Is there a point where just love isn't enough in a relationship?

[Marblesxoxo]

For instance you can love them but if there is too much drama in the relationship, that will eventually take a toll. How about really loving them but there are big major differences such you want kids but they don't or other major goals don't matched.

So yeah is there a point where just love isn't enough in a relationship? So would contradict the saying the love can handle everything, that as long as you love them, that's all that counts. Apparently not.

[ohsheeT]

There are more than 500 different types of love so when you get with some one you have to make sure your both on the same page

We only give the type of love we have experienced in life. It starts with our parent's. If they do not show or give love or give us a type of love we can feel or under stand that's who we become. Then when we meet someone and the type of love we show each other and feel is the depth of love you give.

Then there is pet love And conditional love and until you learn that you really don't know what love is.

And no, you can't live on love on its own. There has to be a respect there has to be a bond. There has to be a kindness, there has to be a friendship. There has to be a bond there has to be. True becoming one with each other

Love it like everything else in this world.
You can say you love someone and that's it. Well then that's it

We change and grow every day
When you love someone and truly love them it has to grow.

In life that's what we do we choose who we wantbto be abd from there we grow to become the best us as we can be we have to do the same thing with love find your starting point and make it the best by growing it giving it showing it the world is becoming more and more evil. If you have love to share share it. Teach it. Become it. And we can't do that if we don't experience it.. Unconditional love. Understand every thing that comes with it

[Marblesxoxo]

The issue is when some people think loving someone is having intense feelings and fantasizing about them and a future with them every single day... and they think that's enough. I feel sorry for them when they get disappointed it's way more than that and the relationship ends eventually.

[ohsheeT]

Yes, I agree the thing with love is that there are 2 people, so each person grows at different speeds. So you have to work together to keep it fresh and alive. When loving someone, you both make love, and it always has yo keep getting better every day .

Most people get into a relationship. Get comfortable, and you think that's it? That's not it. Because someone always wants to feel that passion

[Marblesxoxo]

and they forget about the rest of the components, such as communication, trust, common goals and values, respect, etc.

[ohsheeT]

Well, the first part with things being lovers and having intense fantasy is what brings you together
And this moment of time either makes you grow and want more. At the same level.. but your right to the second part comes in, and if both people are on the same page, it will work

[SteveSmith1985]

Funny you should ask this. Last night, a girl posted a MyTake about this exact question. I thought it was excellent. I'd shout-her-out, but it was posted anonymously.

I don't think I could put it any better than she did. Yes there is a point where love isn't enough. This person did a great job of pointing out several examples:

Love Isn’t Enough: The Hard Truth About Relationships

[Marblesxoxo]

Thank you for sharing that link. It's sad that so many people just rely on constantly needing to feel that passion in the relationship and being on cloud 9 all the times, to always be idealizing the perfect person and that everything is perfect (the high in the relationship) but fail to realize that's not what makes a complete, lasting relationship. They fail to focus on communication, trust, respect and compatible goals/values.

[SteveSmith1985]

That's true... but I think people end up learning this the hard way, through bitter experience. I think this belief that love is all you need is much more common among say; 15 year old's than 20 year old's. More common for a 20 year old than a 30 year old. I can understand why people feel the intense high and hope it'll be enough to sustain things. It's not stupid or anything. It's just naive I think. 🙂

[Vesuvius87]

Indeed it is but some people are delusional and really go by the saying that ''love conquers all''. It's actual rare for someone to end up marrying and having kids with the person that you've experienced butterflies in your stomach (the initial high in a relationship) and fell in love with. If you only get with someone out of feelings and have nothing in common, that relationship will fail.

That's not how reality works out.

[DishLady]

It isn't enough on its own. Folks don't realize the combination of skills needed to make sure a relationship flourishes. There are quite a few people I love deeply, but our values don't align well enough to warrant "relationship" status. It's as simple as that.

[Marblesxoxo]

Exactly. If the relationship lacks common goals and values, no amount of ''but love conquers all'' is going to make it long-lasting.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the age-old love conundrum! I'm here to sprinkle some clarity on this 🤓. Love is an epic starting point, but it's not the only ingredient for that perfect relationship dish. We all need compatibility, shared goals, and understanding to avoid turning a big romantic dream into a rom-com of drama! Major differences, like kids, can create big rifts, regardless of all the love in the world. Love's powerful, but it shouldn't blind you to red flags. Sometimes, you need more than love to build a life together, my friend! 😏❤️

[OlderAndWiser]

Most of us begin our dating experiences with the idyllic notion that all you need for a relationship is love. Experience soon teaches us that love - by itself - is never enough to make a relationship work.

