What I learned from heart break Is that it’s wrong to “want” a relationship to work. It’s wrong to stay in a relationship with someone you love when you know that things aren’t working anymore. It’s wrong to try to “fix” your relationship and most importantly it doesn’t matter if you are a good person.
And I already know the argument many are going to say “maybe you weren’t as good of a person as you thought you were.” And to that I will simply say this. Maybe not. 🤷🏽♀️ I tried and I tried to make it work with a man who was loved by a lot of people. He had a lot of friends, family, and me... all of whom loved him. And he wasn’t perfect yet he still received genuine love from all of these people. But I haven’t a doubt in my mind that he didn’t appreciate it. That’s something I had wanted all my life-to just be loved and accepted. And he had it. He was so easy to like and I don’t doubt that at this point some new girl might probably love him. He’s on with his life. There are CERTAINLY hard feelings on my end but I just ignore them now. It is what it is.
The experience with him instilled a lack of enthusiasm to “find love” because I already had.
I gave more of myself to him than I have ever given anyone, and he left me-but he did it in a way that was just humiliating to me. I never got closure or found out what was wrong with me. I was upset at myself because I knew that I should have left him with good reason. And I suspected that he left me because I wasn’t “the same girl he met” maybe due to my change in how I perceived his sincerity. I still loved him but I could no longer trust him nor did I feel valued or appreciated by him. Naturally, I changed because I was reacting to how he was treating the relationship-like it meant nothing to him. But this is only speculation since I actually don’t have closure.
So my question is, do you think it’s true that some people (like myself) can just not be right in a relationship? Like is it wrong to expect to be loved?
And I already know the argument many are going to say “maybe you weren’t as good of a person as you thought you were.” And to that I will simply say this. Maybe not. 🤷🏽♀️ I tried and I tried to make it work with a man who was loved by a lot of people. He had a lot of friends, family, and me... all of whom loved him. And he wasn’t perfect yet he still received genuine love from all of these people. But I haven’t a doubt in my mind that he didn’t appreciate it. That’s something I had wanted all my life-to just be loved and accepted. And he had it. He was so easy to like and I don’t doubt that at this point some new girl might probably love him. He’s on with his life. There are CERTAINLY hard feelings on my end but I just ignore them now. It is what it is.
The experience with him instilled a lack of enthusiasm to “find love” because I already had.
I gave more of myself to him than I have ever given anyone, and he left me-but he did it in a way that was just humiliating to me. I never got closure or found out what was wrong with me. I was upset at myself because I knew that I should have left him with good reason. And I suspected that he left me because I wasn’t “the same girl he met” maybe due to my change in how I perceived his sincerity. I still loved him but I could no longer trust him nor did I feel valued or appreciated by him. Naturally, I changed because I was reacting to how he was treating the relationship-like it meant nothing to him. But this is only speculation since I actually don’t have closure.
So my question is, do you think it’s true that some people (like myself) can just not be right in a relationship? Like is it wrong to expect to be loved?
