Are we more than friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

I am confused with my situation. We both agreed before that we are friends with benefits. I asked him if I am allowed to have sex with other people, and he said yes since we are not in a relationship. But, why is that we say "I love you" to each other, cuddle, hang out with each others friends. Last week, I got jealous, and he said he thought it was funny and he like it when I got jealous. I am confused. Isn't it I am not allowed to get jealous or we are not allowed to say "I love you"? Also, when I text him, and he did not answer for a day, he would apologize and explain why. Aren't we not allowed to explain if we stop communication for a bit?

Then again, he also forgot about my birthday, he remembered around 11:00pm on my birthday, he was very sorry and said that he was going crazy because that should not have happened and that he really loved me, and always remember that, and he is ruining everything (I am not sure if he meant, he does not want to ruin our friends with benefits situation). I told him, it's all good, I do not expect anything and I am a bit disappointed, but I am over it. He said he hates that I am disappointed by him.

We are not seeing anyone else at the moment. But, we agreed that we are free to see other people. Oh, and he calls my mom "mother-in-law" and i call his the same as a joke.

So, what are we? Are we friends with benefits, or are we more than that?

[LorcaNovena]

It sounds to me as though you are both stuck between friends with benefits and a full on relationship and both of you want to be together but it seems as though you are both reluctant to make the plunge.

You should have a talk with him.

[Asker]

Hmmm... you are right about me wanting us to be together, but also very reluctant about it.

I do not know if he feels the same way though, because he would say he loves me, but he also would say that I am free to see other people.

[LorcaNovena]

That's why it is important to talk to him.

[meesh1220]

I have never had a successful friends with benefits situation. Things always got complicated and the fact that I have feelings and a heart, I would always end up falling for the other person. :/

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're more. When I think of friends with benefits I think of sex with no real emotional attachment to it. You two seem to be in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

just friends with benefits