Why would someone want to be in a relationship with YOU?

Question

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Well, for this I could pull some quotes from some texts and emails sent to me:

".. you really have opened my heart again, and made life extra sweet and exciting💞💋 you always brighten my day just by being your charming self, you have such a beautiful perspective of the world and of other people. There’s so many things about you that I just can’t help but love,... I just adore you <redacted>, you’re very special to me.. my King👑💞 ... you make me feel so safe and valued... be your beautiful loving self; your radiant, determined, pure and playful soul, the reason I’ve fallen in love with you, and exactly the light this world needs💞 (you let) me have room to open my heart... Knowing you has been the adventure of a lifetime... I didn’t know love could be so liberating or fun or oozing with excitement and sensuality. (you) awaken a side of me I’d not known before... (you help) me feel blessed for every breath I take, and even more blessed for the new ways I can love... I am truly the luckiest girl in the world to have you as my partner. You inspire me to be better, to lighten my soul, and to be vulnerable... no one has ever loved me so tender or said such sweet words to me before; you absolutely light up my life... you inspire my humanity... helped me truly take part in life again...(you give) me space to truly be me. ... you make me feel so safe <redacted>... I prayed for a partner that is kind and loving, and holy shit, you have surpassed anything I ever could imagine... I feel we are such a positive and healthy example for others to follow for love. Things are so pure between us it’s like a dream❤️"

"I got to thinking about... how lucky and privileged I am to have met you.. I'll never forget you... you changed me... Chance and luck were truly on my side when we met. You made me realize that life really is there for my own taking and that I have no true obligation other than to do whatever feels right at the moment. You make me believe in myself more, you make me feel beautiful and smart and when I'm around you, I feel like I could tackle anything. In just a month, you've opened my eyes to so many things that I was missing before. Thank you for that and everything else and for pushing me to face my fears, however rational or irrational they were. Thank you for being inspiring.. I really appreciate how thoughtful you are... you're a good 'un, you're a big 'un and a good 'un... I'm grateful for the time I was able to have with you. I hope that at some point in the future... we can meet up again... wherever I am in the world, you're more than welcome."

"you need to like just open up your own orgasm shop. Literally. I've had a few sexual partners and, while I don't want to stroke your ego, God dammit you take the cake... when we first met.. I was the one wanting your <redacted> to live inside of me... the reality was so much <redacted> better than the fantasy... literally wanted you <redacted> to the point I was wanting you <redacted> in the middle of a performance... but <redacted> I just wanted <redacted> buried in me 24/7... and I actually so wish that was an exaggeration... I would have let you use me any way you wanted... I trust you more than I've trusted anyone else in my life... and I don't trust people (shocking right?)... you are such a fucking amazing human being. Your heart is the best heart I've ever known in my whole life. You just... you, sir, are amazing and deserving of all of the love and all of the praise forever and always."

TLDR and to draw conclusions from what others have told me, I help my partner (s) feel safe, and I inspire them to grow. I show them love that is beyond anything they've known before, both emotionally and physically/sexually. I make them feel good about themselves, challenge them to go beyond where they've been, support them so they can feel confident and do more with their lives. I think there's a lot more I have to offer, but to boil it down to a simple summation, some of my major strengths are being supportive and sensual.

Why would someone want to be in a relationship with YOU?

Steelcore5280 · Accepted Answer

- I believe in the concept of traditional gender roles. The ones where I am the breadwinner and support my partner, too, because you gotta support your wife like she supports you.

- I have no problem with defending my loved ones and home from outside threats that make the mistake of crossing secured boundaries, and I will use LETHAL force if said problem wants to "fuck around and find out."

- I'm secure in my own masculinity and I don't let anyone try to dictate to me what a real man is, and I enjoy doing all sorts of masculine stuff and won't apologize for being myself.

- I'm financially secure and have plenty in my savings and investments, and I'm saving for the future. I'm smart with my money, and I don't impulse spend on stuff I don't need.

- I'm an independent person who can be annoyingly romantic when the need arises, and provide space when it's necessary.

- I don't grovel at peoples feet and I'm not a pushover. In fact, I'm willing to push back on things if I have a different stance on something. Being a doormat ain't attractive.

- I'm more than capable of being on my own. I can do stuff like clean my own place, cook, change the oil in my vehicle, all that stuff. I'm not gonna be annoyingly dependent on someone, it's just nice to have a gal around that I love and care for.

Those are just a few answers from me. But enough about me 😂😂😂

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Hmm that would depend on the things they are fond of or value.

They would want to based on how we both vibed ofc. That plays a big part.

