Have you ever been initially not attracted but it developed after you got more familiar with your partner? (Page 2)
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Kinda.
Had a coworker. At first she looked like a nerd like she's not my type.
But then spending more time working there that image changed. She magically became more attractive. And more. And more. It must have been the money she spent on herself to make herself look better. I don't blame her. I'm the same way. The more money I spend on myself the better I look.
But she was taken at that time. Then she moved to Europe 1 year ago. And that's it.
My boyfriend is someone most people consider pretty attractive but for some reason, I wasn't really attracted to him to begin with. I guess he wasn't my "type" lol. But he was a cool guy and he pursued me and I gave him a chance and after a few months, a really strong attraction developed and now, over a year since that point, it's just as strong as ever.
I am not sure how to answer the question. Sometimes I ask my self, how in the world I put my heart in a LDR? I did feel a initial attraction. It wasn't physical, it was emotional at first. Anyway, whatever attraction I felt for her isn't coming back, but I learned golden lessons from the relation.
I dont think I’ve ever dated someone that I was initially attracted to. They’re always friends first. It’s just better that way to me
I wasn't initially attracted to my boyfriend. We became good friends and one day I just saw him differently and realized I had strong feelings for him.
Absolutely, but there was always at least some bit of physical attraction (even very small) I find a woman's attractiveness can go WAY up with a great personality.
Yeah, and it's weird
My ex was a bit overweight and I wasn't attracted to her much at first, but with time maybe I changed my preference and at one point she was beautiful in my eyes.
In my current relationship, it was hard at first to be sexually attracted to my girlfriend and I don't know why, she was slim and had sexy curves, but I saw her as a pure innocent lovely girl and I still kinda do, hopefully it gets better.
That's exactly what happened. I wasn't attracted to him at first but now I can't think of a life without him.
Yes but once he put that big dick in me, I was attracted to him.
For most people, I think having sex changes the game completely, which is why it is usually a mistake to have sex too soon in a relationship.
And I DO understand that is an easy thing to suggest and a most difficult thing to resist. 😀😀😀
I’ve been attracted to both of my ltr partners. After the relationships ended, not so much. And that’s not an insult to them in any means, it’s just matter of being frank.
i dated someone that i was not really attracted to, i dated them for the experience, because i didn't want to have the mental stigma attached to me, that i was single throughout all of my 20s, i didn't want to end up as a 30 or 40 year old virgin.
And did you feel any attraction develop as you spent more time together?
i would say a little bit, you could also say, my urge, desire, for the mental and emotional aspect, companionship part of a relationship, was stronger than the urge for the physical part, i feel that had a major effect that made me lower my standards
I've become attracted to women that I didn't initially find attractive. But I haven't dated any of them.
All I know and learned is as you get older, looks don’t matter as much. That you want someone with a good personality.
No attraction. None developed, but..., ended up with them.
Why?
Good question.
I still don't know.
Not really. I feel very uncomfortable forcing myself to go out with a guy I don’t find physically attractive. It just feels uneasy for some reason, like I’m lying to myself.
I voted E, with my ex didn't find him attractive but it changed with time. We were together for almost 3 years, for other guys I dated for short time only developted SOME
I’ve dated someone one time that wasn’t my type. I tried to give him time so I could adjust, but it was a no go.
Yes, I doesn't happen too often and when it does it is a weird but pleasant surprise. I know that one woman did things to seduce me and it worked. Other times the woman changed over time and I got to know them a little more
No offense, but at your age that's going to be pretty common unless you can pull in young women
No offense taken. You probably cannot imagine looking at a 65 year old woman and thinking that she is attractive. I understand because I felt the same way when I was your age. When I got older, the younger women still looked hot, but some of those older women looked hot, too! It's a subjective reaction and if you are like most guys, when you are 65 years old, you will look at older women and feel attracted to them.
Sounds about right.
It happened with most guys I liked. At first I didn't feel any attraction, but when I got to know more about them and notice certain qualities they became more attractive in my eyes.