Why would a guy not want a relationship, yet meet you?

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And do you think you should meet a guy and see him if he's not interested in a relationship?

YOLOIFIC · Accepted Answer

Depends on what you mean by “relationship”. If you mean monogamous exclusive dating or marriage. Guy or gal, not everyone is easy for that and rushing someone into it is just a recipe for the sky high divorce rates of my parents generation.

Thankfully that cycle is breaking in my generation, the social pressure to rush into marriage or long term relationships is dramatically less and no shocker. People marrying at a later age when they’re more mature and ready for marriage has resulted in significantly lower divorce rates in millennials compared to Gen X and Baby Boomers.

Meeting someone has no implicit or explicit explanation for anything besides meeting. Any expectations you have need to be stated openly and without any guile or presumption at all.

You want an exclusive relationship got to say it and yes not everyone is going to be receptive to that. Nor should they, traditional values when it comes to sexuality and intimate relations is extremely archaic.

I’m not saying go out and have unprotected sex with every person you can see. This is 2021 not 1961, thank the universe. But traditional marriage and the previous social expectations of courtship are outdated.

Unmarried cohabitation is becoming common, casual (hopefully safe) sex is increasing prevalent and rapidly losing its stigma in this nation.

While some think this is bad, I think it’s great because it’s far more realistic about human nature and a return to our more rational senses than the moral standards driven almost exclusively by the Abrahamic religions in the western nations ever was or ever could by any objective reasoning.

My time in the Middle East where standards are far more restrictive only cemented this even more to me.

100% get that you might be ready for a long term monogamous relationship and I’m sure there are people out there interested too but guy or gal doesn’t mean everyone it and the burden if on you in my opinion to set your expectations for any relationship in advance explicitly.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

Why would you not be interested in you I'm going to meet somebody is because I'm interested in them maybe that's his way of saying I just want to meet you I want to get laid but I don't want a relationship

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

... To talk, and have a normal friendly conversation?

I get that socially us ladies are conditioned to think any meeting a member of the opposite sex is a "date". But that's archaic and dumb.

Humans connect, interact, talk, share ideas. It's what we do. It's what we've done since the dawn of our species. It's what has advanced us through the years.

I go for regular coffees and hang outs with many friends in a platonic setting. To talk, to brainstorm, to share ideas, etc.

It's just a nice thing to be able to talk to others. Plus professionally coffee shop networking has helped me advance my career. It's good to know how to talk to and interact with others.

DellBell · Accepted Answer

He is looking for some fun. Just know that when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship literally believe him and don't think you can change his mind because you can't no matter how great and perfect of a woman you are. If he doesn't want one then he doesn't want one.

Azura_88 · Answer

He wants all the benefits without putting any commitment and time.
He's not only meeting you but is also exploring and trying to meet other girls as well.
These people only love to string you along unless they find someone more suitable. If they don't, then they settle with you, use you for ego boost and take you for granted.

ProCoffeeAntiSleep · Answer

The comments on this post are depressing. Y’all know boys and girls can be friends right?

DaveToo · Answer

If you're interested in one-night stands, or a week, or a month, then fine. If you want someone to commit to a lifelong deal, it will take time to find him.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

That really depends on you and what you want. If you want a relationship then it's a blind alley with nothing for you. If a relationship is less important to you then no problem.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

I don’t know, but maybe he’s bored and wants to see what’s up with you. Perhaps he just wants to interact with someone and see whats to be gained from interacting with you.

Ninjazzed · Answer

Usually young guys want sex without the consequences or commitment or married men are just looking for a temporary escape from their sexless marriage..

Vikkrram · Answer

Then why to meet then when he doesn't want any relationship, maybe after some meetings he may changed his mind... Coz sometimes things take time to Settle down , but if dosen't then probably he might be looking for some fun...

PrinceNeo · Answer

All of the pens on whether or not there's any sex going on, If you're just banging every time you hang out then that's why, however if you're not banging it's probably just because you're good company.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

If he isn't looking for a relationship but you are, it isn't a good idea to meet up unless you're going to be okay with a one night stand.

