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This is what I want in a long term relationship with a woman:

- financially independent but can work with me synergistically.
- exercises and diets well on most days.
- attractive enough that I want to have sex with her on regular basis.
- open minded to debate, but fights fair. Can be opinionated but not judgmental to point she cares more about being right vs. what IS right.
- no serious addictions. I've had a few minor issues with this, but it doesn’t control my life. So I will give her leeway for some sins. But I dated an alcoholic one time and I will never do it again.

In my entire life I have only dated one girl who fit all of these. But tragically we met me at the wrong time in my life and I ended up screwing it up. I owned up to that when we broke up.

However over 95 percent of the women I’ve met before and after her date me for the following shitty reasons:

- financial support
- briefly date and then friendzone. They try to keep me as orbiter for their own conceited bullshit reasons
- they are broken and looking for a “savior”.

I just feel that as a man I’m at an inherent disadvantage because women have more room to be choosy thanks to differences in sex drives.

As a man am I really expected to “settle”. I know a bunch of girls will say “oh follow your heart”. But they are 100% clueless on what dating is like for guys.