It would be ideal that someone “significant” wanted to be with me because they admired my level and frame of intellect. My theories. My views. My moral code (s). My techniques.

My form of expression.

Really my form of expression. I’d hope they would vibe with that.

I don’t really wish to say much because I see it as subtle and the right person will notice those things when others/most don’t.

I’m not here to be wanted by EVERYBODY lol that’s a tall and unrealistic order. Would be cool in some sense- like I got along with EVERYBODYYYY 100% 24/7, it not realistic.

They’d probably want to be with me because of my approach to problems in any part of the spectrum.

They’d want to be with me for my sense of humor, and our sense of humor shared.

They’d want to be with me because when together I would have made them feel special and feel alive. They’d feel and know they were appreciated, and they may find, here and there, some times of inspiration to be a bit adventurous/spontaneous, and grateful.

They’d want to be with me because they would feel somewhat understood, more than with/around others. They’d find it somewhat easy to talk to me and let things flow.

They’d want to be with me because our time together would feel therapeutic.

(I’m not really materialistic or title abundant/heavy; they wouldn’t want to be with me for what I have or what I have done, but how I interact with them, make them feel, get them thinking. That all depends on the vibe. It’s not going to be with everyone).

So they wouldn’t want to be with me because of a diploma/ financial status/ alumni status/ employee status. None of that. “Good Citizen” status.

They’d see what I know, how I show that, how I treat them, and what we do together. That’s WHY they’d want to be with me, and it depends on if they value what they get out of all those areas.

Everyone values and strives for different things.

I hope this somewhat makes sense.

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

I know things.

I come with a premium roadside assistance membership.

I can shoot and hunt.

I can drive a forklift and a 65 ton tank retriever.

I don't take up much space.

I have checks and know how to write them, and I carry cash (this is particularly important).

If you're staying with me and it snows, you don't have to get out and shovel because I have people.

razelove · Answer

Probably the biggest two reasons would be that I'm stable and great with kids. I look alright and take care of myself, but those are reasons to have sex, not get into a relationship. At least women I get with now say that's why they're attracted and want me. Because I'm stable, they can trust me, feel comfortable, and obviously get dicked down.

Going forwards it's very important for women to feel safe and secure though, especially if they have kids and/or might get knocked up down the road. If I wasn't steady, I don't know, I guess I'd have to use condoms more?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have traditional values and embrace traditional gender roles, I am confident but not overbearing, and I treat my partner like a lady should be treated.

Sonorous · Answer

Because I'm a chill & authentic person who has many aspects of mental maturity. But I'm really not into dating so I'd politefully decline.

Anonymous · Answer

Because I’m full of joy, im full of life

Im nurturing

I have a good moral compass 🧭

I don’t think with emotion or are highly emotional

I’m always positive and rarely negative, I just don’t see the point of stressing myself or anyone out

Im a conspiracy theorist so prioritize truth ABOVE social status and social approval ( Truth and Justice comes first and foremost 👆)

I’m not exactly religious but I do believe there’s a creator or a MOST HIGH. An Almighty Entity watching us all

I take care of myself, workout, and TRY to be healthy.

My hygiene is top notch and I’d feel uncomfortable being messy and disorganized. (Not that I don’t get disorganized once in a blue moon due to the circumstances 😓)

I try to dress as conservative as possible. Kind of like military girl with a military tight bun.

Im into guns, and I carry. 🔫 So you’ll always be safe with me

I can jumpstart a car, and always have jumpercables

I can drive any car since I had a job where I had to drive multiple cars of any sort.

I have double Nationality. If,, that even matters. I speak 2 languages if that even matters

Im open-minded, always ready to learn something new or Im Very Curious.

I like tattoos and I also design tattoos. Even though I only have like 4 tattoos. If you’re a tattoo guy I’m cool with that.

I’m good at digital art and sketching. Hence why I design tattoos. 😂

I don’t smoke anything at all. Anything. I was never into the idea of inhaling something into my lungs 😬 When I learned about the issues of lung cancer and having depression from marijuana I said NOPE!

But for the more superficial part of me:

I’m good in bed and most men who I spend the night with me don’t last at all. 😬 unless your very experienced

My Boobs look like the Girl in the picture you showed. So people’s eyes will always turn to look.👀

My hips are like pear 🍐, so people again will turn to look.👀

I’m 5ft short so I fit in most spaces and can be picked up.

Im into watching XXX with my partner and exploring different kinks together.

I don’t have kids and I don’t plan on having any kids at all. I think the world is too overpopulated and polluted for me to add to that. However if I do decide to create yet another human. I think it’ll just be one ☝️.

