Why would a man keep you around if he dosent want a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this man for 9 months and we have spoken everyday non stop. He said he dosent want a relationship but when I try to leave he says he dosent want me to and that he wants to still see Me? Or when I get the strength to leave he just sells me these dreams and promises me dates and things. We have been having sex for 9 months now and it is good sex I think Maybe that’s a reason I can’t let go and because I’ve never spoken to someone for so long? But why does he keep me there if he dosent want a relationship. I try to leave but then he will just message me randomly saying what are you doing or checks up on me and says he wants me but nothing ever changes?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Because he wanta to fuck you anytime, and you're letting him fuck you without giving you anything you need out of a relationship.

Leave. Just leave.

Or keep him as a casual fuck, but don't delude yourself into thinking he wants or is ready for a relationship.

He is literally just using you for easy sex. That is it.

[Fanfare690]

Look for someone else who will give you the title of girlfriend to wife. You're in a situation ship. Nothing good EVER comes out of those

[Chaotic_God]

He wants someone to fuck who’s available to fuck. He has needs and doesn’t want anything more than that. If your ok with casual sex while you look for something substantial then continue on but if you want a relationship your in the wrong place.

[Hawaiikai]

Girl, I’m in the same position!!! I just got told after six months a guy should know by now what he wants. Or he will be upfront at least a mature guy would. Hard to find that these days. I asked a guy that I’ve been talking to for six months and that I’ve been saying if we are just friends friends with benefits or what is it? He said I’m more than just a friend and he wants to see where it goes but he said that like two months in when we started talking that he wants to see where things go. Then I realized if he still wants to see where things go that’s total bullshit and the fact that I’m still even dealing with him is just retarded. I’m slowly waking up.