Assuming that you like your partner and enjoy spending time with them, a relationship also requires

LUST

LOVE

TRUST and

RESPECT,

and each of those qualities must be felt by both partners.

Without all of those being present, you may have a short-term relationship/fling, but it is very unlikely that the relationship will survive the tests of time.

[Marblesxoxo]

Exactly. Then fewer relationships actually last long-term.

[jshm2]

You're confused.

Love should NEVER be the largest part of any relationship. Love is all about emotion and being kind... two things that can be very easily exploited.

You want all relationships to be beneficial, first and foremost. If you're buying a new phone, doesn't matter if you "love" the brand, is it crap that is not giving much benefit over what you already have?

Likewise if you're in a relationship with a partner. Good sex and good money is not adequate compensation for getting beaten every other month, or having no control over your own life and money.

Love plays a part in everything. But too many people have a fucked up interpretation of it.

[Marblesxoxo]

Pretty much it. I've heard that nowadays many of those relationships where both declare their love so much towards each other will eventually end up in break-ups. Nowadays, there are more break-ups and fewer of those relationship actually make it past the ''deep emotions and falling in love'' stage.

[FreyaRed]

Our brains are constructed in the way we prefer to over valuate or selves and to belittle people we are depending on or we need. The next fact love isn't constant, it's disappears often than comes back and those emotional waves come and go.
I don't think "love isn't not enough" I think in such relationship there is too much of something else. Of the ego.

[overlord337645]

love is only the foundation everything you do strengthens or weakens it i recently learned that if you fight with your partner and then get over it together you become stronger hence the opposite if you dont so yea id say love is only a wooden slab with cracks in it and all the stuff you do like help eachother out and stuff fills those cracks with new wood that is sturdier or it can make that wood rot until its nothing at all

[jazzyk777]

yes there Is definitely a point . love isint just what makes a relationship work either. avoid drama and conflict. y'all need to have trust , communication , honesty, compromise , etc. I would suggest to also watch facebook , Instagram , and TikTok and YouTube relationship advice. including reels

[dragoblack]

A relationship is always more than just love, also, if there's a lot of drama, it's a sign you both need to sit and talk (not yell, hit, or throw things) and communicate while making an effort to compromise, self reflection, work on emotional intelligence, and make an effort to reduce your insecurities.

[Nikki1989]

Love alone is never enough. You can love someone with all your heart, but still be a total jackass.

[retarb]

Apprehension to take a next step will ultimately strain a relationship, eventually leading to lack of intimacy which leads to dead love. Many such cases.

[Anonymous]

Not if you choose the right person. Most people do not choose the right person for them though. Most people choose the wrong person for them and try to shoehorn that person in to fitting what cannot/will not ever be.

[ChillNsweet32]

Healthy communication and respect is huge, in my opinion. It seems to work well for mine

[Anonymous]

I agree. If they’re not willing to change, I could stay friends with them but I wouldn’t date them anymore

[Anonymous]

too much drama means you both aren't compatible. this is what happens when you marry for passion instead of compatibility

[dudeinohio]

If their is drama in a relationship, is it really love at all?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

love in temporary. when you realize this you will know the real meaning of relationships

[jahaims]

Duh. It takes way more than love for a healthy relationship to work

[Vesuvius87]

yet some people think we're all going to stay infatuated with the person for decades and think that's love when it isn't... then some of those same people either cheat or leave when they've fallen out of love... since that relationship had no real foundation from that start

[itsannalee]

Love can’t buy your foods or pay the bills

[PaleDale]

Yes, definitely. It takes more sometimes

[LiamJHayden]

Not with the way i define love.

[MasterKS]

yes when not enough sex.

[Marblesxoxo]

yeah sexual incompatibility can be it too. One of my friends just found out 6 months into the relationship that the reason there wasn't sex nor anything past making-out and hugs is because he was asexual. Talk about major difference!!

[Marblesxoxo]

needless to say it led to a break-up, one for that major incompatibility and another for not telling her from the beginning

[MasterKS]

@Marblesxoxo thats asshole behaviour.

[Manuelwe]

Many times but single life is worse

[aycosko]

If there is disrespect, then yes there is.

[Staximus]

Absolutely

[beefcakebradybatson]

Of course.