How long does it take to mend a broken heart? What do you do to get back on track?

[DishLady]

I let go of someone who was very wonderful but also just didn't seem to have his own mind on straight. We've perhaps hurt one another's feelings a bit too often to work out in the end... though I would pray it wasn't so. Anyway, he put rather a dent in my heart and now, though I'm a positive up-beat person I find that some of my productivity levels have gone down... I guess I miss the big lug. Everything just feels a little out of step, but I do my best to keep on trucking and not skip a beat.

What do you do to get over a "broken heart"?

[Anonymous]

The answer is it depends.
For someone like me never.
I tried to fix it but there is no way I can fell that it's healing.
I am jealous, paranoid, angry at myself and at my body, even gym made it more worse the it is so now I can't even go to the gym.
I don't have looks body or anything attractive about me.
And I am too stubborn to change as I tried my best, went to the gym got a bit of gains.
Got new teeths, went through 4 wisdom tooth extraction, went through eye operations, made a lot of money.
Lost a lot of money.
Came to UK Birmingham but everything remained the same.

Ones a heart is broken it's only fixable by pure hope, and hope is something you have to give to yourself.
I can't now so I am beyond repair.
I gave up cause everytime I fell in love.
I got rejected, used, manipulated, and the worst of all being called as an unsafe man hurts when I didn't even kissed in my pathetic 26 years of my life.
I never touched anyone.
Now I have digestive issues, a broken hand, a broken hip, and head full of mistakes.



Oh I am doing good in career aspects.
I completed masters.
I was working for a bank.
So I am looking for a job back in my bank.
Or somewhere else.

[OlderAndWiser]

In the past, my strategy was to deal with my sadness and small increments, and to allow myself the indulgence of denial in between. I tried to stay active and spend time with friends, and I also tried to avoid falling into a rebound relationship (which I learned about the hard way.) When I thought about my ex, I tried to make myself recall memories in a balanced way, remembering the bad as well as the good.

There are a few women from the past who I occasionally think about. I don't want to reunite with them, but the good times were very good and I haven't held onto unpleasant feelings about them.

[MissSunshine2]

This too shall pass. It takes time. It usually takes me about a year or longer to move on from someone. Sometimes years. But I don't know about you, but I move on faster if they're not nice to me. There was a guy that kept telling me I was ugly, a guy with Asperger's. He liked small, petite Asian women with long hair and while I am attractive, I am big and fat, with shoulder length hair, Caucasian build and big eyes. I only had to develop some life challenges and be in an area where I could meet other men in person and then I moved on completely and dropped him as a friend. He had me questioning whether I was really ugly and made me feel like the ugliest person on earth; and I have as a big fat woman been offered plus sized modelling opportunities. My point being that if he's not been nice to you, use that as an incentive to meet someone else.

[LifeOfACapricorn]

It's a gentle process but it happens all the time
Just take it easy and try not to be too much of a debbie downer
The people who are our favorite usually don't have half a clue what it means to us sorry to hear that you've been underappreciated
Show binging used to always keep me distracted maybe you should invest your time in a series you haven't seen before and only listen to music with a optimistic vibe

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately there isn’t any time limit on it, it comes down to only yourself , on when you feel ready to do so , no one else can decide that for you. Some people mend quickly and some do not, and some do not mend at all.

[SixFootSexy]

My grandpa used to say, "bailing wire and duct tape will fix anything but a broken heart."

"Getting over it" is a process that requires releasing all the negative emotions, grieving the loss and cultivating hope for the future.

[DishLady]

Yeah, I get that part — that’s the easy part. Missing the person is the hard

[DishLady]

*the hard part

[ArrowheadSW]

I only had my heart broken a couple of times. The other breakups I had were so obviously a great idea that it was time to celebrate. Or it was such a mutual understanding that it was just time to move on.

To get back on track, you might consider getting a pencil and notepad and write down all of the reasons why it would not be a good idea to stay in that relationship. Also, write down the positives of being free from dating that person. Refer back to the notes every day or two and add to them if you can think of more reasons.

Best of luck!

[ryanrhino]

"Always look on the bright side of life," even though it is so difficult with strife and major sadness. The optimism and hope gets me through. Positive thoughts and feelings attract events and gifts in turn.

[exitseven]

That reminds me of another tale of woe.

How can you mend a broken heart?

[worldscolide]

To get back on track I busy my self with self improvement and work.

[Cidknee]

I theorize that it never is mended but grows as an offshoot to venture onward. The heart that is.

[noohair]

I know I can't grow if I am living in the past.

[_Jenny_]

I’m not sure but TIME heals all wounds

[canamlusciouslad73]

Lay my #blackboyjoy on a buxom blonde !!!