I cussed out my dad, was I wrong?

[Lostandfound]

My dad left when i was 3... and recently I've had some suicidle issues. My mom had the idea i was going suicidle because i dont have a father. I begged her, i didn't at all want to see him! But she brought him back and we met up at a mall for the first time in... forever. It was okay, awkward but okay. My dad never called when he found out about my suicide attempt. And my mom told him off about it. He called her... a slut, a hoe, a bitch. I was so mad! But my phone got turned back on i sent everyone in my contacts and it was sent to him. "Oh im so glad you texted me! When can we talk?" Was his response and i went off. I cursed him out, he didn't believe it was me so i called him and did it again. And he said " you are just like your mother."

[MysteriousFlower]

He is biologically your father, so he should be more tolerant considering in your situation (hope it looks brighter!) If he does initiate to catch up and he realizes what a shit parent he is, I hope you can just observe him, see if he tries to be nice or is he ignoring you. There may be many reasons why he left, mental health issues (though its not a excuse) poverty... I don't know. Just move on from the phone situation, and just hang out and see how it goes. If he doesn't call back or whatever just let him go. If he is permanently sticking around it will take a while to find common-ground, but with perseverance it can be peaceful at least.

[Anonymous]

He is your father. But if he treated you that way just pay hi back with success. And once you're success and he comes back tell him that he's not your father.

[Lostandfound]

I will, thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome dear. Stay strong :)

[Stacyzee]

You have pent up anger towards your dad. It's understandable that you cursed him out.
I wouldn't necessarily say you were right , but you had reason to.

[Lostandfound]

Yeah, I just i dont know. Im not holding a grudge really. I just wouldn't want anyone to say anything bad about my mother. I've lived with out him so far i can keep doing that.

[kangy]

CUssing out at people is not appropriate and yes bad.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Your mom can't expect you to welcome him into your life and you have every right to hold grudge and most likely you will never be able to have a stable relationship with him cause he was never there for you but i do wish you well and never force your self to do something you can't xD

[Lostandfound]

Thank you. 😊

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You're Welcome :-) xD

[Anonymous]

I don't care what he did... that's wrong. He's known your mother a lot longer than you and probably better. You're the one that's just coming around... not him. Aside from all of that... no that's just wrong. I can't believe anyone would ever curse at their parents.

[Lostandfound]

You try stepping in my shoes and let your dad cuss out your mom. Thanks for taking his side but i know my mom better and she's stuck with me through all of the hard times and i will defender her. Idgaf if it s my dad or anyone else. I love her. Thanks anyway though.

[Opinion Owner]

My dad cursed out my mom lots of times. I've even watched them fist fight several times before they divorced. I know exactly what you mean. The thing is... no matter how assy he is he's still my dad. Yes I do get angry sometimes and tell him off but I'd never insult or curse at him. It's not called taking sides... it's called manners

[Lostandfound]

Okay, I get it. Thank you. I usually hold my tounge. Your stronger than me, I've reached my breaking point.

[loveskittens]

Some people aren't very empathetic.

[loveskittens]

I hope you get through your situation. You have every right to be mad but holding a grudge will just make you feel worse.

[Lostandfound]

I know. I know it wasn't right. I dont have time for more shit. I know i shouldn't have. But i have no respect for him, period. That's how I was raised.

[loveskittens]

You sound like a really nice person. Even the nicest person gets mad once in a while it's not your fault.

[James0]

I agree with you, my father ran away because of debt; came back into my life, let's say I never forget an act of kindness and every wrong. I'm civil only because of my mom and grandparents.