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Have you ever been initially not attracted but it developed after you got more familiar with your partner?

From the movie, "Shallow Hal"
From the movie, "Shallow Hal"
When I was a younger man, I frequently said that if I was not initially attracted to a woman, it would probably never happen and there was no sense in wasting time pursuing her as a romantic partner. That statement was true. It never did happen - not when I was younger - perhaps because I never gave an "unattractive" (unattractive to me) woman a chance.

In 2015, I started dating a woman who was a good match for me in many ways. She was a retired judge, obviously bright and articulate, and we had many other common interests. She also fit the "type" of woman who I usually pursue. She is petite, has dainty features, and she enjoys physical affection. I was very quickly attracted to her. We eventually had a sexual relationship that was very satisfying for both of us, but I broke up with her because she never fell in love with me as I fell for her.

Looking back on that relationship, I don't know why I was physically attracted to her. Most guys who met her would probably rate her as a 3/10, and so would I, but when I was dating her, I thought she was a 7/10 or 8/10. Maybe the years and experiences have changed me, or maybe I just developed the attraction because I gave her a chance.

Have you ever had that experience?
I've never had a partner
Vote A
I've never dated anyone unless I felt an initial attraction to them
Vote B
I've dated someone to whom I was not initially attracted but the attraction never developed
Vote C
I've dated someone to whom I was not initially attracted but I developed SOME attraction after I became more familiar with them
Vote D
I've dated someone to whom I was not initially attracted but I developed a STRONG attraction after I became more familiar with them
Vote E
I am currently in a relationship with someone to whom I was not initially attracted and I am developing SOME attraction to them
Vote F
I am currently in a relationship with someone to whom I was not initially attracted and I am developing a STRONG attraction to them
Vote G
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