The topic of love and relationships came up and I've noticed my friends of both genders made the mistake of only selecting a relationship base on feelings. They went on explaining the important of having someone that loves and cares for you, the feelings reciprocated, someone to share wonderful moments, maybe one day all that into marriage, etc.
There is something wrong there. They haven't explained nothing about what else they want in a partner. What about their political views, what about their hobbies (what if they like sports or traveling and you don't), the way they handle their bills (financial security), what if they don't believe in ever spanking a child and you do, besides love is there mutual respect and trust, can you communication about other topics besides love and emotions, etc?
I'll give you an analogy. Imagine you want to prepare a delicious homemade chicken pot pie. So you go to the supermarket and buy 8-10 chicken breasts and return home. Will that be enough to make your chicken pot pie? Absolutely NOPE. Yes you did buy the main ingredient the recipe is made up but you fail to buy the others that will turn it into your chicken pot pie.
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You just confirmed how conditional love is for women. Men have always known this.
It's not about being conditional love. Men shouldn't be just focusing on feelings. What if she doesn't share anything in common with him? What if she's always on debts, spending all the money on worthless things, what if she has other bad habits, etc?
Then would ''oh but she loves me, we love each other'' be enough? NOPE
Since when have men been "focused on feelings"?
Always, ever since they get clouded by the great sex they have in their relationship. Then they think they there is love. That's naive too.
That's called lust.
Women encourage this by leading with their pussy.
Both genders contribute to that ignorance. It takes two to make it happen. If more people focus on the other qualities instead of selecting a relationship by emotions, they wouldn't suddenly find themselves on bad, unstable relationships or marriages.
Even if the man is just the follower, he's still responsible for his part too.
When women file for 80% of the divorces, the fault lies squarely with women.
Then he has to be selective on the woman. If he picks a woman that's only faithful as long as she's infatuated with him that's the wrong person from the start.
@Tulipsxoxo. The problem is once the ring goes on, the cunt comes out. Women are great at acting prior to the wedding.
Overgeneralizing don't you think? My parents are still married.
@Tulipsxoxo. Only 14% of married women identify as "happily married". So there is an 86% chance your mom is making your Dads life a living hell.