But are you really that naive to not know what he's after? Seriously?

TessCasie · Answer

He wants to meet you cause he likes the assets he’s getting without the title of “ committed relationship “ no labels. If a guy has told you right from the start he isn’t looking for relationship. Believe him!

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Either smashing or looking for friends. Especially the second part is so alien to girls these days. Why wouldn't he just want to meet someone nice to make some more friends?

Sabin_Splx · Answer

A lot of guys are scummy and manipulative. They see a small opportunity and they will jump on it!

Faceless21 · Answer

To seed his sperm on the Earth as much as possible.

homie3112 · Answer

If he said that and still asks to meet. More than likey: sex. The minor possibility, but still completely possible: he just wants to be friends. Like 99.8% sure it's sex.

IDontBelieveIt · Answer

Could be emotional baggage, damage from past experiences, have a fear of rejection, the relationship breaking up later, many others.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

He might just be a friendly guy who likes meeting new people. I've done that.

fonduegirl · Answer

If you met him on dating site, indeed it's idiotic of him to meet with no desire for dating

Paolaa988 · Answer

Either he just wants a good time or some sort of friendship is what I'd think.

Honesttguy · Answer

I swear these kind of questions from girls really makes me question their intelligence.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably sex. Should you meet him? Depends what you're looking for, I guess.

Adam1978 · Answer

No it's a waste of time, if you want a relationship.

TallAnon · Answer

Fuck and next. Aka, he likes your looks, but doesn't want you around after that.

Mark987 · Answer

I am guessing he wants to do a friends with benefits ordeal.. or just wasting time

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You can meet anyone, as long as it's a safe place during safe hours. But if he doesn't want a relationship, be sure to get him to clarify exactly what he DOES want [before meeting up with him.]

oddwaffle · Answer

Do you want a quick one-night stand? Or friends with benefits? If no then no.

Starwitch23 · Answer

He's not sure about you. That's why. Do you want aguy who is not sure about you?

RoyalGuy_PRO · Answer

guys tend to like the female personality, and hence makes it fulfilling to hang out with them

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why a girl would not want a relationship, yet meet you.

Bang5luts · Answer

No idea. He's nuts you're very pretty! I imagine you'll do very will in life.. 😊

ManHater · Answer

you look like a guy dressed as a girl. Do you have a cock?

Anonymous · Answer

Probably for something casual until things grow into more

Omario2049 · Answer

For the same ONLY reason guys get into relationships... FOR SEX!!!

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

The 3 letter word which every guy is chasing for day and night..

jewishqueeen · Answer

He doesn’t wanna be committed. He just want’s that sex or maybe he just likes hanging out with you cause he feels comfortable who knows.

YesYummy · Answer

Absolutely sex. He just wants sex.

take_a_leap · Answer

Just to make you feel like friend or may be he is not in for commitment.

slayeroftbbs · Answer

He might be not into someone but still want friends guys love to have a lot of friend

Anonymous · Answer

it depends. Do you want a relationship? If so then ghost him

Lemondrop699 · Answer

They just want a friends with benefits

Shihab91 · Answer

RUN...

Randysutton75 · Answer

He’s only wanting sex

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

After meeting you he lost interest

pink_and_inlove · Answer

He most likely wants something casual

CreamySeed · Answer

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Sex. Wow you are pretty oblivious.

Galili · Answer

It could mean he just want a friend.

Anonymous · Answer

He wants to fuckzone you.

higheredge274884 · Answer

To fuck

Leavesbound · Answer

He wants sex.

Jeff_williams · Answer

to try to hookup , that is the only reason

Alyssa11 · Answer

SEX. Yup that’s it.

Anonymous · Answer

I woudnt if a Girl I liked said that to me.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Sex.

loveslongnails · Answer

Why would I care?

FakeNIK · Answer

General Curiosity

Glasgow55 · Answer

Sex.

michael1469 · Answer

He wants a hookup

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