How can someone recover from a broken heart?

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ToastyOats · Accepted Answer

Its important to know what a broken heart is!
Some people, not all, have a mutation that causes their brain to massively rewire itself around the relationship with their lover.
Reward centers and pathways in the brain become much more related to that person's image, voice and presence. This is a great adaptation for two people that are going to use it for its intended purpose, but If you have this in your genes you will not be able to "sleep around" until your older and your endocrine system has begun to decline.
Like I said not all people have this. People who fall in love also generally make new neural pathways easier, making them fast learners, and good at abstracting complex problems.
You have to use this ability to heal. Getting over a lover is tough and requires a lot of discipline. You will need to change up your routines, meet new people and start new hobbies. The brain only has room for so many things to give you dopamine hits, you need to quicken the process by going out of your way to create new neural networks around different people and hobbies.
That's the science of it though.
When I was younger, damn. A woman that would date me would literally embody the goddess to me. It would feel like I was on a mushroom trip. I threw it away on women who never felt that way about me though and No one was there to tell me why I was different or how to fix it. Hope this helps!

Katebfun · Accepted Answer

For me sometimes moving helps with the memories. Getting rid of pictures and gifts. A mini make over, color or cut my hair. Gym membership. It takes time I remember a few years ago I began dating within a fee months of thr break-up, I ended up crying over my ex on a date. I decided to focus on myself and friends for a year. P
It's cliche buy TIME. Also knowing ALL relationships have am expiration date. Whoever is meant to be in your life will be, let those who go- GO. It's not easy but you deserve better. My ex also cheated and I fought hard for years at a one sided toxic relationship.

A_K01 · Accepted Answer

By loving oneself and moving to something new... Not necessarily a relation. A new work , a new hobby may be a new social media app. Plus By reminding oneself again n again that "i deserve better"

Taylah9 · Answer

Well I guess firstly remember that we have all been there and I'm sure everyone has initially thought we can never get over someone and that we will always love them and will never feel that way. It always feels that way at the time but you have to go through the process of the break up and it doesn't always get easier until months or even years later depending on the person. Thats because there are stages to a break up and it gets easier, then harder, then easier again. Each day gets better though even though you don't realise it at the time. That sounds like a long time and it can feel like it while you're in it but I promise you that one day you'll wake up and you'll realise you haven't thought of them at all. It doesn't happen fast-.. like I said- its slow and painful but it is the best feeling when you get through that part which seems impossible at the time.

Notanotherpurdyface · Answer

Unfortunately the only true cure for a broken heart is time. It may always leave a mark on your heart but time will lessen the pain. In the meantime surround yourself with the people and things you love and remember to be kind to yourself.
Take care
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Floppy2112 · Answer

TIme. It just takes time. You have to go through the 5 stages of grief, which contrary to popular belief does not happen linearly. The only way to deal with it, is to make the best decisions you can during this grief period and don't make major mistakes that last a lifetime. And know there will be a scar there. Now is the time to put your energy into something positive. Participate in helping others. That will provide the good energy you need to combat the negative energy. And quit, if you haven't already, communicating with your ex. Get rid of all reminders of him (or her). You cannot recover if you are still in the midst of the negative stimuli.

Interstate · Answer

Simple... TIME. Time heals them all. There are wounds that take longer to mend, and in some cases there are some that don't heal at all, depending on the infliction. But a big part of healing these wounds is learning to let go. And if you have a broken heart so badly that you can't recover, I advise counseling or therapy. That is a BIG step to letting go of the past and moving on from your traumatized heart.

jackderby_01 · Answer

By finding themselves and their purpose. Generally during a relationship one gives too much to the partner and kinda forget themselves. So if the heart breaks ita time to do what you like yo do and find what your interests are, maybe hangout with friends and so on

DonkeyDan · Answer

Not always, people say time is a healer but in reality you will always hold on to a small bit of that heartbreak for many years to come.
Even years and years later I still feel a little bit of the hurt from my first heartbreak, but it did make me grow as a person.

RealMarek · Answer

I think it is important to treat yourself well. Baths are good for relaxation, exercise and healthy diet can help with depression. Understand that it can take time, as in months or a couple years, to recover depending on the circumstances. Until you are over the previous relationship, avoid getting involved with a new one.

aintnocandle · Answer

I’d love to know this too :( my lover is gone and I am in painnnnnn

Dude_777 · Answer

By being mentally prepared for it to happen in advance, considering it a no big deal and accepting the valuable fact that its meant to be broken over and over.

