What kind of physical contact is appropriate for the first date?

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HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

There are no rules as to how much physical contact is appropriate on a first date. It's whatever you and your date are comfortable with.

However, here are some statistics, which may help you find your own answer:

Approximately 62% of adults find casual sex between consenting adults sometimes acceptable, but this drops for sex on the first date.

Men are generally more accepting of sex in the first date than women.

About one third of recent marriages began from hookups, indicating that initial casual encounters can lead to long-term relationships.

In college, many hookups eventually lead to dating and long-term relationships, though context such as binge drinking affects outcomes and satisfaction.

Casual sex can result in negative feelings like anxiety, depression, and low self esteem IF IT CONFLICTS WITH PERSONAL VALUES or expectations differ between partners.

For others, casual sex and dating can be satisfying and a step toward a committed relationship if expectations and boundaries are clear.

Social acceptability of sex on the first date has evolved but still carries stigma, particularly among conservative groups, affecting personal feelings and relationship potential.

So in summary, while sex on the first date can lead to long-term relationships for some, the outcomes heavily depend on individual values, mutual expectations, and the context of the encounter. Clear communication is the key to figure out what you and your date are okay with.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

Maybe hand holding, arm in arm.
I've had a few dates where we were lucky to get out of the car with our clothes on.
Every date is different, everyone's comfort level with physical contact is different, so you just kind of have to see where it is headed.

jazzyjic78 · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on the couple, law's of attraction, and chemistry between the two. If they are strongly attracted to each other they might want to hold hands, hug, and kiss and if it's really mutual they might become intimate. There's no rules to dating besides respect one another, be open and honest in the beginning so your relationship isn't based off lies but trust.

Account · Accepted Answer

Anything you and the other person seems to be comfortable with.
There are no rules since everyone moves at a different pace. Some people need more time to get physical while others don't and that is perfectly fine.
It is all up to you and the other person.

AviatorTom · Answer

There is no written or unwritten rule. Whatever the couple feels like doing is fine, so long as it's consensual. In my life, I've had first dates where nothing happened... to first dates where we had sex.

NathanDavis · Answer

something you're both comfortable with... and genuinely in the mood for

sometimes you might not be feeling it... other times, all you would want is to feel each other, lol

and then there's all the in-between

ApplePie409 · Answer

When the moon is in the Seventh House And Jupiter aligns with Mars Then peace will guide the planets And love will steer the stars The sky is the limit. Make your own rules.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Whatever the two of them agree to. I’ve had sex on the first date and never regretted it. I’ve also had zero physical contact on a first date. Always less promising, but no problemo.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think holding hands is good enough. But that's only if you're comfortable with touching/contact. But hand holding isn't too much or too little, so it can work if you're unsure but still want to try touching.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

whatever we are in the mood for with respect for each other

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Nothing and everything, as long as the dating people agree to it.

snowboarder720 · Answer

I normally start with none and then depending how things go there might be touching. Some women are fine with letting you know where their boundaries are with that stuff and it’s helpful.

DishLady · Answer

Generally, nothing too crazy… perhaps some hand holding, walking arm-in-arm or something equally companionable. But it also depends how long I know the guy.

RebelinSteel · Answer

It’s really down to how you both feel, it may be a simple hug or holding hands or nothing.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It really depends on how good the first date was.

Billlewis · Answer

My standard method of expressing my affection towards her is to drop to my knees and kiss her feet when we say good night.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'm all about fucking.

diversethought · Answer

I also cannot answer this poll correctly. I've done all if the above on a first date. It all depends on the people and how the date is going.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Hugging is safe. Go for a kiss if you feel chemistry

Nirmroth · Answer

A hug as greeting is never not a good option I found.

Bricealan · Answer

Have done everything from: NOTHING to and including oral and vaginal sex.

SotiCoto · Answer

What makes you believe that Date Number is an appropriate metric to decide these things on?

Alex-Snow · Answer

I guess it depends on the chemistry and how things are going. I think kissing is a great start

DreamLife7 · Answer

You're 40 years old yet don't know? You're a bit old to be asking such questions

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Gotta make a move on the first date or else you never will get any other chance.

msc545 · Answer

None unless you ara guy that doesn't care about false accusations.

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

If I don't get my dick sucked there isn't a second date

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Booty grab. Hugs and kiss don't give any moving inside anymore, leave alone handshake.

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Hand shake at the start, maybe a hug at the end.

Crimsyjo · Answer

Hug and a small kiss.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Whatever both parties are comfortable with

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Whatever your two hearts desire

Booklover_90 · Answer

A hug is a far as I’ll go.

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

Everything but grouping and sex

Likes2drive · Answer

A hug is fine or hand shake even

Iron_Man · Answer

Handshake and hug

MaaikeVG · Answer

Hug, cuddling, maybe a kiss.

Arik_jade · Answer

Kissing and Arm around shoulder

RedInnocent69 · Answer

It depends. For some it’s sex.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Depends on the chemistry of the couple.

Asian-male · Answer

Hug and kiss only are enough

whistlingwh0res · Answer

French kiss and fist fight

laly520 · Answer

depends on the date

Wise4myage · Answer

A hug.

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