My dad is very negative as a person and if you can see my previous questions, previous commenters advised it’s toxic etc. Well I ended up moving away. I hoped maybe being at a distance would improve things but it’s only made it worse. I told my dad some good news yesterday and my step mum just said several negative things and called me gullible and said I should listen to them. I completely snapped. Everytime I have good or happy news or anything, they are always negative. They always spoil my mood with the hurtful things they say.
I’ve said many times that words hurt but they always make excuses and say they don’t “mean” it. But what makes it worse, they’ll tell everyone and try make me look “bad”. So yesterday I told them straight, I was hoping if I said how I felt in a fair way that maybe it would set boundaries but it backfired. I never insulted them etc, all I said was basically they aren’t always right and that love isn’t conditional i. e based on how I please people etc. My dad said I wasn’t welcome at home anymore and blocked me.
I am heart broken, I was crying all night. How can you just turn your back on your daughter? I’ve never done anything bad. I get labelled and judged by the whole family. I’m the only one who’s ever lived away and made a life for themselves. They never apologise for the hurtful things they’ve said to me yet they use to start massive arguments over the smallest things like me forgetting to take the bin out because I was busy helping with other things round the house so when I’d get home from work, they’d purposely take the bin out when I was about to come in the door so they could complain about it even though I could have taken it out after work etc. What should I do? I feel horrible about myself and feel like it’s my fault
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