AM I wrong for being angry at my dad?

[jennifer_bloom]

I was angry at my dad today because he served ramen noodles for lunch when it’s Christmas Eve and I believe I should be eating steak or lobster or Caesar salad or scallop or chicken wings for lunch instead. I hate ramen noodles because I believe it causes cancer and has no nutritional value. I would rather eat flavourless sardines or a plain bagel then ramen noodles.

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+1 y

He’s not poor, he makes more money than a cop.

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+1 y

I spent over $300 on lobsters this month, but our kitchen does not have enough room for 3 cooks so one person cooks at a time.

[anon171999]

I'd say you're wrong there. You're past the age where you are able to get a job. You're not a child anymore. Which means he no longer has to provide for you.
If you want a nice dinner for the two of you, then make or order it yourself. Ramen is horrible for you. It has too much sodium and that amount hurts your body and does cause health issues. So no, don't eat that when you care about your body and health. But don't expect others to live and act the way you do. He is completely okay with ramen on Christmas eve. That's okay if that's what he feels like.
Make what you want to happen in your life happen. Don't rely on others for that.

[InYourHead]

It's one day. Don't ruin the day by making a big deal out of nothing. Kill him with kindness. Enjoy the time.

[Satyromaniac]

No, you shouldn't be mad at him at all, you're focusing on the wrong details, what's important is that you're dad loves you and offered or made time to be with you,

and you being younger should have more energy to cook and serve him, don't make an elderly person cook and serve you.

He has paid all his dues in raising you protected, fed and educated, now it's time you paid him back by by politeness, kindness, mercy, forgiveness and supporting him financially.

[Mangospacho]

Yeah, I get it. I don’t think ramen noodles is what you’d expect if you’re invited over for a holiday. I wouldn’t listen to the “you got a free meal so just be thankful for it” crowd.

[Mangospacho]

But you know, @jennifer_bloom, if you didn’t go to the dinner, your dad would’ve been all upset that you didn’t come to this “special” dinner, right?

[AmandaYVR]

You should cook. I know this is going to sound old-fashioned to some, but creating that cozy Christmas atmosphere in the home is better done by females. If they don't take over and take the helm on this, it likely won't get done. Both men and women have the same capability to cook, but your father sounds not to be one of them, he's probably from another generation, and your mother needs to pass the torch to you. It's your responsibility now.

[Massageman]

We just had a couple of tiny salads and split a can of cream of chicken soup for Christmas Eve supper here. Should I be angry at my wife?

[OlderAndWiser]

IS your dad on a tight budget? Did you offer to prepare lunch?

[MzAsh]

I find this whole story odd like a child wrote it.

[AlexisP98]

Proper ramen is a great meal that takes a lot of effort. If you're talking about instant noodles sure it's not great for a family gathering. But it seems you're hung up on the status you assign to foods, such is just such a minor detail. If you want to have input on what you eat the time for that is prior to the day of the event.

[ohshee]

Yeah I hear you it's a special day you should probably eat something special but it also makes you think a little bit from the people that can't have something special and what they're having I mean it is what it is I would be thankful that I even got Top Ramen it's just one of those things it's just 1 lunch you can have another one tomorrow

[ZackBan]

I'm honestly kinda surprised to read this question from you.
You don't strike me as the kind of person who cares if the meal doesn't cost 300$ much less when it's your dad cooking.
You know he won't be around forever right? So you're literally fussing over a superficial thing like what you're eating when you should just be enjoying his company.

[MarkRet]

It depends on whether he did it as some weird prank, or if it was an effort that truly came from his heart. Maybe he's not very good at cooking, and this was his best effort. Personally, ramen is ok with me, but I would have thought he would have put a little more effort into it. It's not worth getting stressed over.

[all_hayl]

“I believe I should be eating steak or lobster or Caesar salad or scallop or chicken wings for lunch instead.”

Really?
Entitled much? I hope this is a troll question.

[Adam1978]

Yes, that's the wrong Christmas spirit. You should know your father by now. And nothing he does should surprise you. If you want fancy food become the host, not the guest.

[nice-girl]

It would be ok for me. I would eat whatever and like it. I usually bring something cooked when I go to someone's home for lunch or dinner, especially when it is my family as I know that they won't get offended.

[My-lover]

Only because you are a nice -girl

[Harleigh90]

Sounds like he should of served you some gratitude.. Food is food, some people have nothing.

[AnthonyJ01]

There is nothing wrong with Ramen noodles. They eat it a lot over in thr orient. There are many things that you can do with them. I worded in a state Penitentiary for 7 yesrs and inmates ate them a lot and were able to make some good dishes. They also can get dehydrated vegetables to add to them.

[emperor90]

Yes cause be greatful he offered u food unless u were allergic to ramen noodles i could see u being angry how ever you wanted lobster if u want it then buy it

[TwinkleLily5]

As an ADULT you could have simply let him made his dish and then you made the meal you wanted after he was done. You also could have made your meal Christmas Eve night!!

[TwinkleLily5]

Ramen noodles only take about 3 minutes to cook lol

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, he is wrong I would bought take out wings and just let him eat the Ramen Noodles

[ShadezMcgee]

I think this is a you problem. If you wanted it, what stopped you from buying it and making it yourself and bringing it as additional for for others to eat?

[douride2]

You didn't have to stay for lunch. You could have left if you felt that strongly about his choice of meal.

[Redstang88]

I never complain about free food, I was raised to consider that very rude
I’m sure nobody was stopping you from getting steak or lobster yourself 🤷‍♂️

[Nazgol]

Yeah, I wouldn't like it either. So you're not alone , rest assured

[Nazgol]

It IS a special occasion and it DOES require a special meal with time & effort, not convenience food I can make at home

[Nazgol]

Surprised by all the answers saying it's fine! Hmm I wonder if they would like it or expect better too?