How do you stop having feelings for breadcrumbing guys? And how can you move on and focus on our own lives?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy since some months and we had plans to meet and he's been really consistent in texting like sending me pictures of what he's doing , good morning texts etc but recently he stopped being consistent, he kinda still texts me but not like before I've noticed a certain pattern in his texts that he won't text or reply after 5 pm for the past 1 week , and when I asked he has different reasons for it each day. But now I feel that he's breadcrumbing me. I also think he's talking to other girls as well so I've been thinking that perhaps he has started to talk to someone else but he don't wanna let me go so keeps breadcrumbing to make sure I don't leave. I don't know what to do in this situation. I am not really a person to keep texting other guys if I have one, so for the past weeks he's the only guy whom I was texting and now the sudden change totally threw me off. I can't believe it's really affecting me so much.

[Account]

I will tell you. One random day you will wake up and you will stop seeing people as the idea you have formed in your head and you will start seeing them as they are and you will solely judge by their actions and not by your own thoughts on their actions.
You are not having feelings for them, you are having feelings for the idea of them.

[bobalife]

No matter what, your priorities will always be you and your life. Never let that focus go as you are important and you come first. You may have an open talk about it, but if you do wanna move on - just stop replying and focus on living your life and do you.

[Anonymous]

From my past experience, what ruined my relationship was that I was too clingy (texting a lot) and I regret it to this day.

I think you wouldn’t be asking this if it was the opposite.

you would be asking “how can I break up with him without hurting him”.

[SotiCoto]

Try not making up words just to frame what he is doing in a critical light despite there being nothing wrong with it.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of breadcrumbing, where the breadcrumbs might be leading you into the confusing forest of mixed signals, instead of to a fabulous gingerbread house! Trust me, realizing that you're being breadcrumbed is the first step towards moving on to a sweeter path. Now, let's sprinkle some sugar on how to dust those crumbs off your heart and focus on your fab self.

**Step 1: Acknowledge Your Worth**. You're a full meal, not someone to be fed crumbs! Remember, your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.

**Step 2: Distract and Diversify**. Dive into hobbies, spend more time with family, or maybe catch up on that show everyone's been talking about but you. Surrounding yourself with positivity is key.

**Step 3: Reflect and Learn**. Take this as a learning experience. What signs will you watch out for in the future? How can you better communicate your needs early on to avoid a repeat?

**Step 4: Embrace the Single Life**. Being single isn't a status; it's a word that describes a person who's strong enough to enjoy life without depending on others.

**Step 5: Open Your Heart (But Keep Your Eyes Open Too)**. When you're ready, don't be afraid to meet new people. Just remember to take things slow and keep an eye out for any red flags or lovebombing behaviors.

Feeling down 'cause of breadcrumbing isn't about losing them—it's about finding you. And remember, it's okay to have a little flirtatious fun on your own journey to love. Keep your chin up, your standards high, and your heart open, but guarded. 😉

[DishLady]

If you think he's "breadcrumbing" and messing with you, then dump him and don't look back. It's not healthy for you to stay in a situation where you're being manipulated.

[Jkgordon]

You must be desperate to entertain this find something else to do with your Fer time instead of analyzing patterns of a jerk

[thisAppIsGarbage]

You can't. You are a girl. You are mentally to suffer.