in the mind

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

It's possible

LavLavLuv · Answer

Nope

r3becah · Answer

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