Okay, Okay... I got this one. The answer is SEX.
Okay, for real now. We all know of the "all the girls want are the Bad Boys" and the good guys never win. Thats kind of a BS statement but follow me here...
Some of the best sex of my life has been with the bad girls my man. And when you know you got the tiger by the tail... you just hold on and enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts. Because we all know it's going to end in flaming car wreck, and you don't even care. Because she is hot, and she is laying it on me. Thats God honest truth.
And don't lie to me brother. When it's over you are relieved... but that woman never really leaves your mind. And you ask yourself, could it have ever worked? Because if you think about all the good times, and adventures taken, and weekend get aways are over... and you ask yourself, if any of the things said were true or at least half true... it could of worked. But you just know how stupid that is to believe.
Did you really ever want it to work, or did you both know on some level what it was? Did we, as in she and I ever really want that? Or was what it was better?
I think we both wanted the joy and thrill of the ride.
In that way we both got what we wanted.
But that woman never completely leaves your mind.
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Looking back I think I was literally crazy in love. My heart would shout the truth to me but my delusions were shouting louder. I was just THAT in love with him. Looking for any sign that he could be feeling the same and ignoring the obvious signs that he didn't. There was a brief time period where he did like me, I held onto it and couldn't let go. I realize now how psycho that was. I know it's up to me to not be crazy but I remember crying texting him to just say the words and explicitly shut me down and I would leave him alone, because I just couldn't do it myself. He kept saying these vague things that would sound like he did like me, and then would use these implicit but genuine feeling ways to tell me he actually didn't. It was like he couldn't bear to tell me the truth so he lied, but the truth of his feelings would just show through everything he did. Everything being so vague allowed my deluded self to dismiss or entertain what I wanted. Even when he tried ghosting me it wasn't enough, I would always end up messaging him at some point because he didn't block me and he would cave in and reply at some point. I wonder why he never said "I don't want to be with you" I know I would have dropped it. I still can't point out what is it that was wrong with me that made me act like this as I was normal with my friends. Anyways, I think that there are probably other reasons people do that. I feel like maybe my experience is a little extreme and that most people who do that do it for different reasons.
it's that old saw: Some people want to pursue those who don't want them.
This doesn't mean the person doesn't like them or have some affection for them, but the relationship is completely out of balance. Instead of 50/50 or 60/40, it's more like 90/10. In addition, the unwilling partner is also unwilling to give up the overly involved partner. Mostly because they're getting lots of strokes from being the center of attention...
And what about the "90?" The "90" likes the challenge of the pursuit and mistakenly believes the more love they shower on the 10, maybe one day, it'll all even out.
More than likely this has to do with a dysfunctional home of origin where the child pursued an unaffectionate parent, and could never please them, or get what they needed emotionally.
It's unhealthy and sad.
I wouldn't.
Why waste my time, but to some it's challenge accepted.
Then once the get her the thrill is gone and they move on in a lot of cases.
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Not me! If she doesn't want me, I'm outta there!
What do you mean?
Are you talking about after a break up?
Or if the person never gave you a chance to date them in the first place? Like an initial rejection? So that all depends on what you are talking about..
If it's the former, it's because I AM HUMAN and I DO tend to miss the physical, if not emotional connection I had with the person. I don't know about you, but I'm not some saddistic, evil person that I would FORGET the person completely or something, I don't have BRAIN DAMAGE like that. But it seems like my ex does lol. Or he is just really good at showing that he doesn't care anymore about me and what beautiful thing I thought we had. I guess I am reminiscing and being nostalgic for nothing since he didn't even want to continue those feelings of joy, excitement and attachment. I must be pathetic. 😞
Well depends on the circumstances. Maybe they dont know me that well, whos to say if they got to know me they wouldn't wanna go out? Evweyone just see me the same as i always am, just trying to get by in life but i dont have an opportunity to really get to know someone and for them to see me in a different way
I don’t!! If he doesn’t want me, that’s just gonna throw me off and push me away.
I’m gonna become turned off as well.Thats why when I get ghosted and ignored and neglected. I just block them. They clearly don’t want to be anywhere near me. So I’m just gonna make it easy for you. BLOCK, DELETE, GOODBYE 👋.
Im ALREADY not seeing you or having you. I might as well delete and block you.
In my case , If I meet someone emotional unavailable , I feel the urge to make them open up to me. I think it s the mistery that attracts the most, so, when a person meets another person who doesn't want to be in a relationship with them, they immediately ask themselves:„why?". Let s Say , the reason is this:this is how our minds work:they want what they can't get.
I don't! That'd be foolish.
I would say if someone is that way it's because they have no self respect, self worth. Or they just haven't figured out that the feelings in this case are one sided.
I don't. I'm usually the one that doesn't want to be in a relationship 🤣
most probably due to :
1. good memories, moments
2. emotional attachment
I could not be in that type of relationship
Everyone wants what they cannot have.
I don't. I have no time for time-wasters.
Insanity is the reason
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