How often do you prefer to date someone early in a relationship?

[OlderAndWiser]

Once you have decided to date a partner exclusively, how often do you prefer to date them? My guess is that most people will say once per week, gradually increasing. If you answer is different than that, can you give some explanation in a comment?

Once per month

Once every two weeks

Once per week

Twice per week

Once per week and then increasing to twice per week as we become more familiar with each other

I don't expect any set schedule or frequency

Something else that I'll explain in a comment

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The question is EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP, not when you have been dating three-six months.

[Chazmatazz269]

I typically saw a woman once or twice a week when i was enamored with her. Almost always on weekends, and it varied based on how much time and energy it took to get together even once. I’m an introvert. So a long or intense date would likely take a lot of wind out of my sails. That usually caused me to withdraw, regardless of how enjoyable the time may have been. Thankfully i had that. Otherwise i was often prone to jump both feet in much too early.
Also, if one visit included a sleepover, does that remain one visit or does it become two?

[Avicenna]

A couple of times a week usually fits my schedule

[sage2021]

As much as possible l. At least
3-4 times a week. Once you're exclusive I suppose she or he would come over for dinnerat least once during the week and get to know each other.

Then probably again on Wednesday go out for coffee or lunch, or chill out at his or her place. Then twice on the weekend - one night and somewhere during the day.

Once a month is crazy! That's only 12 times a year! Not nearly enough for a couple that is exclusive.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would usually do once per week for the first 4-6 dates, and then start suggesting midweek meetings or two dates on the weekend.

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

Twice a week is nice. If I really like him then both weekend nights, and one time during week! The early days are the best part!

[SallyTho87]

I prefer once or twice a week, IN PERSON. Building the connection with them, getting to know them more, understanding what they are looking for relationship wise, what their values, beliefs, traditional roles, family, etc. are, and how those beliefs align with my own wants, needs, hopes, goals, etc.

Taking the time to get to know someone I am interested in, helps me understand if time with this person is something to continue contributing toward, or something to leave as they are not the person / match I am seeking.

I appreciate becoming familiar and learning about new possible partner fairly early, as not to waste my own time, or their time, if our values, beliefs, wants, or expectations do not line up.

[LazerBean]

If by date, you mean going out to a restaurant or something somewhat formal like that, I would say at least once a week if that is the only in person contact y'all are making. We never went to restaurants much, but whenever we were in our predating phase and afterwards, my husband would come and hang out anytime he had the opportunity pretty much. Sometimes that was every weekday. And I was fine with that, because I like to hang out with him too. That said, we were still kids. That would have not have been very feasible as an adult.

[Lliam]

Once we're exclusive? As often as possible. Whatever our two schedules allow. Spend weekends together. Go to each other's places in the evening after work for dinner. Sometimes spend the night.
And not just to hang out, watch Netflix and talk, talk, talk. I'm not into women who aren't passionate once we have decided to be exclusive.

[Lliam]

If we weren't exclusive within the first two or three dates or so, I would move on. There is no way I would pussy foot around for three to six months while some idiot made up their mind.

It cracks me up when I hear of people these days chatting on-line and texting for months before working up the courage to even meet in person. It's like being agoraphobic. They won't even go on a date unless they have freaking wedding plans.

Fuck that. If you like each other, commit to an exclusive relationship, start having sex, enjoy each other's company, and see where things go. I don't know how people got so sexually fearful and prudish. They're afraid of life itself.

[OlderAndWiser]

They don't want to admit that it's "official" until the girl does into labor with their second child! WITF!

[Lliam]

LOL. .

[mono_gram]

If it’s the beginning of the relationship than it would be nice as much as possible. But really it’s whatever works for both people and whenever they have time to date.

[OlderAndWiser]

So after two dates, you would be okay with seeing each other three times per week?

[mono_gram]

Why not? If you really like that person wouldn’t you want to see each other as much as possible? But not everyday because I also need time to myself.

For me, by date I mean after becoming exclusive. I’m not really the type to casually date someone. I need to get to know them and be close or even friends with them before deciding whether I like them and want to date them. If it’s casual dating/getting to know them phase, then three times would probably be the max until I know them better.

[OlderAndWiser]

Relationships that begin very quickly tend to end very quickly.

[DishLady]

It depends on the person and how we are together. You get the sense of such things as you get to know the person.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, but the question asks about early in a relationship, when you don't know the person well at all.

[DishLady]

Even as early as your first meetup… you know how often you’d like to see that person… it’s just a feeling, not really a set formula or number. It’s different for each relationship you choose to have.

[worldscolide]

My wife and i when we were dating, spent as much time together as possible. It was usually three days at a time twice a month. We wanted more.

[OlderAndWiser]

Even early in the relationship?

[worldscolide]

Yes. But our relationship started weird. Less than a month after our first date, my wisdom teeth almost killed me. She was the only one to visit me in the hospital, not my mom nor my friends. I decided at that point I was going to marry her.

[OlderAndWiser]

Wow! It took me about 1½ years to decide to propose to Helen.

[worldscolide]

I get that. I didn't propose until we were a year in.. But I new I wanted to marry her less than a month in.

[Twalli]

After the first 2-3 months it should be bi-weekly and then you start spending time over at the other's place for the night. By about 1-1.5 years you should consider moving in together or not.

[OlderAndWiser]

How about early in the relationship? Once per week?

[Joshydavid25]

As often as we are willing and available.. I would assume we would be a little head over heels..

[hellothere90]

Twice a week maybe? we will go out on dates but the rest of the time we can text and get to know each other.

I have a job and I'm an introvert. I don't need a lot of social interaction.

[msc545]

Once per week seems about right. More often than that and it interferes with my schedule and less than that makes me feel like I'm losing touch.

[Jennz6]

I’ll move into their apartment

[OlderAndWiser]

How soon after the first date?

[Jennz6]

Right away if we’re a match

[OlderAndWiser]

How many times have you actually done that?

[Jennz6]

Lots of times

[avery58]

As often as possible

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Once per week