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Everything was going great with me and my boyfriend, Saturday night he was originally supposed to stay the night until work called and said he had a shift. He left and texted me minutes after. Next morning I noticed something in my room went missing. I accused him of stealing without even thinking... (I have had people in the past steal from me before). Just a text saying "I would appreciate it if you gave it back or told me where you left it"... with a confused response and then he ignored me for rest of day. Turns out it was my mother who took the item not him.

I felt bad about accusing him, it probably hurt him and when I told my best friend he said he probably was mad at me and feels distrusted by me. I don't blame him for feeling that way, I gave him some space. Earlier I finally got him to talk. Sending a long apology text saying how wrong I was and what I should have done explaining I have trust issues (previous relationship was abusive; he knew this at the beginning of the relationship) and that I will try to work on trusting him as he hasn't done anything wrong. But his response was "I'm the opposite, I never trust again." and it led to him saying "you doubted your trust in me and if there's no trust there's nothing there". He also said I didn't do anything for him to not trust me but it's the fact I question his own trust... he never actually said "I'm breaking up with you" but all the texts seem to point in that direction.

Correct me if I'm wrong but trust is earned, not given. I feel like he's not being fair and over-reacting. But when one of our friends talked to him (she said to him that she hoped we would work things out) he actually said "yea I hope so, I just want her to trust me"...