At the end of the day, I think I’m like everyone else. 😒☕️ Everyone is just themselves

Finchie40 · Answer

My heart and my respect and loyalty , as long as they can be loyal to me I will do the same in return , , I know what it means to remove selfishness for someone that holds my heart , I will eliminate things to avoid any conflict in our relationship the same way I would want her to do for me , The only thing I won’t tolerate for long is lack of intimacy and affection , I want a girl that wants to be under the sheets with me not one that runs to the streets , I am a hard worker , I make a good living , if she doesn’t want to work that’s fine as long as she isn’t a huge spender that puts us in debt but her job should be to maintain the house , while I am at work , when I come home don’t add more misery into my life , I want to come home to someone that is happy to see me , if we end up on the bedroom I am totally ok with that , I am very content , I don’t need much to keep me happy , just love and respect , intimacy and affection , and a partner not a mooch , someone that has a heart and knows what it means to be loyal and faithful

AaronKrieger · Answer

I'll just name cons as well, so I don't feel like a narcissist while typing this up lmao
PROS:
- Very complimentative
- I like to give gifts a lot (not expensive ones, but just thought out ones)
- Understanding/Empathetic
- Patient
- Good memory (I still remember everything about my exes from years ago)
- Loyal
- Ambitious
- Sarcastic/Wity
- Don't prioritize sex that much (Willing to if they want it)
- Very protective (security/self-defense)
- Will make sacrifices if it means supporting my partner

CONS:
- Suck at communicating personal issues
- Care too much about being right
- Inexperienced fighter and I am skinny lmao (I've been in a few fights, but I don't know what I am doing)
- Would rather hangout alone with you than go out doing something, but sometimes that can go to an extreme
- Control issues (Not in the sense I want to control my partner, but I like being in control of situations and my environment)
- Too blunt (I have said awful shit before at the time thinking it wasn't that bad, but I later realized probably hurt their feelings)
- Serious case of ADHD (EX: If I am not medicated, then I cannot drive without almost getting in an accident every five seconds, since my brain cannot focus)

mattclark242 · Answer

that Like saying why should we hire you? Most of the time I say I don't know and that I am hard working. (it my head I say I am stupid and want know how long to I be here and till I mess up the job) just pay me little make me work hard and then start yelling about how my job not a real job and is to easy. How I do not like to work and my job not real and I just want easy money then make ever thing super fast and start slameing everything.

I would be good in a relationship cause I can give money to a women with out a job cause of all the saveing I have and also I can make a women who already have a boyfriend feel good by show I like or care or want do something with her just make her feel good. Older women like me cause I am young and also nice. Sometime gay men like me I not sure why. I inspire people to be there best or get out of there bad life. I try care about anyone but my self. I am loyal to there wrong people and people who do not like me.

I don't know I want throw myself under the bus. But I want bring other up and make them feel good. sometime I stalk people and try help them when that do not like it. I lie to other so I will not get use.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

They wouldn't. My life has proven that. I could go for years talking to five women every day for the rest of my life and come up nothing. I'm satisfied with what I have despite not being enough for someone else. So many men have more to offer with a lot less downsides than I.

I’m a picky eater, so that narrows down the places we can go for a dinner date - mushrooms, onions, peppers, tomatoes, lettuce, cucumber, zucchini, squash, eggplant, asparagus, shrimp, oysters, and tuna are some of the foods I do not like.

I’m not fashionable. I wear what I find comfortable, so usually dark colors, khakis and chinos.

I’m not that good in social situation. If we were to go to a party filled with strangers I will cling to you or I will stand at a corner and just do nothing.

I have difficulty in reading people. If you need a hug for instance, you'll have have to say it clearly.

I have a chance to have a seizure at any time, take anti-convulsants and an oral chemotherapy. I can't drive, either.

My nose doesn't work very well and I usually apply deodorant twice a day just to make sure I don't stink.

I have no filter. I will ask you anything or talk to you about anything openly.

I overthink everything. I won’t eat, sleep or rest if I’ve got something on my mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m wholesome

I take care of my people

I will write my partner love poems, compose piano pieces for them, and just generally do what I can to make them feel amazing.

