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Tbh I might just be overthinking because my last relationship ended very badly, my ex was constantly cheating on me so i definitely developed some trust issues after that

My girlfriend has a male friend that she’s known since kindergarten. While I’ve only known her for a year maybe, we’ve only been together 2 months

He’s one of her best friends which never bothered me until today she told me that there was a time they “fucked around”
they didn’t fuck but she said they made out and he was grabbing her boobs. She only told me about that one time but there could of been other times they did stuff for all I know

I keep trying to tell myself that he’s dating one of her best friends now, and if they really were into each other like that then they would of been together by now. And i appreciate the fact that she was honest with me, if she was really hiding something she wouldn’t of said anything.

But since they did that, that means there’s obviously attraction between them.
I do trust her, I believe her when she says she wouldn’t do what my ex did to me, but I just can’t help it bothering me.

I would never be the controlling type to tell her that she can’t be friends with the dude tho. Especially since they’ve known each other way longer than she’s known me.

I just don’t know if I’m overreacting or if it’s normal to feel this way

When I was a younger man, I frequently said that if I was not initially attracted to a woman, it would probably never happen and there was no sense in wasting time pursuing her as a romantic partner. That statement was true. It never did happen - not when I was younger - perhaps because I never gave an "unattractive" (unattractive to me) woman a chance.

In 2015, I started dating a woman who was a good match for me in many ways. She was a retired judge, obviously bright and articulate, and we had many other common interests. She also fit the "type" of woman who I usually pursue. She is petite, has dainty features, and she enjoys physical affection. I was very quickly attracted to her. We eventually had a sexual relationship that was very satisfying for both of us, but I broke up with her because she never fell in love with me as I fell for her.

Looking back on that relationship, I don't know why I was physically attracted to her. Most guys who met her would probably rate her as a 3/10, and so would I, but when I was dating her, I thought she was a 7/10 or 8/10. Maybe the years and experiences have changed me, or maybe I just developed the attraction because I gave her a chance.

Have you ever had that experience?