Do you mind if your partner goes on a Girls/Guys trip?

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I been seeing so much conspiracy about this on the internet and so far the votes are leaning toward yes that partners’ Do not approve of their partner going away without them. I tend to agree with this , because the last time I was ok with my partner going on a Girls’trip? she ended up cheating on me. So why be in a relationship with someone? if you want to act single? It has nothing to do with trust , it comes down to respect for each other

Roxy0050 · Accepted Answer

Let's just say I have had men arrive at my door expecting sex who have pretended to their wives or partners that they were a) on a business trip b) off mountain biking c) at a conference d) busy working etc. Yesterday I happened to be a in a room with 6 men who had all lied to their wives or partners about where they were.

What this means to me is, if your partner is a cheat, they don't need a guys/girls trip as an excuse, they will use any excuse to cheat. Also, if they are not a cheat, they will not become a cheat by going on a girls/guys trip.

My advice to anyone struggling with this is to develop a very healthy and trusting relationship with your own intuition and gut feelings, as well as keep the relationship with your partner healthy. Then you will immediately pick up concern vibes if something is wrong.

With all that attention happening to keep the relationship healthy and your own personal connection with yourself healthy, you are unlikely to run into trouble with cheats. You will get a feeling way early and avoid them.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Thankfully i never dated a guy who wanted to go on a “guys” trip and i never wanted to go on a “girls” trip. I dont need a break from the person im dating. I could just not see them for the day or go in another room if i needed space. I dont even like the same sex enough to want to go off on a trip with them. My exes always had opposite sex friends as did i. And well we def ain't goin on trips alone with opposite sex friends if we’re in a relationship with someone. Double dates are okay though

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

My wife doesn't hang out with the type of women she was hanging out with when I first met her so it wouldn't happen since now her friends are happy enough with their husbands that they wouldn't go on vacation without them.

My question is why should a person be loyal to you if you both haven't decided to work towards getting married. They have a massive incentive to upgrade the first time they find someone who is a little better than you. After all they know the current relationship could end any week. It's not really a long term investment situation.

And no, I never cheated in my life. But I can see why it's a thing when the current relationship isn't even intended to last. Expecting loyalty is like going to fast food joints and expecting a luxury steakhouse experience. Not saying you have to settle for cheaters either tho. Just that it's an iffy situation by design. If they wanted to be locked in to a relationship with you they would want to be married.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It very much depends on what KIND of trip. Guys may go on all-guy trips to hunt, or ride the rapids, or climb a mountain, etc. That kind of trip is very different than, say, going to Vegas or Miami or anywhere there would be mixed company and alcohol.

Similarly, it would be one thing for a girl's trip to an AirBnB in the woods, or a camping trip, or a spa weekend, and something very different if we were talking about going to Cancun or New Orleans.

in my opinion, if you are in a couple, you should not be going to places where there is going to be mixed genders and/or a "party atmosphere" (drinking, dancing, etc.) because that's not (and should not) be acceptable to your partner. If you can't take your partner with you, then such environments should be avoided completely. That's part of the sacrifice you make when you enter into a relationship.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the choppy waters of trust and respect in relationships is always a thrilling adventure, isn't it? 🚤💔 It seems like your sails got a bit tattered in the storm, thanks to a past experience. It's like biting into a seemingly delicious apple only to find it's got a worm. Yikes!

However, painting all "girls'/guys' trips" with the same brush might be like swearing off apples altogether because of one bad experience. The core (pun intended) of the issue tends to revolve around trust, despite how strongly the "it's about respect" flag is waved.

It's crucial to remember that in a healthy, blossoming relationship, allowing your partner the freedom to enjoy time away with friends can actually fertilize trust and respect, making the relationship garden flourish. 🌺 Communication is your best gardening tool here. Discussing boundaries, sharing feelings, and understanding each other's perspectives can turn potentially thorny situations into opportunities to grow closer.

So, before locking the gate on all future trips, consider turning over a new leaf. Address the underlying trust issues, work on communication, and maybe, just maybe, you'll find that not all apples have worms. 🍏💞

rosemilk · Answer

never had that situation. whenever my partner wants to go on a trip, it's with me. or he invites me. every time. there's just never been a time where he's like sorry guys only. i'd find that a bit weird if he was suddenly like that. because he's not that type of person and his friends are also my friends. but i give him space if he wants space. and he does the same for me. we have trust in each other.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

The problem isn’t the trip, the company or even the activities involved. The problem is that cheating dirtbags have co-opted the term as not-so-clever cover for whoring around. So now millions of people who make a perfectly healthy decision to spend time apart from their significant other and with their family and friends have to suffer the inquisitions of millions of insecure and untrusting partners. There’s a lot to unpack from that can of worms, to be honest. Where to begin?

Crimsyjo · Answer

Yes I'd mind. But that's cos I'm insecure and yes I think the temptation to cheat will be high especially if drunk.

BUT I wouldn't say no my guy can't go. Because that insecurity is mine to deal with not his. If he's done nothing wrong I can't punish him for what he MIGHT do.

If he loves and respects me then hopefully he will send me messages and pics which will ease my mind. And act like he missed me so much when he gets back!

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't mind it, and they have done it... there was no cheating going on I've done it as well, and more times than they ever did... and no cheating involved either

Dinklex3 · Answer

Doesn’t bother me. They’re allowed to have a social life. You’re supposed to be able to trust your partner. If they cheat when they’re out, that just shows their true selves, that they’re untrustworthy cheaters. Going out and making memories with friends isn’t “acting single “. I’m aware I’m not the only important person in their life.

My boyfriend just requires daily updates on trips, which is fine because I used to do it even before we were dating.

avery58 · Answer

Yeah, no. I wouldn't be comfortable with that personally

sage2021 · Answer

That would be a disaster and arguments would ensue I am sure.

Anonymous · Answer

depends where they are going to the movies dressed casually, no problem to the bars and nightclubs dressed all slutty, yeah we all know where that ship is gonna sail to

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Not at all. They're literally just going to sit around drink beer, play Dota and magic 😂

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I don't know how I’d feel about that I would feel like he’s doing that to cheat

MaaikeVG · Answer

Sure, as long as he's not unfaithful while there (wherever he goes), and I'd prefer if he isn't gone like forever

handsomelad70 · Answer

I wouldn't. Dudes and chicks need all-boys and all-girls trips to bond with their buds or girlfriends.

molonski2 · Answer

I thought you meant a GAG trip , 5555 , then I reread.  I would not have an issue , induvials attending would have to be accessed , but thats around association.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't mind at all. I don't own him and he doesn't own me.

DreamLife7 · Answer

I feel girls trips are a lot less focused on the opposite sex yet I can't say the same for men. A girls trip majority of the time are retreats, spas, shopping, food and site seeing. Men on the other hand... hmm

DishLady · Answer

Nothing wrong w a guys/girls day. It’s healthy once in a while.

Angie03 · Answer

If they told me I’d trust them unless they do something not trust but then we be done.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Not at all... although I would be a little bit concerned if I found out my girlfriend went on a guys trip.

msc545 · Answer

A person does not have to go on a trip in order to cheat. An hour or two during an afternoon is more than sufficient for that purpose. However, a trip does create quite a bit of suspicion.

elaphe · Answer

Of course, I would be okay with that. She needs time with her own friends away from me. I would expect her to reciprocate this attitude with me.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Not really but it definitely depends where and what "type" of friends she's going with

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

hey I've dm you?

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

Not to a major city known for debauchery

NhyDaisy · Answer

I don’t see how this would be an issue?

Cheerguy · Answer

I think it's bullshit I don't like it

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