Was this wrong of my dad?

[StrawberryShake]

I just got off of work and my mom texted me "do you want to come see your grandma?" Just for context my grandmother is dying. She's coughing up large amounts of blood every other day and has cancer.
I said yes so my parents had to pick me up to take me since I can't drive and my dad said "it probably cost me like 8 bucks worth of gas to come pick you up, I just want you to know that"
He already makes me feel like shit about everything, and now wanting to see my sick grandmother when I didn't even ask first too?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sorry about your grandma that is so sad but your dad telling you it will cost $8.00 in gas money is horrible to tell a daughter especially when a grandma is dying. Just like my uncle telling me that his dad was going to cause his wife to divorce him cause he had to take his mother to the emergency room cause she has dementia and needs ER attention

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[StrawberryShake]

You're welcome

[TheMajesticKing777]

Why didn't you hit him with the "his father is in a bed dying and that's what he is worried about?" Card

[StrawberryShake]

You mean my grandmother?

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yea I apologize, I've been lacking sleep, and I'm sorry about your grandmother 💯

[StrawberryShake]

It's ok. I didn't want him to tell at me

[TheMajesticKing777]

No lie tho I think your father just wants you to get a license, it's not you necessarily, he probably just feels like you aren't advancing in life perhaps, cause believe it or not a license equals freedom.

[StrawberryShake]

I know but I'm only 18 and I have a real fear of driving. I would pay gas money for big trips but this situation seemed uncalled for

[TheMajesticKing777]

It was definitely not the time, that's wrong on his part, I got my permit at 15, it's almost 6 years of experience and I'm not even a full adult yet, it's much more intimidating then what it is, you get comfortable when you get the hang of it, if I can do it, I know you can, facing your fears is the way to defeat your fears, ask anyone you want if they can teach you in a park or something, that's where I learned, at a local park in the parking lot, you'll see it's not that bad, thinking of driving was worse than actually driving ha

[StrawberryShake]

Thank you 😌 I've actually been practicing but it'd just taking me a bit longer. I never was able to take drivers Ed in highschool or anything like that

[TheMajesticKing777]

So what is your biggest fear when you are behind the wheel?

[StrawberryShake]

That I'm not going to understand signs and right of way and crash 🤧

[TheMajesticKing777]

Pedestrians always got the right of way when there's a crosswalk or a parking lot and at stop signs, whoever gets to the sign first, has the right of way (cars only), you'll be fine, most signs are pretty self explanatory, they aren't hard to learn either.

[TheMajesticKing777]

In the US as long as you stick to the right and the speed limit, you'll be fine, and if the crash is someone else's fault, that's what they got insurance for, some countries it's the left lane but it's all pretty similar

[menina]

He was completely wrong and he's being insensitive. You love your grandmother, she needs you and obviously you want to see her.
Seriously is he thinking about money under these circumstances? I can't believe it!! 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️
I'm sorry to tell you this but it sounds like he doesn't want you around.

[menina]

Thanks for the MHO. :)

Your father sounds like my mother...

[StrawberryShake]

You're welcome! And I'm sorry

[menina]

Thank you.

[TheMVPofGaG]

Totally! Is that even important when your grandma is dying? $8 for gas?

[TheMVPofGaG]

I'm also sorry about the current situation

[StrawberryShake]

Thank you 😔

[Grond21]

So this is passive aggressive, it is very unkind, and it is toxic. If you shared this with any psychiatrist and he was there they would tell him to knock it off.

[sissyalexa]

Wow, yeah kinda wrong, he's probably not in a great place with a family member in that position but no he shouldn't of been so short with you 🥰

[HeartBreaker007]

Some people are naturally assholes which your dad is naturally like that. It’s just their personality and he is like that with everyone. Nobody is an exception.

[Now_Here]

Certainly! I hope he realises he's not doing good treating you this way.

[Mangospacho]

So they used $8 more gas than usual driving you over there? That doesn’t sound right 🤔

It sounds like he would’ve guilted you even more for not going. But I’m sorry about your grandma though.

[RealMarek]

Seems chincy of him and it wasn’t the time for that anyway.

[XXblack88]

That's very petty to make a big deal over $8 of gas money when a loved one is dying.

[midnightmoon05]

You know your father.
what are you planning to do about it?

[StrawberryShake]

What's there to do about it? I offered to pay the 8 bucks. He's just rude

[midnightmoon05]

That changes the whole question.
Still he is your father… as long as you live under his roof…and needing his help … he has the authority to say things to you.
Someone told me… we can learn from the ducks… let the rain drop slide off the feathers… we become stronger when we let go of the small things. And start appreciating what we have.

[StrawberryShake]

🤦‍♂️ I don't fucking care about the 8 bucks. The point is he chose the wrong time to even bring that up. I didn't ask for them to drive me. My god

[TallAnon]

Yes, definitely.
That said, it's probably stressful right now, people aren't themselves in those situations, so don't take it to heart.

[Wise4myage]

Your dad sounds like a real asshole, so yes it wrong.

[SignedAutographs]

I think he just wants you to be independent finally. You are 18 after all. it's time you learn to drive

[StrawberryShake]

You're fucking dumb. My grandma is dying and he decides to say that then? Fuck you cunt

[midnightmoon05]

What a mouth for an 18 yr. old.
He asked a legit question.
I have 2 sisters and 1 sister in law… none of them drive… all their husbands drive them.
So wondering if you will drive.

[skytatoe]

Yeah wtf is wrong with him...

[skytatoe]

by the way, I'm really sorry about your grandma :/ That's gotta be tough, hang in there.

[StrawberryShake]

Thank you 😔

[AndrésC64]

Sounds like a shity thing to do if you ask me.

[ChiTownLov]

Kind of shitty in my opinion

[jimmy2]

No worries time mow with gramdma is priceless

[Kurdistan1991]

Don't worry