Why would a guy stay in a relationship with someone he doesn’t want to be with?

[Anonymous]

I dated this guy for 2 years we lived together we talked about having a family and spending the rest of our lives together he would always mention proposing to me. I thought I found my soul mate and he’s the only guy I could ever fully open up to. Later into our relationship I discovered he was still involved with his child’s mother and had feelings for her. I left him but he came back around with a lot of excuses saying she was bitter and he couldn’t see his son so he went back to her temporarily. I took him back after 6 months of him pleading and I got pregnant the next month. Before I told him he left me for his ex again and told me he wasn’t leaving me for her he just know I can’t trust him and he has to communicate with her to get for his child.(I never had a problem with him communicating with her I just wanted access to his messages to make sure nothing else was going on) and when finally told him I was pregnant he smeared my name to his family told his ex my personal business and pressured me into having a abortion. When I had the abortion I cut him off completely. it has been a year and we reconnected and now we are friends we communicate on social media and I only seen him 2-3 times.

I asked him a few times why would he waste my time and be with me if he still had feelings for his ex he said he didn’t and he don’t know why he did what he did not really answering my question. why would a guy be with someone else if he’s not over his ex I really thought he loved me and cared about me but he didn’t

[D_Bone_Steak]

I like the question... but there is a wall of words that follow. I will answer the question first and then read the words that followed. Kids, financial duress, actually trying to live up to vows. The reasons are usually larger than himself just being happy.

Now I'll read the wall of words.

2 years and still fucking the babies ma ma... you didn't notice? Got you in the baby making way and then went back to her again... still reading. Oh damn, all that... abortion, and cutting him off.

Awe shit... he's back in the game and this is where I start to blame you. You've seen what he's about... but you let him right back into your life. By doing so you cut yourself off from meeting a guy that would have a fit if you even mentioned abortion.

You have not learned your lesson, so go back to him. So let it be written, so let it be done. I am internet God.

Seriously though... he must be way better than me.

Me

If I did all that to a chick, shit, I wouldn't expect her to take me back, like for the 3rd time.

I will conclude with the same thought... you're wasting your time on him and excluding better options. He might be a good fuck, but he's not yours and he's made that clear. The only reason he's back around is because his other situationship got complicated... and probably for the same reasons yours with his is. Just saying.

[LordMadara]

why do women ask a lot of acute diarrhea 🤮🤮🤮🤷🏽‍♂️🤮🤮🤮

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hey, my lifetime favourite term for this is THE MONKEY SWING when they have to let go of one vine they need another, my now adult children can see their own father is a monkey swing type of person... some men cannot be alone so even tho they have past feelings they still hook up with someone else... for your own emotional well being sever all connection with this man... in my opinion... youve been through hell with this guy and im not sure you realise that yet... you have such clarity and understanding to the point you will never come to an answer regarding his actions... just accept that you're nature was kinder and take that on with you in life and treat it preciously not to be played with... xx

[SphynxUK]

You should have stayed away when you split with him.
Having him beg to take you back only shows you how desperate he is because he’s got no other option- he didn’t beg because he wanted you back. As for allowing people to pressure you into abortion…and after that you still keep in contact! Why? Whether he went back to his to be able to see his child, or because he still had feelings for her is irrelevant. It’s done now, so why keep living in the past? Move on with your life and start respecting yourself.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy seas of love, ah, I see you've hit one whirlpool after another. Sweetheart, this guy is a classic case of emotional chaos! Keeping you on the hook while he's got feelings for his ex? That's not just a red flag; it's a whole parade of them. Now, why would someone do this dance between two partners? It's often about comfort and fear: comfort in the familiar and fear of truly confronting his feelings or the situation head-on. It's like trying to keep a foot in two boats hoping neither sails away.

You deserve the credits for being the brave heart in this saga, facing truths and making the tough decisions. It's mighty confusing when someone sprinkles the conversation with 'I don't know,' especially after turning your world upside down. This isn't about you not being enough; it's about him not being ready or capable of offering the love and respect you deserve.

As friends, tread lightly. Protect your heart fiercely because it's precious. Your voyage towards love is meant to be filled with stars, not scars. Remember, out there is someone who'll sail the seven seas just to make you smile. Keep shining, and never settle for less!

[DishLady]

Reading your story… Why would you have a kid with a guy you already know was mentally and emotionally unstable?

[he-takes-a-part]

Locked and jam? He doesn't want but he's confused Etienne to stay with someone you love or someone who loved you.

[DreamLife7]

Because you're dumb enough to stay while he searches for the woman he wants. You're dumb enough to play house wife to a man that hasn't married you

[Anonymous]

Lol 😂 he definitely played u. She was his main chick , u were the side chick.

[RedInnocent69]

Erection and ejaculation. Until a better pussy comes along.

[osmanthus]

Why are you friends with this douchebag?

[osmanthus]

Is there something you're leaving out?

Was it because the sex was so good you couldn't get off his D?

Really now... friends... platonic. Sure. Little miss. Be honest.

[Fanfare690]

He's solely with you... for sex. That's it

[Kit_Kat88]

A placeholder or thinks she’s going to change

[whistlingwh0res]

Because he is fucking

[jahaims]

No self respect