Do guys who hook up a lot ever want to be in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Do fuck boys ever start liking someone for real and want to date and be in relationship? When do you feel that way? What would make you start liking a girl truly, not just fucking her but truly loving her? Or are you emotionally unavailable or have some reason which is why you never want to be in a relationship?

[MrOracle]

Do guys who hook up a lot ever want to be in a relationship?

Very rarely - and usually the girl has to be a 10/10 in his eyes - and even then, he'll usually end up cheating on her eventually.

Why? Because he's been used to being able to have as many women as he wants, and to sleep with new women all the time. Men have a strong biological drive to do this, but most men learn to control that urge because most men simply don't have that option. But the top 10% guys DO have the option to bang lots of girls, and so nearly all of them do - and have been doing so since they hit puberty. The chances of them CHOOSING to stop is very low. It would be like choosing to be completely broke and living a poor-person's lifestyle after a lifetime of being wealthy and having the best of everything - how many people would make that choice?

Essentially, you want to take a Bad Boy and make him a Good Guy, because he's hot and attractive and you want him for yourself. Well, guess what? That's what EVERY woman wants, which is exactly WHY he CAN bang a new girl every week. He can replace you in 2 minutes, because he has a phone full of other girls he can bang at anytime.

Pay attention to the girls he's with. They ALL want what you want, and most have convinced themselves that there is SOMETHING they can do to change his mind and make him date her exclusively. She can cook, clean, give him great sex, buy him things, etc., but watch what happens: he'll be with a different girl next week, or next month. Did that girl get what she wanted? How about the girl before her? Or the girl before that? No, none of them did, and none of them will.

You CANNOT take a Bad Boy and make him into a Good Guy. You cannot change a man, you cannot "fix" a man - if you are with a guy for a week or for 50 years, he'll be exactly the same man when your relationship is over that he was the day you met him. Thus, if you want an actual RELATIONSHIP, you have to find a man who ALREADY has all the qualities and long-term compatibility that you need. He doesn't need to have the job or the income, or status, yet - those things DO change - but he needs to have the morals, values, life-goals, and ambition.

Are you going to find those things in a hot guy? I'm not saying it's impossible, but, realistically, if 20 of those guys exist on the planet, I'd be shocked, and of those 20, at least 10 are already married, and at least 3 are in China and 3 in India, with the other 4 single guys spread across the world. And remember: he'll be able to demand a 10/10 woman and get it.

So, essentially, your choice is to be a temporary sex toy for a string of hot, popular, high-status guys until you age out (probably in your late 20s), or, if you want a relationship, to pick a guy based on his morals, values, and life-goals, and know that he's probably going to be "average" in looks and status. The knight-in-shining-armor, handsome prince-who-loves-you-forever guys? Those only exist in Disney fairy tales.

[Wise4myage]

I think they would if they are ready to settle down.