On the superficial side, I’m in pretty decent shape, great cardio and upper body strength (can do rope climbs hand over hand no using legs) have a great career which is stable and flexible in terms of hours and location, no debt, beautiful blue eyes and long, full, curly dark hair and I’m willing to let a woman instruct me on some fashion sense haha because I do dress like a skater boy (cause I kind of am lol)

Really it would be a long list. Of course I have downsides as well…I have a limited amount of patience for the victim mentality and for all over the place emotions and seeing as I’m straight, well…yeah XD ladies tell me “oh I’m not the kind of girl to get all emotional on her period” XD okay sure hahahaha I really am not great with dealing with women on their period lol. I can also be abrasive and insensitive at times, but if my partner comes to me telling me they were hurt I will always apologize and make note of how not to hurt them that way again. Nobody is perfect, but I think I’m gunna make a damn good partner for my next girl, just hope her parents are less meddlesome than my ex’s lol…the whole situation was a disaster once they started butting in

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Why? ... other than I would like to fuck.

let's get into it. I'm going to be real... it's all selfish reasons and my focus is primarily on things I need to avoid and what works best for me. So yeah, the village bicycle that everyone gets to ride or the door knob that everybody had to turn isn't exactly something I want to brag about being with. Her habits and much more developed from that or something like substance abuse could add up as well. A system of patterns can lead to more of the same even if she says she's your one and only now all of a sudden. With all that said...

Consistent bad habits are not going to change. If she tells you stories of how all her ex's are pieces of shit... expect that you will be the next one. The problem isn't every man... it is her. (Keep in mind this advice goes for the opposite gender as well)

It's a shitshow out there kids... don't do drugs and hit the gym.

Screenwriter · Answer

Well, I don't have HUGE maracas and am not young like the woman in the pix, but I have a HUGE personality, warm sense of humor, great wit and intelligence and fabulous energy. I like to travel near and far. Am an avid gardener. Good cook, esp. of Creole New Orleans food.

I can change my oil, paint my house and nail a weatherboard, operate a circular saw and drill. I know a little bit about how to take care of my home and car and self. I'm a loyal friend and care a great deal about my family and friends.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’m cute, funny, and a bubbly people person personality. I can hold a quality conversation. I hold a professional job and I’m consistent and reliable. I don’t have ex drama or traumas that will interfere in me having an adult relationship.
I work out regularly, and try to eat healthy although coffee and cake have a sweet spot in my heart. My family is nice and they generally keep to themselves so no drama there.

I’m practically a unicorn covered in chocolate.

Monalisa77 · Answer

I think if i had the confidence, and stability,/trust i could make them laugh, teach them things they dont know, be passionate and caring, do things we enjoy together but i also want them to do their own thing too, i would never want them to change they have to be themselves, im a sensitive person who wouldn't cheat on them if i turn out not to like them anymore i would just tell them, i can't lie its just not in my nature to do that..

HighValue · Answer

I am big, strong, attractive face, can fight well, intelligent, caring, affectionate, loyal, trustworthy, good with kids, don't drink alcohol or do drugs, no contact with any ex, I like indoor activities like board games, video games, watching movies and TV, but I also enjoy outdoor activities like riding bikes, going for a walk, miniature golf, volleyball, etc. I know how to fix things around the house, can protect/defend my future family, and I am not obsessed with social media like many people are.

TheIrishWolf · Answer

Because...

- I'm a good a man.
- a man of principles.
- a protector of his family
- a reasonable man.
- an honest man
- a man that tries to communicate
- a man that tries to understand
- a man that wants to be a good father one day
- a good uncle
- a good brother
- a good boyfriend (I almost said husband 👀)
- a man that admits when he's wrong
- a man that shows love to his girlfriend
- his kids
- his friends
- I want to grow
- educate
- listen to others
- help others
- make something of myself
- and because I make mistakes and
- have flaws

Extra...

- I'm good looking
- eat healthy
- and exercise regularly (I've been told I've a nice ass 😂)

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is up to others to decide.

arodriguez664 · Answer

When I was single I had a lot of guys trying to get me into a relationship. They all wanted to be in a relationship with me because I'm a good conversationalist and I'm extremely understanding. I think kindness goes much further than people give it credit for.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think my best trait is that I am faithful to no end. When I am with someone, I am never checking someone else out and looking for someone who is supposedly better. I also love my career and will never complain about it when I get home. Overall, I am a positive happy guy with a good sense of humor, or so I've been told.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Shit ask them 🤣 I’m pretty sure i think more of myself than most. But its been a success for the most part

Likes2drive · Answer

I’m easy going, good company, good at conversation, love to see new places and try new foods. Sounds like a question from a dating app 😊

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Those crazy long lists I can't do that :(

Because they like the fact I'm an introvert

I'm calm

I don't let problems sit and become something bigger.

Maybe we share the same hobbies

Maybe our love language is the same

Because We Complete Eachother.

Unit1 · Answer

They don't 😆

They are not interested in cuddles, massages, calm relationship, beach tours, mall tours and feeling loved. Some girls have said i can impress girls with these but the results show otherwise.