Whenever i am dating or in a relationship, i am already mentally prepared that whatever starts, has to finish one day, and i will have to start over again and not take it personally.

admles · Answer

First, you must completely cut all contact with that person - no texting, no DMs, block them on all social media, everything. Do not stalk or track them - you can't get over them otherwise.

Then, you need to take time for yourself, and work on yourself - take up gym, a new sport, a martial art, a hobby - something that both keeps you busy, and helps you improve yourself.

Finally, be patient - it does take time.

All the best <3

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Of course. You can start by loving yourself. "Enrich" yourself with the things you are passionate about that have nothing to do with your ex.

wakeupchy · Answer

you can recover to a point but it will always be apart of who you are. as the goo goo dolls once sang,  scars are souvenirs you never lose, the past is never far...

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If you have a broken heart visiting a Cardiologist is the way to go.

mvpverona · Answer

By moving on and realizing there is more to life and something better than the person you dated before.

Archerer · Answer

Get fit and start dating casually, there is the magic number. Have three guys at all times

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Lay things in Lord's hands and let him work on it for you

GingerGuy · Answer

Unfortunately only time. If you can stay busy and distract yourself, it helps, but I find that's very hard to do.

WowwGirl · Answer

Work on freezing it so it won't break so easily again

Vikkrram · Answer

Let's say... it can take years or take a month to recover from. It's all depends how deeply you were involved with that person. Best is to engage urself in some other works... and yes it's hard to moove on but yes the fact is people do moove on.

SunnySensei · Answer

By giving yourself some time to heal and do activities you like to do, miss I think that way someone can recover from a broken heart.

sweetbaelovins · Answer

Take CARE and plenty of time. At least half the time the relationship was, too get over it. 🤗

exitseven · Answer

Sometimes you just have to take the time to process what happened and mourn the loss. Or maybe if you can, get right back up on the horse.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

The only cure i found and is not stop the pain but at last it make it just less painful is > time <. Only time will heal your heart.

Weasly · Answer

Time. And talking to people you trust about how you feel. Eventually you will begin to heal.

Sugar_7 · Answer

It needs to take its time and you gathering your strength back

Adam_West · Answer

... Tender is the night For a broken heart Who will dry your eyes When it falls apart? What makes this fragile world go round? Were you ever lost? Was she ever found? ...

invalid1 · Answer

You have to talk.. If your surrounding is not credible, then write.

dray995 · Answer

By finding someone else to be with. Then you’ll forget all about that other person when you’re with somebody else.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

If you've got heart issues, you should ask your GP to send you to a heart specialist. Simples...

CharlieHed · Answer

Sleep, good diet, exercise, time.

AdithyaR · Answer

I did it by focusing on college and choosing never trying to date again.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Medication... oh you meant emotionally we that I don't know

Tunasub · Answer

What's the one thing that will never stop no matter what?

backblueblack22 · Answer

It’s like recovering from a hang over. There is no quick fix only time heals.

Wiredone · Answer

You occupy your mind on other things and get back in the field.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Take accountability for ones actions so that it doesn't happen again

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Stop identifying yourself with it rather anything any role

MrJMM · Answer

By not giving a shit about relationships and feeling that sadness into something different.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Only time can heal this... At least did this for me

keirl · Answer

Move forward get away from everything that makes you think of that person

MrPlentiful · Answer

1. Forgiveness, forgiveness forgiveness 2. Belief in yourself (what they did to you didn't affect your destiny) 3. Acceptance of what happened

es20490446e · Answer

What kind of relationship do you expect to get from someone who doesn't want to be with you?

joeldalton · Answer

The best way to get over a guy is to get under another one.

In_Trance · Answer

You have to want to. And a lot of people simply don't want to

Ryfyle · Answer

@flower7 No, just break others.

On_cloud_wine · Answer

The first cut is the deepest

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Time. Some people might need therapy too

HajiaMariam · Answer

You have to Go outdoors...

Maybe-Your-Neighbor · Answer

It only gets better but never back the same again

Nazgol · Answer

Distract yourself with someone else

IveGotNoName · Answer

Time.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Time doesn't heal.. healing takes time

bumblebee25 · Answer

Time and patience and a bucket of ice cream

Asianguy123 · Answer

you can become a prostitutes

JesseJayNeak · Answer

100 tons of ice-cream. At least, it worked for me

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Time.

Polloshurt · Answer

Is that your first heart break?

blondfrog · Answer

Only time

karaspara · Answer

Vodka

msc545 · Answer

Time...

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