But hey, i don't blame them. They prefer sitting at home on Instagram and collecting likes 😝

NathanDavis · Answer

because I can bake homemade Cheetos...

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Like me they must be out of their minds! Hahaha.

domenico07 · Answer

Ion know how to answer that but i do know i ain't a good influence nor would i b a good partner at this time in my life. Mayb one day down da line i can answer dis and b right but fo now, nah.. im a irresponsible dirtbag who can't cry nor be emotionally

MisterKuulius · Answer

I'm smart. I'm honest. I have a strong sense of right and wrong. I have a lot of well-rounded skills and a lot of potential.

... I'm also incredibly, amazingly, uncontestably, and extraordinarily humble. 😝

FreyaRed · Answer

We all know what men want. However I tend to think it's not only one thing they want because being presentable seems to have a value too, maybe not that high like another p thing but their egos want a partner who attracts glimpses.

Anonymous · Answer

I have provided a stable framework around which she can live and raise her children.

It's not exciting. It's not jet set. But the money comes in, bills are paid, and we live a reasonably comfortable existence whether she's choosing to work or not.

If she treats me right, I'll love her, support her, and be with her until the end.

FifiJones · Answer

Cuz I'm crash hot, independent, hard working + a virgin/have no exes to wish to go back to (e. g. because oh-my-god that guy fucked me so nicely and I am horny again and would love to get fucked by him again)

mobiusforniner · Answer

Years ago, seemed girls avoided me like the plague. The big difference was getting a house. Anytime I mentioned having a house, it was like a lightbulb went off and women began lining up... weird how that works.

Anonymous · Answer

They shouldn't date me. I can't give them a substantial amount of my time, I also can't give them access to a great deal of money, or for instance purchase a house for them to turn into a home. I'm also pretty solitary and I hate being told what to do.

Anonymous · Answer

Based on the feedback I've received, I have a reasonably good sense of humor, am level headed, easy going, fun loving, well educated, have a good job, own a home, like to dress reasonably well, I can cook better than most people my age, and I'm told I'm not too unpleasant to look at.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'm the definition of spontaneity and fun, Coach, but other than that, beats me! LOL

mstbooblover · Answer

Well, that's an excellent question actually, and honestly I have no real idea, although being open to a proposal on behalf of a friendly lady ;0)

Red-Blaze · Answer

I think they just dont know the amount of damage I got 😅 or there just crazy, or there eyes take off all there brain proccess power

EmmaMary · Answer

I've absolutely no idea, you would have to ask my husband! 😂

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I can’t answer now.  I have a lot to work on myself.

humanearth · Answer

Because i believe man should take care and protect women I have very old school beliefs and traditions

RobT312 · Answer

i think I’m a good balance of fun and serious in life, bed, and work

Anonymous · Answer

They probably wouldn't. Hence why I'm single. 😆

Twalli · Answer

Apparently, I treat girls the way they want. I don't actually know that I do, but people keep saying that I make them feel better about themselves. I listen and engage. I also compliment.

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. She likes the beach. 2. She has a rescuer complex. 3. She's writing a research paper.

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly have no clue. Not saying I don't have a lot to offer but I have a lot of issues as well that would scare off most guys.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

I'm funny, I'm tall, I don't complain about life and I have dreams and goals which I pursue 🤞

Shark_61695 · Answer

I'm awesome... Nah, just kidding, they wouldn't.

genericname85 · Answer

I don't know. But then again i don't really know why I wanna be wanna be with certain people

Anonymous · Answer

I have a good life, I'm a lot of fun, I'm supportive, communicative, and I don't expect much.

boobliker · Answer

cose you have 2 very good assets of wich I can see

AliSulayman · Answer

I’m easy going. A team player. Open minded in bed and hot!

Sasha0426 · Answer

I have no fucking clue 🤣

CheeseMonster · Answer

They have some funny kink

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If you are a man, for what you can provide and the status your bring.

grega239 · Answer

Im reliable and competent i guess.  Which is worthless in my experience

Anonymous · Answer

Good lord does Kelly Brook have an amazing rack!

Anonymous · Answer

I asked that question to my exes, apparently being reasonably endowed, interesting and ambitious

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Because i am handsome, with nice body and lovely manners

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

I’m loyal and I do what I say I’m going to do

msc545 · Answer

Access to the wisdom and wit of my cat Allister.

Jazzy54 · Answer

I have a lot of love to give and I’m supportive.

Orion76 · Answer

Well, my ex said I’m a unique kind of asshole!

Why would someone want to be in a relationship with YOU?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Why would someone want to be in a relationship with YOU?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.